How do you lose feelings for a girl?

Let's start with the first part: You're ex cheated on you. That in itself would piss the sh! T out of me. So, think of it this way, by her having sex with you, that means she's cheating on whoever she's going out with at the time. Knowing this information, imagine how you felt when you found out that she cheated on you. (very hurtful huh? ) Well, the guy she's going out with will probably feel the same (and you're probably thinking who cares about the other guy? Right? ) Well, that's what SHE'S probably thinking too. Or else she wouldn't keep doing that to you or any other guy. I don't want to judge but I think she's pretty low for doing such things.

Now, about the stalking part: She's obviously playing games with you. She knows that no matter what you'll always want to be with her. Isn't that almost the equivalent of using you? Whenever she needs comfort she'll run to you or when things aren't right. Basically, she'll come to you in her own convenience. Don't give her that pleasure. To be honest (and sorry if I'm being too blunt) She's not worth it!

Go ahead feel all the jealousy you want. Sorry to burst your bubble but the only way you can actually not have feelings for her is to actually distant yourself from her. Or if you want keep calling her, keep wanting to go out with her. Do everything possible to be with her. Pour out your feelings to her.

(you might think I'm crazy but you'll see)

Usually friends with benefits, are when there are no feelings involved. Obviously there are feelings involved here, and that just means one or both of you are going to get your feelings hurt when you find out the other person is dating someone else. Seeing as you are not ready for another relationship, I don't think you should be seeing anyone at the moment, not until you have gotten over your ex. I don't think your ex is any good for you, she cheats on you, tells you about her other dates and then "stalks" you lol. You might not want her to have sex with anyone else, but she may do it while you're still seeing each other it obviously makes no difference to her, as she cheated on you before! The only way to get over someone is 'time' and as for her calling you and trying to find you in school, she obviously has feelings for you, but remember she gave you up when she cheated on you! It might not seem like it now, but in time you'll get over this girl, find someone else and until then just concentrate on having fun with your friends! Your next girlfriend will probably make you realize why it was a good idea to leave the cheating ex girlfriend! Good luck :)

You do need to disconnect from her. I know it will hurt, and suck, and be really hard. I've done it. But it's time to move on. You have to be strong here. There might be some other girl out there who is just perfect for you, but you're still clinging to a girl who will never be good for you. I'm not saying to jump into another relationship. You need time to heal, and learn, and find yourself again. Relationships, especially bad ones, tend to make you lose your sense of self. You need to be single for awhile and clear your head. Otherwise you might rebound and end up hurting yourself or some other girl. I know it will be lonely and hard. But eventually you'll be free of your really strong feelings for your ex. You will probably always care about her. But you'll be happier without her. Good luck :)

It actually sounds as though the two of you wouldn't mind still being together, since both of you seem to still have feelings for one another and become jealous when hearing one another's sexual stories. You could try honestly reevaluating why the two of you broke up. There is no easy solution to your problem. You either want to be with this woman or you don't. If you continue to keep her in your life, you are going to have to deal with the torment of hearing her sexual conquest stories. The only way to put an end to that is to totally get her out of your life or get back together with her! If the two of you want to be together, be together! If not, stop playing with fire and move on!