I have had an on and off relationship with my ex girlfriend for 5 years now. The main reason we've broken up, was due to my being too selfish in the relationship, and I agree at the time I was.
However, I have worked on my selfishness and starting making other people and things more important than me, including my ex girlfriend.
I've told her that I want to get back together, but she continues to tell me that we're just friends and that's what she wants.
What confuses me about this is, she sends me a good morning, and good night text every day. She calls me at least twice a day as well, and we still hang out 4-5 times a week, and she's the one who usually initiates it.
If she doesn't want to get back together then why does she talk to me so much? Is there any chance that she's just wanting to see if the changes are real, before she's ready to commit back?
I really want to give us another chance, and I'm just confused by her actions.
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This is a weird situation. The only thing I can think of is, why buy the milk when you can get the cow for free? Meaning you guys are basically acting like a couple, hanging out, texting, talking- but she refuses to "commit" to you. I know its hard, and I'm sort of in the same situation with my ex, but you have to make a decision on whether you want to continue with this situation. It is going to , if not already has, put a severe emotional drain on you. Do you really want to live like thisday by day? I know you love her, but I don't think she is going to change her mind. I'd cut off ties with her and not answer her calls or hang out with her. Let her see what she is missing. The great thing about this is you are YOUNG. You will meet someone else eventually , someone who will treat you right. This girl is not.0