So to make a long story short, I had a fling with this girl. We agreed it wouldn't be anything serious, just casual. It lasted three months or so. Anyways, the break up went down like this:
The girl claimed she wasn't interested in anything serious, but I told her I was developing some feelings for her. She told me she didn't feel anything towards me, so I told her we should stop seeing each other and cut contact. She got sad and angry and left.
For a short period of time, I felt like I was the dumpee and she was the dumper based on the fact that she rejected me saying she doesn't have feelings, but afterwards I sense that she's the dumpee too since I was the one who said we should stop seeing each other and she was the one who was obviously hurt by it. Well, I was hurt too, but you get what I mean.
So solve this mystery for me, please - Who's the dumper and who's the dumpee?
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I don't think you should dwell on who dumped whom too much. Is it that important to you?
It sounds like you were the dumper, based on what you said, but I'd say it was more mutual because she said she doesn't feel the same way you feel for her. I experienced something similar with my ex. He said he saw an "expiration date" for our relationship but didn't want to break up so I said it's better if we break up now if you see us breaking up in the future anyway. I'm not sure who dumped whom so I just say it was mutual because we agreed that that was the best thing to do at the time.