I hear about people trying to get back with their EX every single day. I really wish it was an understatement but its true. so im here to state the (obvious) reasons as why you should not get back with your ex.
1. The trust has been shattered
Trust is of course an incredibly important thing in a relationship. It's difficult to construct from the beginning and is even more difficult to try to put back togethere once the trust has been broken. Do you really want to be in a relationship where the trust is now lacking and you’re never sure that your partner won't turn and run from you?
2. There is billions of other fish in the sea
This is probly one of the last things you want to hear just after a break up, but it is true. There is plenty of other fish in the sea. I know it might seem like the entire world has been trimmed down into it just being you and your EX. But the truth is that there are so many other people that you can create new stories with. And perhaps eventually go through a breakup with. And while it may seem daunting, to have to find someone with whom to start all over again and possibly end up crashing and burning like before, it also holds so much hope. There are uncharted paths of people with whom you don’t necessarily fight over everything, with whom things just click, with whom you can just be yourself and possibly not have to deal with a breakup of any kind. And even if you don’t meet the person of your dreams, at least you tried. You tried, and it didn’t involve sulking back to your ex for what you already know doesn’t work. There is so many potential lovers out there and they are increasing daily, in other words, there are more and more people for you to fall in love with, and its getting easier and easier to meet these new people. Please dont settle down with an ex cause you dont think there is someone else out there for you. Believe me, there is.
3. It ended for a reason
It's kinda easy to look back at a past relationship a few weeks after it has ended and see nothing but romance and perfection. You guys probly had some things worth smiling about, but you need to ignore that stuff to remember that it actually did end for a reason. It's easy to just look back at the good things that happened, but you need to push that stuff away no matter how mutch it might hurt to do so, and actually think of why it did end.
4. You're just attacked
The reality is that no one likes to be wrong. There's no one in this world who likes to feel like all the time and energy you invested in a relationship was just a waste. We all want to feel validated in the feelings we though we had for a certain person and that is hard to do when we are faced with the relationship being over. So many times our desire to take that ex back isn’t because we are really “in love” with them. It is simply our way of holding on to the hope that we didn’t get this wrong. That we didn’t just fight all this time to get and keep this relationship when in reality that person was never meant for us to begin with. Fear motivates us more then love most of the time and for the most of us. In some cases its just lust that reels us back in.
And last of all ladies and gentlemen; never bother to take a person back after things ended. You are only setting yourself up for you or them to leave again. Some people (most people actually) don’t realise what they had until its gone. But that doesn’t not always mean they are supposed to get it back. Your ex is an ex for a reason. Taking the time to truly understand those reasons will make it clearer if you should entertain getting back with the. Stop getting caught up in what you think you want and focus on what you really need. Regardless of what you decide to do forgiveness will still be needed. Because without forgiveness which allows for you to heal, your next significant other will simply become your next ex.