A break up or getting rejected hurts, that's a given. For the longest time it feels like part of you is missing, and you just don't want to live. I remember feeling completely despondent and a little like dying after each time(combination of break ups and rejections). But, I quickly bounced back. I did because I realized a few things:
1. You don't have to be friends, if it hurts too much.
2. In about 2-3 years, it won't matter.
3. You don't have to wait for her, she didn't wait for you.
4. People who chastise you for not wanting to be her friend don't know your circumstances, so who cares what they think?
I'll get into deets about the above later, you're anticipating the list. Here are some things you can do to take your mind of it:
1. Watch a movie
It can be from the store, on Netflix, or at the theatre. The reason I did it was because I get submerged in the plot of a film I thoroughly enjoy! If you lose yourself in the action, you won't think about her. You'll be so consumed by the plot, she won't cross your mind! However, you may not feel the same about cinema that I do. I did hear that new Star Wars flick was good!😉
2. Play video games
Nothing, NOTHING, is more satisfying than good video game. I always played through once, erased the data, and played again. I also played my favorite titles, tried new titles, and even played online games, like Happy Wheels(because it's f***ing hilarious). So, get out there, try new games, play old ones, play free online games, and for Christ's sake, try and have fun, you party pooper!😒
3. Take up recreational marksmanship
This one is more controversial, even more so for myself because I'm on the Autism Spectrum(what with Adam Lanza and all), but I didn't care then and I don't care now. Autism isn't correlated with violence(but that's not what this post is about). Being good(or trying to get better) at something, including marksmanship, is great for keeping your mind busy. And marksmanship doesn't have to be limited to guns. Bows, spears, throwing weapons, and pitching require accuracy. And yes, that zombie target is one I shot at(I don't think I did too bad).
4. Throw a party
My brother, before he joined the Marines, always threw parties. He didn't have a reason to, he just did and quite a few people showed up. I guess it was to reinforce their brotherhood or something, I dunno. But just get your bros together, pick a place to go(like Dave and Buster's or something), and just chill. You need camaraderie, not a girlfriend, not a new girlfriend, not right now.
5. Start a new hobby
Try painting a landscape. Model kits? Sure! Sculpting? Go ahead! Collecting? If you'd like! Whatever your heart desires.
6. Do something that triggers an adrenaline rush
Skydiving, rollercoasters, rock climbing, or whatever piques your interest, just do it. Remember, this is your time, do something crazy! This, of course, is appealing to those who aren't acrophobic or suffer from motion sickness.
7. Get some exercise
Exercise is supposed to help with depression. It'll give something good to look at in the mirror, and if you do it enough, you'll look physically attractive, when you decide to date again! Just remember to keep a stick nearby to get women off of you when you head over to your date!
8. Cook yourself a meal
It doesn't even have to be healthy and you can eat it in any order you choose(dessert then the meal, vice versa). It can even be anything you like!
Don't jump back into the dating pool, you're in no shape for that, yet. Just enjoy life while you can, you only live once (unless you believe in reincarnation)! That being said, get out there and enjoy yourself!