What should I do about it?
Is it really wrong for a 40 year old teacher to fancy a 16 year old or can it work?
What should I do about it?
I think you should do nothing about this.
Definitely do not hit on him. If he doesn't feel the way you think he does, this could be extremely humiliating for both of you and it could cause you problems at school because he might report you to the principal and your parents. Also, do not tell any other students what you are thinking. Again, if you are not correct, this could start some nasty rumors about you and about him that could ruin his career and affect your school career and university/job applications.
First, I think you should consider that he might not have a crush on you. I am a university teacher and I have spent a lot of time in classes as a student and with other teachers. I can tell you that teachers can like and respect students in a non-sexual way. If your teacher thinks you are smart, he might talk with you to encourage you or because he enjoys talking to another smart person. He might look at you because you remind him of someone he knows. Or you might think that he is looking at you more than he is. Or he might look at you because you are the only student paying enough attention to look at him! He might give you hints in class because he feels like you need encouragement or you are shy or whatever.
Anyway, just keep in mind that he might not like you in a sexual way.
If he does have a crush on you, he must realize that if he acted on his feelings, his career would be over, he would be humiliated in the papers, and he might be turned into the police. So it is unlikely that he would act on any feelings for you or that he would welcome your advances.
I am pretty sure you know that it would be a terrible idea for you to get into a relationship with this man. If he would get into a relationship with someone as young as you, then I think he would have to be an immature, selfish, and controlling person. A lot of the time, older guys who like to date very young girls do so because they can't deal with adult responsibilities and they want someone to control. My advice is, forget about this guy. It is normal to have fantasies, but focus on getting a boyfriend your own age.
Thanks so much- I think i;ve realised that's the answer I was looking for... You're right, I'm wrong. But thanks so much for the help!
I'm assuming everybody's legal, blah, blah, blah.
If you absolutely MUST do this, graduate first, and put a few years between yourself and your teach. Otherwise, this could be a career-killer for him.
Then, date as normal.
What's your grade point average? Not too high eh? C'mon! You know this is wrong, stupid and won't work. I hope he gets arrested.
Maybe you're right, but he shouldn't get arrested-he's just a normal guy and really nice. You'de talk to him on the street, you'de make friends with him. But people do generally have the same answer to big age gap relations and that is a NO NO!
You said he "fancies" you ... I assume that means he likes you and is interested in you. That is wrong.
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That's disgusting. This guy is gross and he has so many emotional and social issues.
Don't even think about it.
Are you kidding? I hope the police are on the way to your house as we speak. What the f*** is wrong with you.
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