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IMAGINE THIS SCENARIO: You and a boy have always been more than friends.. a quiet understanding, late-night talks, little gestures that blur the line. He finally says it outright and proposes something real. You care about him, but you’re not sure, so you ask for time.

That same week he goes out, drinks too much, and dials you. Your phone is already engaged with a call from another guy.. your best friend, nothing romantic, but it’s a long vent-session you don’t want to cut off. (Your guy) calls again. And again (10+ times). You see his name flash, your stomach knots, and you let it ring out because you’re not ready to face his voice right then.

He switches to text: IG, WhatsApp, short messages that get more urgent. You read them, guilt prickling, but you don’t answer. Confused and irritated, you block him everywhere like shutting a door to buy a minute of quiet.

Later the day you felt the guilt is louder than the fear. You unblock just enough to call. It rings, once, twice, and then voicemail. You wait for his call back... nothing comes.

The next day you hover over the unblock button. Part of you wants to explain: “I was on another call, I panicked.” Part of you freezes.. what if he leaves me on read? What if he says he’s done, that he’s moved on? That dread sits heavy, stealing sleep. You replay his silence, wonder if he’s already talking to someone else, feel the shame of your own avoidance.

"5 months have passed" (You were still waiting to fix) & beneath it all, another question: maybe you’re not just scared, maybe you really do need time and space to understand what you want before you try to fix what you broke.

I’ve known this guy since high school lets call him Eric so basically he is tall very stylish very hygienic abit chubby and facially I would give him a 2-3/10 anyways at school and college thé girls would avoid him and never talk to him unless they needed to they would always giggle when he’s not there they liked some of his outfits but they didn’t say it to him they just got there male friends to ask where he got the clothes because the girls were too grossed out and scared to even talk to him, he could throw hands too and one of the popular girls boyfriends started a fight with him and obviously the girls boyfriend lost the fight then the next day all the girls were giving him dirty looks and then throwing paper balls at him even teachers make rude remarks to him about how he looks

Many men are afraid to approach girls they don’t know, and women almost never do it; it’s very rare. I used to be scared too but in high school I had a social environment, so I could easily meet girls by finding common ground in classes, and since I was good looking and successful, it was easy. In fact, most of the time, they were the ones who came to talk to me.

When I went to university for engineering, the number of girls decreased a lot. I stayed without a girlfriend for a long time. I got tired of this situation, so one day I approached a random girl I liked in the library, found an excuse to start talking, gave her a compliment, and got her Instagram. While doing this, I was so stressed my hand was shaking when I gave her my phone. But I succeeded it felt like I had unlocked a new skill in flirting.

I’m curious can you cold approach? And are you comfortable doing it?

I think for most people, skydiving creates less stress than cold approaching.

I’m too scared to go up and talk to a pretty girl. I also think it’s a bit of a wrong thing to do, approach random girls. I tend to go to work and weekends recover at home as I work hard. I don’t know where to meet girls.

I’m not sure what to do. With my friends we only tend to play badminton.

Also what if she’s taken. Isn’t that awkward?