Girls, if you had your final college exams coming up, would you stop talking to your boyfriend?

[coincn]

Me and my girlfriend both have our finals coming up, and we're both studying really hard at the moment. The difference is, I'm willing to spend 5 minutes of my study break to talk to her (we've talked for a total of about 1 hour in the past 7 days, so I'd naturally miss her) but she's not. in fact, she's not even texting me, which should only take about 10 seconds. so basically, in the past week, there's been a couple of days where she'd just ignore me entirely. Do any other of you college girls do this? (surely during a dinner break/toilet break/whatever break, she'd have time?)

ps: we don't go to the same college, thus we dun see each other much

[samhradh_leannan]

Personally, I'd definitely still talk to my boyfriend. In fact, I'd probably look to him for a certain amount of stress relief. But everyone handles stress differently. Some people get tunnel vision and they truly can't handle any type of distraction. If her lack of contact upsets you, ask her to help you find a compromise that both of you can live with. Maybe one quick conversation per day, or every other day. Or check in to celebrate after one of you finishes an assignment. Relationships require effort on both sides. It's okay if she doesn't have the energy to communicate as much as she normally would, but she should be willing to put in a little effort and meet you halfway.

[Epiphanies]

Bud, for the week of exams, I'm not talking to anyone especially my guy. In that period of time, the only thing existing in my life should be school. Because it's easier for guys to talk to us, put down the phone and forget about but for me to text you, is basically distracting me for an hour or two because I'll miss you and be thinking about you. It's hard to get into study-mode after that.

I know it's hard but try not to take it personally. Just start looking forward to the week after exam week :)

[an0namoose]

I don't know if I'd be okay with that. School is important and all, but ultimately if you are talking a long term relationship, you have to be able to work around each other. "I'm sorry honey, I'm not coming home this week. You're too much of a distraction. I'm going to check into a hotel." It's all about focus, time management, and not demanding too much time.

[coincn]

Well as of this moment, she's on Facebook talking to people and stuff (shows on my homepage), probably a study break. but she doesn't talk to me? mind you we havnt talked today yet. do you ignore ur guy during ur study break? :S

[Epiphanies]

Moose, I always prioritize school over relationships during exam week and if my guy doesn't understand that, we'd need to have a serious conversation. It's different from home life in the sense that exam week is usually an end-all. If I fail an exam, I am screwed for the rest of my life.

Coincn, there is something else up with that and it has nothing to do with school.

[Samantha07]

I'd wish i can stay away from texting my boyfriend during exams, but if he texts me , i will generally reply like its normal because I'm a last minute girl and even in the last minute if he does text me , i will reply, so i decide to keep the phone away from me altogether.
when the guy u love texts you during these times, his thoughts linger and because you are stressed , it feels easy to miss him and wish it wasn't exam time so that you dont have to get your head back in the game (although i do sorta feel bad when we dont text each other at least one exchange per day just to know how he is )

[vocalheiress]

um well it really just depends on the girl. Personally, I understand where she is coming from and when I'm under huge amounts of pressure I keep to myself and that's it. Just let her know that you are there for her and before you know it finals will be over and everything will return to normal. If it still bother you then subtly let her know how you felt when finals are over. =)

[rubysoho]

I would wait it out till after finals then see how she acts. Maybe she is just super stressed and doesn't want any distractions. Personally I would still talk to my boyfriend even if it was just a quick txt or email. If after finals she is still acting like that something is up.

[Anonymous]

The same thing is going on with me and my boyfriend I feel the same exact way about it. I haven't seen my boyfriend in 3 weeks and I talk to him about every other day. He works full time and goes to school full time.

[Anonymous]

I actually do. I get super stressed out and a bit panicky when it comes to finals and tend to focus exclusively on them. It doesn't mean I don't love or miss my bf, but school comes first.

[coincn]

Well as of this moment, she's on Facebook talking to people and stuff (shows on my homepage), probably a study break. but she doesn't talk to me? mind you we havnt talked today yet. do you ignore ur guy during ur study break? :S

[sweet18]

I would still talk to my boyfriend.