Coworker became distant after having sex! Need help?
I'm 24yo and there is a coworker of mine who is very hot (a 10 for sure) and she is 26, Russian and lives with her sister who is married to a much... Show More
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"She loves to test people, but I don't know how to respond to this one, so weird. She goes hot and cold with me at work, more cold than hot. I overheard her saying to someone that she stopped smoking, drinking coffee, and some other stuff that she cannot say..." (me?!) - 2 minutes ago
hmmm... sounds like she's trying to change who she is... that really sounds like a new years resolution now... lol
Well what I would do is keep being there. Just don't go out of your way for her. Take it easy and she will eventually come to you when she feels comfortable about it. AND STOP EAVESDROPING! that stuff only makes you paranoid! Trust me, I've been there! lol
(Is there a way to quote answer comments? I'm new at thisssss )
What Girls Said 1
Try summarizing this and
THEN repost it. and THEN I'll probably give you advice. lol.
What Guys Said 3
maybe tell her that you would love to take her on a romantic dinner and just leave it at that...let her know that the sex can wait till you're in a relationship.
just flat out tell her that she should let you spend the night sometime if that's all that you want.
to me it sounds like she wants a committment
New years resolution perhaps? lol
No, let's see...
She wants to keep you as a friend, that's cool, but what I don't understand is how she could turn 180 degrees the other way and totally avoid you like that? Maybe she is regretting what she did, but that's still not cool to keep you un-informed like that. The least she can do is tell you WHY she did that you know?
I would ask her for a private talk, only you two, and really ask her what's going on and what she wants to do about it and how you two can be cool with each other again if that is a possibility.
Who knows, she might be testing you a little? Just take it one step at a time. :)