What's wrong with me? Seriously! I told him to move on. He tried to get back together and I said no, multiple times. But now Im jealous?

[Anonymous]

Why would I be jealous? I could have had him but I didn't want to be in a relationship. I'm having fun being single and enjoying flirting with other guys. I said no to him! So why does it bother me sooo much to see he actually did move on. We were together 3 years. I just didn't want to have a boyfriend anymore and wanted a taste of freedom. wtf is my problem?

[JustChris]

You're crazy and you realize you want him back. You're the type that doesn't realize what she has until it's gone and you regret your decision. Not trying to bash you or anything. That's just my analysis.

[Sabinath]

the truth hurts.

[Asker]

I really don't want him back because I just don't think it will work. I honestly believe he didn't know what he had. I broke up with him because he pushed me to it as well. I wanted a taste of freedom but only because the relationship was not fun the last few months.

[JustChris]

Ok so he did the same to you. You don't want him back because you don't think it'll work and you're right, if you believe it then that's how it will be. You feel jealous because you put a lot into the relationship and to have it just end after 3 years is heart breaking. You still have lingering feelings for him and still have an emotional attachment to him. He brought you to a breaking point in the relationship and you wanted an escape for a little bit and have fun but deep down it's not really what you wanted, you were forced to be this way because he drove you to be this way. You both just don't feel the same as you guys used to before and now that you guys are trying to see other people or whatever, makes it even more clear that you guys are distancing farther and farther away from each other.

[Asker]

Well said!

[JustChris]

Deep down you think it's his fault that drove the relationship to be this way and make you guys break up, and what you've experienced, you have every feeling to believe that. It's a shame it had to be that way and you feel jealous or emotions similar to that because you're still trying to cope with it all and that you're still somewhat emotionally attached to him which is normal. You really loved him and now it's just over. You don't know what to do with all of these emotions or how to really deal with it. That's why you still think about him from time to time and have some emotions towards him, which you think is jealousy.

[Asker]

How stupid would I sound if I said seeing him with someone else made me want him back?

[JustChris]

That is not stupid at all. You are attracted to him because you've had a relationship with him and the fact that he's now with someone makes you want him. You want him because he's not single if that makes sense.

[Aizou]

You had something, and now you don't. It's normal to feel this way about losing what we have.

[BellePepper]

Why don't you just block him and then you won't see him and it won't bother you?

[Asker]

I didn't block him. Unfortunately I still see stuff through his friends stuff. I guess I have to block them too. I just didn't want to seem rude to his friends

[BellePepper]

If that's what you need to move forward then for feel bad

[BellePepper]

*dont feel bad

Sorry I don't know what my autocorrect is on

[Sabinath]

You wanted him but you didn't realise you needed him. if that makes sense to you

[Asker]

Elaborate? Please

[Sabinath]

You guys broke up after 3 years I think. that's a long time and moving on is hard but you had fun being single with freedom and flirting. but the guy wanted to get back tougher and but you rejected him multiple times.

what I'm trying to say is that you didn't realise that you still feeling and love for him but you didn't think that would get in the way if he moved on. when he moved on, you realised that you still love and have feelings for him. that's why you miss him now.

[guyinalton]

lol frankly IMHO you have some maturing to do. if you live life you grow up. Also women do stupid stuff all the time and we have to pick up after you all but we do the same thing just differently.

[mike5150]

It's normal to feel this way if you have been with him for some time. The saying the grass is always greener definitely applies here.

[ThisDudeHere]

You're indicisive. Either way, only time heals stuff like this so get on with it.