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When I was 23 I got pregnant with my past boyfriend at the time. We both wanted a baby so we tried for one then I ended up pregnant. His parents were supported and his friends were supportive too. I announced my pregnancy to his friends and he congratulated us. Me and him were still living with our parents at the time. I was planning on living at his parents house after the baby was born. We both had part time jobs. But my mom found out I was pregnant and was very pissed and not supportive at all and made me have an abortion because I wasn’t ready for a baby yet. She thought that it wasn’t the right time because I wasn’t settled and I only had a part time job and he did too. I ended up having the abortion when I wanted the baby and he did too and my ex boyfriend was mad I gotten the abortion. there isn’t a day where I don’t think about it and see how my life would be like as a mother at that time. But I know other girls that gotten pregnant while still living with their parents and their parents were very supportive. Could me being autistic be the reason my mom made me have an abortion? Should I have kept the baby and moved in with my ex bf’s parents house because I was adult who can make decisions? Some people think that I should have kept the baby and moved in with his parents because I’m an adult and should have not listened to my mom! What do you think about this?

I can this with honesty:

I wish my parents would've been divorced long ago. It was terrible having to witness their violent episodes happening probably once a month or once every two months. Personally if my husband ever laid a hand on me once that would be over for me. Even once is too much for me. That's not all. At some point in 2012, supposedly my mother said my father went on explaining how she was never the love of his life but that he was always in love with his ex girlfriend. She pretty much dislikes him by now and their marriage is a farce; a mockery of what genuine commitment, love and respect is suppose to be about.

As of now, every single hang-out they go out to and even their so called ''40th wedding anniversary'' (that was on March 27th) is a facade, all for appearances. So basically growing up, I've seen a chaotic, unloving and dysfunctional marriage with episodes of violence. My parents would cover it up by going out more often and celebrating Christmas, etc.

Tell me what's worse to you:

What I've lived though my life; parents are together but it's a total facade of a marriage, a dysfunctional one

Divorced parents with joint custody and separation of assets