I want my own bedroom when I am married! How would you feel about this?

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I have decided that when I am married, I would like to have my own bedroom, and maybe even my own spare room/office to do whatever I'd like with as well! I have been living with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. I love him, I love sleeping next to him in our bedroom, and we don't really have any issues, but I think having my own space would give me a sense of freedom and relaxation. I would like to be able to express my individuality instead of sharing a bedroom. Does anyone else feel this way?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

yea I feel the same(so does my mom who's been married for 30 years) But I rarely hang out in my room so it's not a huge deal...and I like sharing a bed for the most part... I do have a weird sleeping schedule but I'm sure when I get older it would be more consistent and normal... I don't really move around a lot actually I find sharing a bed helps me sleep... but I am used to sleeping alone and so I feel like I prefer it but idk... oh also I am very particular about people touching my stuff, I would want another room just for my stuff for nobody to touch, but I can compromise I try not to be too stubborn and I try to be OK with change...

Andie002 · Accepted Answer

Separate bedrooms are pretty common in households today. Different sleeping patterns, schedules, and routines while waking up and going back to bed again. Couples don't want to disturb the other one schedules. Especially if one or other are lite sleepers etc. My grandparents had separate bedrooms for thirty years. They loved each other to pieces. Both just preferred to have their own rooms. I've even heard of separate houses, only because her hubby liked to buy, fix up, and flip houses 7x's. Go ahead create your own separate space. Your man might have his separate spaces also. Such as a den, man cave, work shop etc.

RositaV · Accepted Answer

Are you talking about the wife's walk in closet  and the husband's man cave?  Usually the wife's personal space is her walk in closet with a window and a comfy chair where she ideally sits to read, while the Husband has a room in the den with a flat screen tv, and a mini bar where he hangs out with his boys.  I will definitely have these rooms :)

sovetskii13 · Accepted Answer

As long as my wife and I can still sleep together in the same bed every night, then she can have her own personal room if she wants it. But I should be able to enter it if I want or need to. Meaning, I am not okay if it's a room that only she can enter. That just wouldn't be fair to me. But she can still have her private time in her room if she needs it; just not all the time.

sexyasianboi26 · Accepted Answer

Yup, same here.

I have a habit of turning, twisting, and rocking myself to sleep; so I don't think anyone would get any sleep if they sleep next to me lol. Not even my kitten who likes to snuggle next to me.

I'm sure the man you will marry someday, will understand you.

jaack · Answer

I think it's a bit weird to have separate bedroom, why don't you choose a special room only for you but not a bedroom - like an office, why not, or just a room with big puffy cushions and books and whatever you like and you go there when you want to relax

justbanANNAz · Answer

hmmm... I dunno, id love to share a room with my future husband... I get where your coming from tho, but I rekon when I'm older itll b the same room with our feminine and masculine things just all mixed up together lol=]

Izzy2102 · Answer

I feel the same way, sometimes being able to have some privat time during the day would be great. I don't think it's a bad thing or that he'll be upset if you explain it to him right.

Prof_Don · Answer

If you mean a "woman cave"...then I'm all for it.

But if I'm married, I'm a traditionalist in this regard. The hubby and sure sleep together in the same bed. If she consistently doesn't want to then I feel she has an intimacy problem .

irishelen · Answer

I wouldn't like to have my own bedroom, because I would love to be close to my husband as possible, but yes. I really want my own spare room/office. That would be heaven :)

HungryJones · Answer

You can have your own bedroom...but I get to turn the basement into a lair.

Anonymous · Answer

I get married to the love of my life and she just ends up being a female roommate that doesn't want to be near me. ha ha No thanks.

cavmanier · Answer

I don't have that desire, but wouldn't be bothered by it.

xzinax2 · Answer

do you plan on living in a mansion? that is too many rooms.

Anonymous · Answer

i don't think its a bad thing just try to find a good way to tell him.

Anonymous · Answer

Realitically, a small office space is more feasible than your own bedroom. You've gotta pay for all the rooms in your home... something Americans have been struggling with lately.

Anonymous · Answer

That seems unnecessary. Relationships requite compromise. Make the bedroom a place you BOTH want to go, something you BOTH like.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd want my own study room. But I enjoy sharing a bedroom.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't mind as long as we had the space for it and as long as you invited me over to your bed or came over to my bed most every night.

Anonymous · Answer

i wouldn't really care, I would accept it

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