Now in just my own personal life, all of these qualities of independence and being able to take care of myself would be great. BUT, I feel like they are also hurting me and any dating/relationships I get into. I can't seem to know how to feed a man's ego like some girls do, by letting the guy do things for them or keep telling him how awesome he is at everything. If I don't actually think that, it's hard for me to lie about it. I think it becomes a problem when a guy just "expects" me to do some things for him, or tries to make me do things, or when he thinks that he walks on water when I feel like I am way more accomplished (and trust me, I am very modest and would never say something like that to anyone in real life).
I would love to compromise, but I can't get myself to do something I don't like to do, even if it's something he would enjoy. I feel like every time a guy asks me to do something I don't like, I am going to explode. I guess I always imagined that if I find the right guy, we will just enjoy everything about each other and I won't need to change who I am to accommodate him. Am I living in some fairy tale imaginary world? lol.
So my question is - how can I become more... I guess submissive? And I don't mean become a complete slave, I just mean try to compromise and try new things with more excitement rather than frustration? How can I let go a bit of my independence and let the guy feel like the manly man once in a while?
I have always struggled with this, and I think it is really hurting my relationships, because I always feel like I want to "wear the pants" and be the person who knows how to handle anything lol. Any help much appreciated!
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