However, she for the past 3 months has been telling me she fells as if she "is in the wrong body" and that she "wants to be male"
This is a big problem for me, as I am 100% straight and have absolutely no intention of dating a male or even considering to date a male. I am not Bi either.
What should I do? She seems suicidal at times and breaking up with her may fuel this desire to commit. I don't want her to feel bad or feel as if she has lost everything either.
This is too much for my 14 year old self to handle, im in the relationship situation of a 20 year old.
What should I do? Break up with her? Or keep going?
Most Helpful Girl
Take her to counselling.
Not only would it stabilize her break downs and suicidal thoughts but it might also help her clear her mind whether she wants to be male or female.
A lot of people are unsure of their gender, and it switches from time to time, but transitioning costs lots of money and a lot of thinking - especially at a stage with lots of changes, puberty.
Share your thoughts with her during counselling. Tell her you love her, but you can't possibly date a male. Consider calling her "him/he" and see if he's more comfortable with it.
Respect her wishes as of now, and tell her how you truly feel about dating him if he's transitioning but be gentle.
Most Helpful Guy
Talk to her psychologist.
Have you told her that you can't handle to date a male, even when in love with said person?
In the last 2 years I saw a lot of confused girls changing from being sure to be gay to strait to bi to asexual to... some want to transition for a while as well and then not anymore.
Most of them revert to being hetero or bi (who knows if they really are) in the end.