My girlfriend spent the weekend with her ex, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

When we first met the ex boyfriend always lingered in the background, he constantly tried to contact her, she always told me how he mistreated her, and that she never wanted to see him again, It was a long weekend and I made special plans for us to spend together, when I tried to contact her that Friday to pick her up,her phone was off, I then called the house phone and her father answered,He told me that she's spending the whole weekend with her ex, I was completely destroyed inside, I really love this girl a lot, but I'm afraid I'm gonna lose her, I'm completely confused and have no idea what to think,or where to go from here,she is not answering any of my calls.

[NotSoBad]

Drop her an move on. She's treating you like garbage.

"It was a long weekend and I made special plans for us to spend together" < This is something a good boyfriend does.

"I tried to contact her that Friday to pick her up,her phone was off,I then called the house phone and her father answered,He told me that she's spending the whole weekend with her ex" < This is something a bad girlfriend does

"she is not answering any of my calls. " < another thing that a bad girlfriend does.

Trust me their is nothing wrong with you and something mentally wrong with her. There are plenty of girls out there that would really appreciate you making "special plans" This girl isn't worth the pain man. Move on and she will be the one who feels sorry. She probably may never show it, but she will feel the pain inside. Girls are great at covering those emotions up.

[Jarett]

I agree 100% with notsobad. It's time to move on. Obviously she has mixed emotions and doesn't know what she wants. The fact that she's with you, and she's choosing to hang out with her ex over you, is an instant deal breaker. You are being put on a back burner for her ex. I'm sorry because that really sucks, but it is over. But on the flip side, at least you know what kind of girl she is, and you don't have to waste another moment with her. You deserve someone better then her, and she can go back to her jerk boyfriend, because that's what she deserves.

[dani1092]

Well sounds like she may just be having mixed feelings, because usually when we tell our boyfriends "we don't like him like that " and spend time with them we're just trying to find out for ourselves and we try to make ourselves believe we don't like them while telling our boyfriends we don't. Sometimes mistreating a woman isn't enough to make us hate the guy, if you truly love her, let her come to you when she's ready to let you know what's going on, if you trust her enough let her be friends with her ex, and just hope that you're not loosing her. And if you do, just hope you guys can be friends in the end. (not saying that will happen but you know IF it did).

[Lesae]

Because she is with her ex and is a coward for not telling you. Would you really want her back now after she spent the weekend with him? No, you don't so go out and have fun and don't give her another second of your time. I know its easier said than done but, you gotta do it. She made her choice. Walk away with your head up. If she calls you, then don't answer. Have someone answer your phone and tell her you are gone with your ex on a long date.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm Well this is not good. It seems that she is still interested in her ex. Now if she told you that she never wanted to see her ex again, but went to spend the whole weekend with him, that tells me that they are prob going to get back together. Since she hasn't been answering any of your calls I would stop calling her. Take her number out of your phone and if she calls you just end it. This girl is not worth the time.

[INVU17]

Men are so rash! Don't just dump her for this calm down. She will not spend the whole weekend with him and she will call you. She just needs to sort things out. It is hard for guys to get this but when a girl is talking to an ex it is 90% not getting back together. Just give her some time and if it ends up that is not the case then she is not worth anything. And I know how hard it is to get over someone you love but it will work out in the end. Don't worry breath ; )