So i just entered the no contact phase after a 4 year relationship.
I've heard all the stories about how it can either fix your relationship or prepare you for the next one, but i'm simply hoping to come out stronger from this, and for both of us to be certain of what we both want.
I was curious about how those who have gone through this, and how it affected their relationship and whether it was worth it or not. Or do you think you were dragging things out?
- It fixed our relationship/We got back togetherVote A
- It caused more pain by dragging things out longer than necessaryVote B
- It allowed me more time to think and i didn't want him/her back in the endVote C
- OtherVote D
Most Helpful Guy
I wasn't going to be dragged along. You either choose me or lose me. I am not going to sit around and argue about who said what or how you felt. I am here to get to the root of the problem weather that be how I or you act... if you are unwilling to do so then bye.5
Most Helpful Girl
I think it can be very useful in trying to figure yourself out, it changes your life drastically when you go from talking to your SO everyday to not at all, so in that time I find that 1) either they will miss you or 2) you will realize you don't want to be with them anymore because you analyze your whole relationship, if you don't feel that way by the end then your feelings are still strong and it was clear that you both were on different pages long before your broke up. Which is confusing, personally I don't think there should be a 'rule' just do whatever you think its best for yourself and remain strong. x2