Guys, Is it normal for Teenage brothers to like their Sisters and hug them a lot / spend time with them a lot?

[Amii_Hex]

I guess I should emphasize if it is normal to like their sisters THIS MUCH. im just very confused about like, why he likes me so much. I know that might sound weird but lemme explain my logic

So i have many friends who have brothers, younger or older, and like, they pretty much all hate each other, or are just regularly indiffirent. Dont really do stuff together, have separate friend groups. Growing up i saw a lot of my girl friends fight with their younger brothers, and like, im talking brutal fighting like john wick would be scared. But even the ones who are okay with each other like, they still dont really wanna spend much time together, and if they have to do something for each other its always an annoyance, which i completly understand. Frankly, i expect that to be like that with my brother too, but it isn't.

My brother ever since i can remember has always been super interested in hanging out with me, and has been hugging me an absolute ton. Like im talking long long hugs multiple times a day and just telling me he is happy that he has me as his sister and just being very loving. I genuinely can't remember the last time he got mad at me or talked back. If i need anything, he would drop an open heart surgery to instantly help me / do it for me. He buys me little gifts here and there which are super thoughtful so not just random stuff. Like yesterday when i washed my hair he asked if i want him to comb it for me, which he knows i love because its such a hassle to do it alone because my hair is out of control when wet, and he sat there combing my hair for 20 minutes and then massaging my shoulders for another almost 40 while i just yapped. And its not like he was just tuning out my girl talk or forcing himself, he was actively listening and replying. Like what 16 year old guy wants to sit and listen to a girl yap about girl things for almost an hour

I know literally no one else who has a brother that acts like this, and its just confusing me. Is this normal?

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Thanks guys for the answers. Im still not sure what makes it worth it for him to spend so much time on me but at least i got some interesting opinions on the subject from you all ^^

[John_Cobretti]

This should be the new NORMAL.

Might sound dumb but I believe media indoctrination plays a role in making it normal for brother and sister to act like they are sworn enemies and think it's cool to do so.

This is how every brother should treat their little sis.

[Amii_Hex]

hahaha well its not just media, its kinda the norm all the brothers of my girl friends are setting, so id say damn them for indoctrinating everyone >:((((((((

For real tho thanks for the opinion, interesting to see someoen give full support to this while someone else thinks its weird. I was curious if the answers will all lean in one direction, but they are very mixed

[John_Cobretti]

True. Like it's said in the book:
"And behold, the big brother shall be unto his little sister as a rock and a shield, offering unto her the treasures of his kindness, and providing guidance with the wisdom of Solomon, for it is written, 'Thou shalt pamper and protect thy sister, for she is a precious jewel in the eyes of the Lord.'"

(I made that myself)

[Amii_Hex]

is that from the bible?

[John_Cobretti]

No no , I just made it up myself ))

[Amii_Hex]

well hey, im not gonna disagree with someone saying i should get pampered ^^ i mean... i kinda am getting pampered like that, and thats what is confusing me

[John_Cobretti]

I think this should be a compliment to him. He's too good to be real that you're getting confused ))
There's nothing to be confused here, he's just being an ideal big brother.. every little sis deserves to be pampered and spoilt.

[Amii_Hex]

well gee thank you haha... its funny that sentence sounds selfish as hell from my perespective but at the same time... iiiiii dont hate the idea of that ^^

[Cutegirl06]

He has never been inappropriate with you right? It does sound strange but maybe he just really loves you! I'm the oldest I have a younger brother. I hug him a lot and tell him I love him and I'm always here for him if he needs someone to talk with. We do fight sometimes but just typical brother/sister stuff. I have to admit it is a little strange as I never heard of a brother who wants to do his sisters hair and listen to her girl talk. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt that he just really loves you as his sister and nothing else. I know girls who make their brothers do their hair for them most brothers have no interest in that sort of thing. If there is nothing between you like I said he just loves you !

[Amii_Hex]

You mean inappropriate like being mean to me or trying to start a fight or something? Yeah, as said, literally never. Even when im just plain wrong he just agrees with me and lets me be right, and later i think back on it and im like oh wow i was just full on being stupid, but nope, he doesn't call it out, he just lets me be right.
Also the hair combing was just an example, there is plenty other stuff he does that i dont think i could bring any other guy to do for me without him loosing his mind from annoyed. Like a diffirent example, i like to wear my hair in a braid. Its a pretty complex braid, similiar to katniss from hunger games, takes a while to do. Well one day he was just like hey want me to help you braid your hair, and he just did the thing perfectly, and im like how do you know how to do this, and he is like i always see you do it and it seems like a hassle so i learned how to do this braid from youtube tutorials so i can help you with it, and he happily sits there for like 10 minutes and braids my hair. Again, amazing for me because its so much work off of my hands with it, beautiful braid, none of the work. And i dont have to ask him either, he just offers it. 0 complaining or anything either. Just says he is happy to help

[MrZameer]

Some brothers and sisters are super close and love each others a lot,
I think there's nothing wrong or surprising at all
You should be happy and proud on having such an lovely caring brother.
only thing weird is that he hug you a lot, which I think isn't good for a brother to do with her sister, maybe it's normal there to hug sisters.
anyway there's not a worrying sign at all

[MrZameer]

by the way why are you so much thinking about it?
I mean what do you think about it?

[Amii_Hex]

Well some of my friends from both school and my badminton club mentioned it, and just in general when im at their houses or around their brothers and i see how much they argue and how they all behave. As i said i know literally no one who has a brother that acts even slightly close to the way mine does. Im not unhappy about it just very confused. Because lowkey, im not even that much of a great sister compared to all the things he does for me, so its just like... where is this comming from

[MrZameer]

are you just 2 siblings? Or have any other

[MrZameer]

He is older than you, right?

[Amii_Hex]

yep just us 2. Also to reply to your other comment to save space, i turned 15 in December, he is 16

[MrZameer]

The only thing I find weird is he hugs you so much and so long.
which he shouldn't allowed to do,

[Wise4myage]

Good question, I wish I could give you a more informed answer.😊

[Abbycado]

“I know literally no one else who has a brother that acts like this”

You answered your own question.

[Amii_Hex]

im not sure i know what you mean. Are you saying yes its weird or no its not weird?

[MrZameer]

Abby I still thinks that some brothers and sisters might be so close and loving each others like just best friends,

[Abbycado]

This is physical, which is weird to the point her brother takes it. It is not normal where I come from.

@Amii_Hex what I’m saying is that if you literally know no other brother and sister that do it, then how could it be normal?

[MrZameer]

Abby, yeah you are right, physical involvement is weird and not acceptable.
I mentioned it in my answer as well.

[Amii_Hex]

@MrZameer i mean, the hugging itself is actually the thing that i find least weird. Its mostly the ammount of time he is willing to waste on me that confused me. Like the hugging confused me because the other siblings i know hate each other like oil and water but the hugging itself is not a problem or anything in my opinion, very standard, just surprised at its quantity

[Wise4myage]

I have a sister and we hang out a lot, so that’s not unusual and sometimes we do argue. However, hugging you that often and giving you massages seems weird to me. If he makes you feel uncomfortable than say something.

[Amii_Hex]

No no it doesn't really make me feel uncomfortable at all, it just feels... like undeserved or unprompted. Like if he hugged me after i do something nice for him, id maybe get it, but he just does it all the time like he is rewarding me for literally just existing. I just like, dont understand what i do to deserve it, when all my other friends and their brothers are constantly at each others necks

[Wise4myage]

I understand where you’re coming from, but it seems he is way overdoing it. Have you asked him why he hugs you so often?

[Amii_Hex]

Well indirectly, kinda jokingly like "you know im not dying or anything right?" as in like, im not leaving, or other jokes like that, but he mostly just replies back with a joke like "well you could get hit by a car tomorow so, dont wanna risk it" or stuff

[Wise4myage]

What other things does he do that you’ve not mentioned?

[Amii_Hex]

Well just like... i dunno just stuff. The kinda stuff i imagine a guy wouldn't wanna do. Like for example my mom gives me money so i can buy my own clothes choice, which is awesome, but also doesn't let me shop alone, because she is afraid someone will try to kidnapp me if im alone (she is worried about the imigrants in germany, her words not mine I don't know). Right so my brother goes with me. Again, i imagine this is something a guy would usually be like gooooood why do i have to do this, but nope, he happily goes with me and just runs around with me for 2 hours while i try on like 40 things and find 1 top in the 9th store that i decide is the one i want. Not a word of complaint, gives genuine opinion on the stuff i try on, not just a dismiss "yeah it all looks good" or something answer. I remember the one time i was shopping with my friend and her brother who had to be there because their dad ordered it, and he couldnt go 3 minutes without a HUUUURY UUUP or something and they would argue every 5 seconds like he would rather be at war than here. And yeah i was like "checks out". Never a word of complaint from mine tho, genuinely happy to be there. Its so confusing to me, again, not something i dislike or hate him for, just... confused. I want to understand it but every example i ever seen is oposite

[Wise4myage]

I think I’m this instance, he is just being an attentive brother.😊

[Wise4myage]

Maybe you are just overthinking this?

