Is it wrong to get your partner to shape up physically ?

Question

Is it wrong to get your partner to shape up physically ?

I mean, if you are happy, that makes your partner happy which will make you even happier cause your partner is happy that you are happy and so the hence the happy cycle begins !

Rafael151 · Accepted Answer

I think people overlook another side to this. If everything you do causes you to gain say 10 pounds in 6 month to a year, then you develop a routine that will have you at +50 or +100 in 5 years. The system gets very accustomed to a certain rate of intake and exercise. With each year, the amount you need to lose becomes depressing, the feet and back hurt, the cholesterol and blood pressure are up and the work is harder and more hazardous. Then there is excess skin. So yeah, I like a woman who is in shape and can fit into some shorts. Call me shallow. But the way to do it is prevention. so waiting is bad. Not to mention that you feel better mentally when you work out. And when she asks if she looks good in this outfit, I won't have to hesitate. But you do have to be careful how you approach the subject. The same applies to the guys staying fit. Every bit of it. Insurance companies now penalize people who smoke and many of us probably don't squack. Watch for them to do the same with weight if they haven't started yet.

And did I mention that sex is good exercise?

GruffBalloon · Accepted Answer

not at all. when I first started dating this one girl I rubbed off on her and she started going to the gym ASAP.

But I do think its wrong to make her do it. if you want her to go shape up make sure its for health issues. because you should like your girlfriend no matter how she looks

S8tr1234 · Accepted Answer

i don't see anything wrong with it but some girls will find it offensive if you bring up the weight issue. if it's because you're worried about their health and think that having him/her shape up will help with that health issue then I'd bring it up lightly. you don't want the person feeling like they're inadequate because of their weight. and if you just want your partner to look sexy to satisfy you then that's just down right callous and petty.

you CANNOT expect someone to change for you. they have to want to do this for themselves. I mean it's cool if he or she asks you for say some work out tips or your support if they're already trying to get back into shape. but for you to raise the issue just to satisfy your own agenda? let's just say you better be glad you don't know me in real life as I would've already clobbered your head by now. :)

cheers!

wildd · Accepted Answer

I don't think its wrong - but that only depends on what are the intentions for that concern? Is it to just look good in bed or is it because they really care? If my guy told me that he wants to see me healthy or whatnot and would want me to shape up physically - I'd go for it because I would know I can trust him and that he really does care about how happy I am and that my health must really be at risk on some level for him to offer me a "shape-up" comment. But, if its because he's embarrassed to be seen with me because I am not "physically shaped-up" then I'll find it offensive and I'd be hurt.

In whole, no its not wrong to get your partner to shape up physically as long as you ease her into it properly and don't sound like a jerk and if its all for the good reasons (that you care about her health etc.)

RedRoan311 · Answer

Its fine if its a health issue to bring it up, but not if it's only because you want her to look sexier. Most girls won't be happy if you bring up their weight. My boyfriend and I are both very physically active (hiking, biking, swimming, running etc.) so it hasn't been a problem for us. We both know each other's weight and are very open about it. If either of us feels we're putting on weight we'll call the other and go somewhere.

If it's a health concern the talk to her nicely about it and maybe join a gym together and take up hiking, biking or something along those lines, maybe once a week together. This way your being supportive, and it'll be a funner way to work out.

NatalieChristine112 · Answer

If you're going to make love do it out of your affection towards her. I mean think about it, loving on your girlfriend out of wanting pleasure for yourself is not going to have equal rewards as to doing it for her, because you care about her. You want her to feel amazing- she’ll want you to feel that way too.

sheepingly · Answer

I put "it depends on the weight gain" only because I'm more concerned about their health factor.because its not about superficiality in the least bit but if I'm with a guy and it turns into something seriously long term that can be a potential for marriage and etc.and he gains up to an unhealthy wait he could die and I would miss him terribly =(

tolovewithoutyou · Answer

In theory, yes it is perfectly reasonable if they are overweight.

But in practice, I know I'd be deeply offended if my partner told me to shape up.

Your partner is meant to accept you as you are and love you for it, not make you aware of something you're probably already insecure about.

Though I might just be being sensitive.

LessthanLisa · Answer

If my partner were overweight to a point that would be considered really unhealthy, then I would encourage that he work out, but if he were just say, not having a model body? I'd let it go.

I'd be offended if a guy ever told me I needed to shape up.

aly-marie · Answer

Well I personally love exercising

It's not like I would tell my guy "I'd be happier if you'd work out", but it would definitely be nice to work out together or something. It just generally makes people feel better, physically and mentally.

ThatNikkiGirl · Answer

I think it matters about how mature/secure a woman is in herself and in how you ask her to shape up physically.  Also I think the guy should return the favor by working out as well.

islandcutie · Answer

firstly don't suggest for your partner to ever look better you should love him or her for who they are unless it is at an unhealthy size then you should be worried about them and talk to the doctor.

Airbubble · Answer

Its not wrong. but I wouldn't exactly go to my girlfriend (if I was a guy) and say hey shape up I'll be happy. If your going to want her to shape up, at least suggest doing it as a team and joining a gym together so that your not making it seem like you think she is fat and ugly.

Anonymous · Answer

I chose 'C' because I like my women with a nice bubble butt that's not too hard and has some jiggle in it. I hate women who look like walking skeletons. I prefer some weight but not grotesque as in the blob type women.

ivarei · Answer

i think it's fine to encourage him to take care of himself.

Anonymous · Answer

No way! Wanting your partner to be healthy is never wrong.

Is it wrong to get your partner to shape up physically ?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Is it wrong to get your partner to shape up physically ?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.