Is it wrong to aspire to be a housewife?

[Anonymous]

So in today's culture women are encouraged to get a good job and have a successful career. That's great, we are fortunate that many opportunities are available to us that weren't previously and I fully support women who are career focused. However my dream and all I've wanted really is to be a housewife, look after the home and my husband and raise the children. When I've told my friends this, they've often responded REALLY? Are you from the 19th century? So my question is this, am I wrong to want to be a housewife? Should all women strive for successful work careers?

[XRabbitHeartX]

You're not wrong and it's not for all women. You are not wrong for wanting to be a homemaker and I think there are guys who will be totally fine with it if they can financially support it. I personally want a career because I never, ever want to depend on a man for money. I've seen how some men use this to their advantage to manipulate (but then again, my dad is a asshole and not all men are like this). If that is what you truly want, then embrace it. There's beauty to dedicate your life to your kids. My mom was a housewife and it actually created a very close bond between us that I know I could never have if I have a job :( :(

[MaelaK]

No, I don't think you are wrong for wanting that, that's just a preference. Unless the reason why you do want to be a housewife is because of some negative things.
I had a friend who was not interested in having a career and I always thought that it was because of the harships she has been through throughout her life which led her to give up on career goals.

[BrittBratt2416]

There's nothing wrong with that, plenty of women are housewives. Plus if you wanted you can work from home while taking care of the kids or get job later as the kids grow up. I just feel like being traditional is looked down upon these days, if a woman want s to work that's fine if she wants to stay home and raise her kids that fine too.

[HorrorFan]

It's not wrong.

First off, there aren't enough jobs in existence to accommodate EVERY single man and woman that strive for successful work careers. If you can live comfortably off of your future husband's solo income, then by all means. The fact that typically both parents are all about work, work, work at all times has to be having some negative impact on how today's children are being raised.

You will be judged for it, though. Particularly by both feminists and men that don't want to feel like walking ATMs.

Plenty of conservative dudes will dig it, though.

[bbbb2]

I'd love to have a housewife. It's an instinctive desire of a man to want to protect and take care of the woman he loves. In the stone age it was men hunting food for his family, now it's men going to work and bringing money home.

If you trust your future husband enough, there's nothing wrong with letting him provide for you and your children.

[bbbb2]

Thank you for the MHO :)

[SirenDep]

You are not wrong. You want what you want and that's all. What makes people comment, is being dependent financially on someone else, and you taking care of all the chores. If you and your significant other are ok with that and nobody feels like he's being used, then it doesn't matter what others say.

[YaBaba]

It's not wrong if your partner is cool with it, you can be so.
But tbh take the role seriously; I have seen housewives who just completely loses themselves; as in become lazy; or works so much around the house that things get messy.

As in they focus too much cleaning the house, and less focused on their personal development/etc to be a role model for the kids in action rather than preaching, doesn't dress up, and so on.

[vishna]

I see this question a lot on here lately.
For your culture it might be weird, but it's still common for women to be housewives. But it's your life. And it's not that rare... Heck, most of the people from my highschool with babies are housewives ( or single working moms). Few working moms with working husbands. I dunno what that trend means. Short answer, no, do you and be happy :)

[Tron5678]

Nothing wrong with that. Just because you want to be a housewife doesn't make you less worthy of someone else is who is working. As long as your partner can support it financially and you take care of the daily household activities and the kids it's all cool.

[Anonymous]

This is why feminists suck. Its not about themselves its about the power of all women. They want to control the choices of other women because of their own insecurities about men. Truly secure women would accept your choice and be happy for you as their sister, but clearly that doesn't fit into their agenda

[mntkp]

No, you are not wrong for wanting this, but I'd rather be financially independent or at least save some money before becoming a housewife if I were you.

[Kitten967]

You can strive to be whatever you want to be. I want to be a housewife but I also want to work from home

[BellePepper]

No. It's your life. Do what you want. No one else can live your life for you so who cares what other people think.

[Azgeda]

Not wrong but you'd probably have to find a conservative man for that sorta arrangement eh?

[HeckYeah]

The question you must ask if you want to be financially dependent on your husband? Like if he dies or gets hurt badly, than your household income will stop flowing in.

[Anonymous]

No, of course not. It's your choice as a woman to do what you want with your life and when you can choose between the two and decide on being a housewife, that's great.

[ambertaylor]

If that's what will make you happy then there's nothing wrong at all

[Dog19]

Yes, that's what I'm doing. That's what my parents push on me. :3

[Anonymous]

2 sides of the same coin. You shouldn't be expected to work because you're a woman and you shouldn't be expected to be a housewife because you're a woman. Just do what you want

[i_am_your_god]

so I shouldn't be expected to work either just because I'm a man?

[NYkid27]

I don't think it's wrong at all but I think it's good to have other goals in life too

[Greek_God]

Its not wrong, its awesome! You are marriage material, while most of them are one night stand material.

[LastNightmare]

I wish my wife to be housewife and almost all from my place have wife at home. so no big deal for me.

[Anonymous]

It isn't wrong to want that. I want to be a househusband and take care of my girl and our house and kids too. I think it would be very enjoyable.

[ACrazyHaggis]

NO no as long as this is your choice with your free will then no there is nothing wring with it

[ILoveChicks]

You will not make any money and you will be living off your husband.