Would you cheat, have you cheated?
Would you cheat if you wouldn't get caught?
Anonymous POLL - so answer honestly!
- I am married and have not cheated.Vote A
- I am married and have cheated.Vote B
- I am married and would cheat if I would not get caught.Vote C
- I am not married but in a relationship and have not cheated.Vote D
- I am not married but in a relationship and have cheated.Vote E
However when I was in my lonely marriage I did go online looking for "sexy" chats with strangers to fill the void.
Also, when I was a "teenager" I cheated on a guy, but that doesn't count to me, lol.
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I've been married for over 15 years and have never cheated. I apparently have enough self-control that I can stifle feelings for other women when they inevitably arise, enough that I don't act on them so they don't create a problem. To me it's not a matter of "not getting caught" because I'm not doing it as an act for my partner's benefit. My intent is simply to follow the agreements I've made in good faith to the best of my abilities.
That said, I'm also apparently one of those rare humans who almost utterly lacks a sense of jealousy. For example if my wife were to wind up getting involved with another man, my main concern would be whether she was totally open about it with me or not. The actual idea of her having sex with somebody is more of a turn-on than anything so that's not a problem. To me, "cheating" means unilaterally breaking an agreement, hiding something significant from your partner, or not trusting your partner enough to have a calm discussion about any topic whatsoever, even if it's the idea of modifying an existing relationship's parameters to allow additional partners.
If either or both of us were to explicitly allow the other to broaden their sexuality beyond one partner, then I wouldn't consider it cheating. This is simply because there would be no deception and no manipulation / emotional pressure being applied -- just a negotiation between two emotionally-mature grown-ups. The actual sex is kind of irrelevant.7