[Amii_Hex]

Yeah like i said im not mad or anything that he does it, it just really confuses me so i was hoping some of the guys would give me their opinion so i could see what they think from a guys perespective, because to me this seems like stuff a guy wouldn't wanna waste his time with. Like the braid thing too on a diffirent comment i answered, long story, he learned how to do a complicated braid from youtube tutorials so he can braid my hair for me the way i do it. Again, its just like, this is stuff i think we girls usually have to force guys to do. Or even the little things, like i come home from my badminton club training and he is in the middle of an online game with his friends right? The second i enter the house he just instantly goes "sorry guys gotta go". And just stops the game and goes straight to me, hug welcome, and just asks me how my day was, wants to talk or listen, and asks me if i wanna do something. Like you were playing and hanging out with your friends, how is hanging out with me over them a preference, you know?

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, he’s do things a boyfriend would do. And that is weird.

[Amii_Hex]

I dont think so, i had a boyfriend for like 4 months before and he wouldn't do any of that lol

[Wise4myage]

You're welcome. :)

[Amii_Hex]

huh? sorry did i miss a new reply from you?

[Wise4myage]

No, I don't think so?

[Wise4myage]

I too left a reply on that other question.

[Amii_Hex]

ahh i get it

[Wise4myage]

Cool.😎

[MadhuriDixit]

Does he tease you ever?

[Amii_Hex]

No, literally never, can't think about a single time. And as i said even if im being straight up dumb like im claiming or insisting on something where im just being stupid, he will not argue with me, he will just let me "be right". And then when i think about it later and i realize like wow i was just being stupid as hell, he would be totally in the right to stand his ground or argue. But nope, just lets me be right with a smile instead, no complaining either

[MadhuriDixit]

Sweet..
No physical teasing either? Like tickling or play fighting?

[MadhuriDixit]

He's elder right?

[Amii_Hex]

Yeah i turned 15 in December and he is 16

[MadhuriDixit]

Is he bigger than you too, physically?

[Amii_Hex]

Yeah obviously lol im short as hell and he is like 184cm he got good 20+ cm on me

[MadhuriDixit]

Well isn;t it sweet to have a strong protective sweet big brother~

[Amii_Hex]

I mean it is absolutely, im just saying like... the pure ammount of time, and effort he invests into me is like crazy high and i see this literally nowhere else because all my friends and their brothers are either indifirent or just full on at war. I was just curious if its a common thing since i dont see it
Like in about 30 minutes we are leaving because he asked me if i wanna watch a movie and i thought like at home but no he is just taking me to the kino. I offered to pay for my ticket and stuff and he is like nah nah my treat i just want u to have a good time, like its sweet but im just surprised and confused that he wants to spend so much time with me, like my best friend has a brother who is 3 years older and i think he would rather enlist in military school than take her to the kino and pay for it as well

[MadhuriDixit]

Girl you are super super lucky! How I wished for a sweet big bro growing up!
My friends had grudges over their brothers too. Our school was so shocked when one of your classmates was killed by her drunk elder brother, brutally.
Take it from me, sis... having great men in our lives is a blessing.🥹

[MadhuriDixit]

My* Classmate (Female)

[Amii_Hex]

oh god that is horrible im sorry to hear that happened. You have any brothers but have a bad relationship with them or have none? Also sorry we are at the kino as im writing this so im gonna turn off my phone for about 2 hours so i will respond after that if you reply ^^

[theiona1]

Puberty is confusing for anyone tbh

[Amii_Hex]

u think this is a puberty thing?

[theiona1]

Could be

[Amii_Hex]

So why is it that puberty makes my brother be super nice to me and everyone elses brother be a huge dick to them haha

[theiona1]

Message me

[Amii_Hex]

sorry can't do that, im new here and you need "xper" to message someone so i dont know

[theiona1]

Im nearly at that level so I will soon

[Amii_Hex]

i mean if you wanna tell me something you can just do it here lol

[theiona1]

Not personal

[Amii_Hex]

oh okay no problem ^^

[theiona1]

You need to follow Me. Then I can message

[Amii_Hex]

ok done, what now?

[theiona1]

Messaged u

[beefcakebradybatson]

In a brotherly/sisterly way, yes.

[Amii_Hex]

well its just confusing because all the other brothers of my friends dont act like this at all, im not accusing him of doing anything wrong, just confused at him prioritizing me so hard over anything

[Connie88]

Maybe how old is he?

[Amii_Hex]

i turned 15 in December he is 16

[Connie88]

It could be normal, then. My brother 9 years youngses then me. When he hit puberty my sister and I were in trouble.

[Amii_Hex]

haha why what happened?

[Connie88]

When he hit puberty every girl he had seen he hit on me and my sister before we smarten him up.

[Amii_Hex]

wait you guys are 9 years older than him and he hit on you? wtf lol

[Connie88]

When was 6 years. It was hormonal.

[In_Trance]

I guess