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Maybe they’re meant to be together?

I feel hurt after my cousin secretly started talking to a guy I confided in her about then tried to gaslight me about it and really started struggling with my mental health… I haven’t really dated in my 20s and he was my first real emotional connection.. I really wanted to be with him and we did talk and go out.. he ultimately ended up rejecting me and he just treated me like I was nothing.. I felt really depressed and I found out he was also attracted to trans women.. I have a trans cousin I was close with and I talked to her about it and showed her his @ twitter to see if he there were signs I missed… I just knew something was up awhile after and it sent me to pieces.. like just feeling betrayed and rejected.. I feel small.. and I feel like when I try to talk about it I’m dismissed and they’re encouraged..

I talked to my therapist and she says “is it so bad if they were together?” Or other people saying “so, let them fall in love”

So it’s just been a blow to my self worth entirely and right now I just kind of started doing Onlyfans and other stuff to feel somewhat good about myself and not think about never being chosen by any man.. and wanting to get work done.

I’ve been emotionally committed to a guy for almost 3 years, I don’t think he ever emotionally committed to me though. We went on a 4 dates when we first met & never slept together. He’s stayed in touch with me on FaceTime through a deployment & him moving across the country. Emotionally were closer than ever, we talk for hours multiple days a week, but he recently told me he doesn’t want a LDR so I told him I’d move & he didn’t say anything about it. I know he’ll continue to call & share with me like I’m his girlfriend, but he isn’t moving this forward or willing to try.

I really love him so I don’t want to cut him out, but I don’t see another option except saying “Unless you’re ready to commit or give me real space in your life, please don’t call me”.

I’m looking for a man’s perspective, please give me advice or say what you think I should do.

@LaFemmeFatale_1 asked me something about my love life earlier… and it actually stuck with me and made me think…

I’ve known someone for a long time. He’s intelligent, funny, has depth… but opening up has always been a slower process for him. It’s something that unfolds over time…. Like a really long time. We started out as just friends and then we decided to try something more…

And then there’s someone I met more recently…

We could barely communicate at first because of the language barrier lol, but somehow we kept gravitating back to each other… laughing, losing track of what we were doing like it just flowed naturally. I actually posted about him some months ago and you guys were sharing with me how you’ve dated someone who spoke another language primarily.

What stood out to me though… was the effort. And even emotionally… he didn’t rush it, but he didn’t avoid it either.

He told me:

“De nada, con gusto… es bueno saber un poco y te diré poco a poco.” (I’ll tell you more little by little.) …And he did.

He’s also the guy I was talking about when I posted about going on a date.. and asking you guys whats a good first date… anyway..

That made me question something… because I feel like we tend to assume history means more.

But what if someone new is showing you more intention?

So what matters more to you in the end?