I've heard all the stories about how it can either fix your relationship or prepare you for the next one, but i'm simply hoping to come out stronger from this, and for both of us to be certain of what we both want.
I was curious about how those who have gone through this, and how it affected their relationship and whether it was worth it or not. Or do you think you were dragging things out?
- It fixed our relationship/We got back togetherVote A
- It caused more pain by dragging things out longer than necessaryVote B
- It allowed me more time to think and i didn't want him/her back in the endVote C
- OtherVote D
Most Helpful Guy
If you’re talking of No Contact as the fastest way to heal, get over someone, move on, forget about them and find someone new, you’re right. Yes, it’s very powerful especially for those people who after breaking up acted “so crazy” that their ex thought they might be clinically insane (and may not want them back anyway), or for extremely needy people who can’t resist the urge to contact an ex just to relieve their anxiety.
But if you mean No Contact as a strategy for getting an ex back, NC can lead to delusional thinking and clinging to the false hope of getting back with an ex. Assuming that because you are not contacting someone, that person is spending most of his/her time wondering what you are doing all the time or is missing you and wants to come back sounds more like an ego trip than anything. And while you’re wondering if you will ever hear or even see him/her again your ex might be pissed off that someone who claimed to love him/her so much can just get him/her out of their system so fast.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Personally , it doesn't work for me. Having no contact just teaches me to live without him. It helps me to grow stronger on my own.
Relationships are measured by the bad times, not the good. So communicating and having the ability to resolve issues is paramount to strengthen the bond , and keep the relationship together.
If i am in a relationship and we have issues , then i would want to fight to save the relationship. If two people don't fight to be together... when faced with problems , then that means there's nothing left worth fighting for. They both might as well end it there and then.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE