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It’s been a year and I can’t seem to get over the hurt he caused.. I feel hopeless and I feel that I’m at risk for losing everything I worked hard for including my teaching license because I can’t get my mental health together that is revolving around him. I hate him.

I went on a date with a guy that ended up only wanting something casual after I expressed to him that I didn’t want that and he made it seem like he wanted something more.. and it hurt because of how he made me feel initially.

then I found out he’s possibly bisexual and has an attraction to trans women and that caused more anger on top of him disrespecting and disregarding me. It’s like I was nothing… he lied, manipulated and then insulted me in the end.

he doesn’t fully understand the pain he caused by being a selfish liar.. and then to know I’m a hurt or wounded individual and he really played on that. It’s sick

So I was kicked out of a group for exposing a man and people felt that I was “bitter” and called me “crazy” for speaking my truth on this man. It was a very invalidating experience.

Let me be clear on why I’m exposing him…

1. He did not respect my boundaries when it came to having sex and ended trying to use manipulation. I made it clear to him before we exchanged numbers that I wasn’t in a space to have sex or be in a relationship. He kind of wanted to know why etc and he wasn’t pushy.. but he said things he felt I NEEDED to hear… and at first I’m thinking wow maybe he is genuine and understanding. Looking back it was hard to see his “coercive behavior…” to get what he wanted and wanted to gain my trust. Even saying how can I make you feel safe

2. Subtle changes in behavior after telling him that I wanted to take things slow with him and gaslighting.. I did end up liking him and when I said that… that’s when it started taking hours for him to respond and then it went to days… only to get a “sorry really busy”…. But it kept happening and I confronted him and he tried to say that I needed to “heal”….. but it was strange behavior coming from a man who was trying to make me feel “safe” initially…

3. Disrespect… (devalue/discard) everything was cool on the date at first but then he became disrespectful and rude… he started asking when I last had sex, dildos, negging behavior and some insults.

4. Not being honest about his real name even on the date.. I asked him if “Craig” was his real name and he said yes… I get you want to protect yourself but he really did not want to tell me his name and seemed annoyed when I asked. It was very fishy

5. After the “date” i tried finding a “gf”…. Bc i felt like he was talking to someone.. he has no social media presence and keeps things private

6. He is possibly bisexual or closeted based on some things I found