I want to stop staring at her because most of the time she is with her boyfriend and it hurts looking at her but it's hard to stop. Whenever I look at her, she is hugging him or kissing him
She seems happy and that is great, really.
I want to not want to look at her, it hurts so much. I want to get over her
ps. I know that people say that you need to go out with friends and meet other people but it hasn't worked
Most Helpful Girl
I get that it's hard to simply 'move on' from someone you've got feelings for, and telling you to do so isn't very helpful.
One strategy I'd suggest is trying to concentrate on those little subconscious actions, like looking around specifically for her. Whenever you feel the impulse to do so, try specifically resisting it. Better yet, find something else to look at; maybe keep a small notebook just for doodling in to distract yourself, or closely study some detail of the room you're in. It might not solve everything at once, but it could be a good start.6
Most Helpful Guy
No. Dude, don't listen to what everyone else on here is telling you. Don't waste your time & energy by repeating to yourself "I don't like her anymore" or "she has a boyfriend and I will never have her". That's some bullshit that won't produce any realistic results. This is what you MUST DO :
1. Approach a single girl you're attracted to that you're pretty sure you can get, and begin flirting with her. Seriously; flirting only at first! This will warm her up to you and compel her to develop a crush on you. It will also determine whether there's any chemistry and compatibility between the two of you.
2. Make genuine overtures to this new girl. Do not approach her wanting her purely for helping you get over the girl you're in love with. As you develop a chemistry and rapport between each other you'll find yourself thinking more & more about her because you know this is a girl you can likely get.
3. If this process simply isn't working–either from still not making any progress in losing your feelings for the original girl or you can't find a new single girl who likes you in return–then your only recourse is to tell the original girl whom you're infatuated with about your intense feelings for her even though she has a boyfriend. You have to do this! It can only produce a desirable result. She'll either want to give you a chance or she will reject you; thus leading you to not like her anymore after she breaks your heart.2