Ways to feel better after a break up.

When healing after a break up, sometimes we need a little extra lift to feel better. Whether your current concern is getting stuck in the details, feeling lonely, or you just want a quick pick me up, try reviewing this list for ways to get happy and feel good about yourself. Then, write down your favorites somewhere handy, so you can refer to it whenever you're in need of a feel-better tonic.

Eat Mood Food
You probably already know intuitively that certain foods make you feel better than others. But have you ever eaten anything specifically because you knew it would enable feel good feelings? Get happy by trying one (or a couple) of the suggestions on this break up foods list.

Listen To Music
A favorite topic among musicians, there are a great many songs specifically created to help others through a particularly bad loss. Create your own break up music soundtrack with these suggestions, using tunes that make you feel empowered, strong and liberated.

Watch a Movie
Whether you choose a comedy, teen, or break up movie, look for a feel good script that'll give you a lot of laughs.

A personal favorite, no matter what I'm unhappy with in my life, when I have a long, hot shower, I instantly feel better. A bath works equally as well for those who like to soak, or you could even visit the local pool to take a dip in the hot tub.

Are you a purist who'd rather use a piece of paper, or more techno-savvy and therefore enjoy online journaling? Either way, writing about whatever is bothering you is a fantastic way to feel better fast. Just make sure that your thoughts are kept private, so you don't have to censor yourself.

Go for a Walk
Its cheap, easy and anyone can do it pretty much anytime. Walking gets the blood coursing, and the brain working (sometimes more so, other times as a form of meditation). You could always go for a walk with a friend too and talk out whatever is on your mind, explore a new hiking trail, or find a labyrinth to walk for a more serene get happy experience.

Pick Up a Drum
Several major studies have found that drumming helps us to relax, process grief, feel good about ourselves, and even treat a wide variety of physical ailments. If you join a drumming circle you'll have a community of like-minded people to grow with and learn from as well.

Practice Breathing
When was the last time you thought about your breathing and how it fueled you? It can take mere seconds to sit with your breath, using techniques like conscious breathing or yoga's pranayama, but the get happy benefits will last a lifetime.

Do Yoga
Fantastic for flexibility, and a great mood-enhancer, yoga is an excellent tool in your feel better arsenal.

Decreasing stress, improving mood and bettering one's response to negative emotions are all benefits to meditation. Plus it can be done anywhere, and almost anytime, provided you have a couple of uninterrupted minutes.

Learn or Practice Karate
As a martial arts technique, karate is well suited as a feel good activity because of its multiple outcomes: it gets you moving, it helps with concentration, it fosters community, and it enables those learning it to better defend themselves.

Reframe Your Experience
Frequently the unhappiness we feel about a specific situation has more to do with how we look at a something than what's actually occurring. Try reframing your experience to find an almost instant mood boost, such as telling yourself the experience is a challenge and not a threat.

Call A Friend
Its hard not to feel good when you're out with friends or talking with someone on the phone, especially if they are the kind of person to make you laugh. And since several studies have shown that having and relying on a social support network can reduce one's risk towards depression,
picking up the phone can only help.

Play a Game
Games are an effective way to get your mind off your break up, and focused on relaxing and enjoying yourself again. And almost any game will do that engrosses you, such as card games, online games or even non-addictive games.

Say an Affirmation
A simple tool to use when needing to change your negative self-talk into positive, affirmations can be used anytime, anywhere, and have immediate impact. Just make sure to choose something that really resonates with you in order to receive the best feel good benefits.

Tap Yourself
A needle-free form of emotional acupuncture that has helped many people reduce their negative thoughts, emotions and memories to a point where they are no longer debilitating.

Clear Clutter
This get happy suggestion may take a bit more time than the others, but according to Feng Shui experts, clearing clutter is the first step in getting unstuck from your past and moving forward.

Have a Nap
Sometimes all we need is a bit of rest and relaxation to feel better. Going to bed an hour earlier or sleeping in will provide the same benefits.

Getting your hands in the earth and breathing in fresh air do wonders for many people in their attempt to feel better. Plus, you'll feel a sense of accomplishment by having grown something beautiful or edible.

Even the anticipation of laughter has shown to reduce stress in several studies, so just planning to watch a funny movie or see a comedian can do wonders for your mood.

Spend Time With Animals
If you have a cat or dog, studies have shown that pets reduce stress almost as well (if not better) than having a significant other. Don't have a pet? Then try volunteering at the local SPCA to walk some dogs, or offer to take care of a friend's animals while they are away to receive the same short-term get happy benefits.

Use Aromatherapy
There are aromatherapy suggestions for healing a broken heart, such as using lavender to calm one's nerves. But even something as simple and smelling a favorite perfume or baking cookies can elicit similar effects on your nervous system.


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What Girls Said 2

  • Terrific list, especially "clear the clutter." I think it boils down to clearing out the mess to make room for new interests, hobbies, etc., all of which you note. Great article! Thanks.

  • I think this article will really help me, I'm just feeling so down.


What Guys Said 1

  • Laughing & telling funny jokes makes much relief of myself . Playing touch footy and such.


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