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I was in an intense relationship that lasted 4 months. Ending up meeting parents. I am crazy about this girl. She broke up with me, we broke up amicably. Then I rang her to try again and convince her that we should be together and she was very dismissive and low key insulting me saying I didn’t make her feel special, didn’t gift her (when I did), I kept saying sorry and that I can do more despite really doing enough. Then I told her not to contact me and removed her off of Instagram.

Anyway. Broke up. It’s been almost 2 months and I reached out just saying hi how are things. No like emotional essays or anything like that. I never begged her.

Is there anything wrong with that? She might not reply. I guess I wanted to see if there was any hope. If she doesn’t reply well at least there’s additional closure but I guess I will feel sad like I left with my pride.
But then again, is pride all that? Does it matter, losing some pride for a girl you like and then disappearing?

I think the answer is a very clear "no" but I have a bias. I am aware of two women who cheated on me, but I have never cheated on anyone. I know how much those experiences hurt me and I can't fathom how someone can love me but, at the same time, inflict such immense pain. The first time it happened, she confessed to me and told me that she loved me. The second time, there was no confession and I only learned about it later, when we were in the process of a divorce. But at the time she was cheating, she was still claiming to love me.

My best guess is that what those women called "love" was not the same thing that I call love. Both of them were somewhat self-centered and I have guessed that their version of love was based upon loving the way that I treated them but not really loving me. I will never know that those two women felt, so I am asking this question in general.

Can someone cheat on their partner while also loving their partner? If so, is it the same love that non-cheaters feel in a relationship. When you answer, you can answer anonymously, but please do indicate whether you have ever cheated or been the victim of cheating, or both.

We travel in our vehicles for work. The other day I got in a medium dangerous car accident and my vehicle became inoperable. I sent a picture of my vehicle to my boss and said that I won't be able to work today.

He showed concern and then immediately asked if I could work the weekend, at all. I didn't take it any type of way and said that I doubt I would be able to work the weekend. I probably won't have my vehicle for Saturday, and I needed Sunday off anyway. He doesn't respond to my text message.

45 minutes later he sends a long email to the entire team about how we signed up to work weekends and we all need to suck it up and work weekends because it's not really doable to expect both days off.

Naturally, I got a bit defensive and I told him I'm not trying to have the weekend off, I'm literally sitting in the mechanics right now trying to get my vehicle back. I don't appreciate the email about not wanting to work.

He acted a bit confused and then told me that the email wasn't about me and was about my other teammates. I find it hard to believe that I'm not lumped in there or that my situation didn't trigger this email, but I actually do believe him after he explains it to me.

Here's the thing though. He acted like I was crazy for thinking that at all and was gaslighting me that it's ridiculous I thought it was about me. He basically dismissed me and my response and told me I need to chill out and acted like I was creating something out of nowhere. Like he essentially said "You're being a little B.. t. ch and creating drama out of nowhere so F how you feel because you took it the wrong way" w/out fully saying that.

I felt myself get hot because I could feel the passive aggression and him twisting the conversation so that it seemed like I was crazy. We got into it back and forth for a bit and then I said I'm not carrying this on further.

Who is in the wrong? Can you not see my point of view that I would think that? Did my boss gaslight me or is this all on me?