My Indian boyfriend left me due to family pressure?

[OoSNAP]

Hi all! So I have been dating an indian boy for several months. Before winter break he had to see me all the time and texted me a ton. Things were great. He went home to see his family and came back incredibly moody. Things changed starkly. Cancelling plans. He never had time to see me. He's mentioned his family is quite traditional and that they want an arranged marriage. I took this as something way off in the future as I'm not sure I want to marry him or anything. We are young. His family was pressuring him a lot about school. I know this. I can't help but wonder if they brought up marriage too. As he became distant and inconsiderate and basically made me break up with him. I tried to tell him I wanted to be there for him but couldn't as I felt like I was a chore. Another thing on his list. He didn't say ANYTHING. I feel like I was just a weigh station for him. Just a stop. Out of curiosity or something. It hurts to be rejected for something I can't change. I can't change that I'm from the west. My family is mixed race so it didn't seem a big deal to me to date an Indian man. But I guess to him it is.

[SnapTsch]

He distanced because he didn't have the courage to break up.
But you werent planning to marry him, and his family wouldn't approve of you two just dating, so it was in the best interest for him and you to part ways.

[Ebinjose]

I assume its not probably due to family pressure. Every person fights for his love. May be some other issues. Is he hiding anything from you?

[boggboss]

Not to him but to his family it's fairly common

[OoSNAP]

Thank you for responding. I'm not sure I understand what do you mean?

[boggboss]

Sorry just read how that came off to his culture it's normal there is not really anything you can do

[andreasderjuengere]

Some cultures simply don't match.

[OoSNAP]

My grandpa is indian and my grandma is white. I just sort of thought people are people. And it was fine. My grandparents made it work as a mixed couple in the 1950s. I guess I was naive. I just wish he had not bothered asking me out.

[andreasderjuengere]

There are some rare exceptions; like your grandparents. People ARE people. But we are given those cultural patterns of behaviour and values that give each of us boundaries of what we can or will do. I am sure that your boy was sincere with you but met his family's (traditional?) limitations. His cold behaviour is rather the result of his inner conflict I think.