How would you feel if your ex returned all the gifts you bought them?

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GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

Luckily, with both cases, there weren't a bunch of things we gave each other. It was mostly I'd pay for food, or a movie ticket... occasionally some other things I won't go into. Nothing huge where I couldn't afford to spend the money. It was more about paying for an experience (movie, dinner, concert, arcade, etc) rather than something tangible (jewelry, clothes, etc).

I think that if it was a gift, I would not want them back. They're gifts. You give them hopefully without too many strings attached. A wedding ring might be one thing; that's kind of got it's own set of rules; I would probably want it back; I can maybe resell it or return it (depending on timetables).

Otherwise...

Germanium · Accepted Answer

Honestly, if she really had to get rid of me, I'd prefer her to give me the gifts I've given her rather than to throw them away.

What else she going to do with them? She obviously doesn't want to keep them. If I can't use them then hey, I got more mementos.

lumos · Accepted Answer

Annoyed. I gave them for a reason. If he didn't want them, I'd rather have him toss them out and not saying anything to me, than make a big number out of it by trying to return them.
99% of the time I think people who attempt to return gifts are just being petty and want to try to make a statement. Unless the gift is something like a family heirloom or something expensive, there's no point in you trying to return that dusty ass teddy bear someone got you 4 years ago.

HOAAH · Accepted Answer

I have never had an ex before but my sister dumped her ex because she had been cheating on him for a while. She didn't like him and only used him as a rebound. She only used him to take care of her son. Anyways, she had given him a "grill" as a gift when they were still together. When they broke up she dEMANDED him to give it back to her, and she called him a lot of names. She could care less to hurt his feelings because they were broken up anyways.

wallflowerchika · Accepted Answer

Depends if they are small items or pricey items.
Pricey items I would probably sell.

Small items, I would tell them to keep it or throw it away.

My ex kept all of the gifts I gave him. I threw away all of his gifts.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Nah i don't want them back. Don't use that excuse just to see me. Just don't.

ritxi · Answer

It depends on what she returned and why. I would be so pleasant if she didn't like any present and she returned them because they can be useful for me, but I wouldn't like if she did just for forgetting me. Anyway, if she had the plan of forgetting me, I prefer her to return my presents than throwing them away.

Anonymous · Answer

If I don't like the person anymore I would give them to a charity I don't want things that remind me of him.(hahah I never had a boyfriend to start with XD seriously I'm not even sad about it) If I liked the person I would save them for some time and then throw them. I'm the type that wants to forget sad memories even if they were with a loved one. What's the point of loving them after they stop loving you anyway, the love turns to hate.

Titus1 · Answer

What am I supposed to do with the gifts? Assuming that I gave her perfume, clothes, etc. I'll probably just throw them away since I have no use for them. She should keep them.

martyfellow · Answer

I’d feel that she was trying to ‘clean the slate’. I’d be fine with it.  Since it turned out she did not DESERVE them

vishna · Answer

I would feel better than if they threw them out. So, it would be mostly bitter but a little sweet. I'm someone who has had exes tell me they not only threw my gifts out but broke them.

Astoriana · Answer

Returned them to me? Meh. I got my one ex some pretty great gifts, that were intended for our life together. I wouldn't mind getting those cookbooks back.

NeglectedChild · Answer

I already have a toothbrush; I don't need another, especially a used one.

Letthingsflow · Answer

If i can return it and get my money back, cool. If not I'll sell them

Florancerose404 · Answer

I wouldn’t even bother going to the trouble of meeting him, I’d tell him to fuck off and to shove it up his arse for all I care.

LegateLanius · Answer

I never understood the need for that. You own it now. I don't want it back. I'd give them right back

Nephilim000 · Answer

I'd be ok. i might even be amused by such a petty move. but i do give some awesome gifts so it would be fine

JesseEllyson · Answer

I'd be fine with that. I'll take it all to Goodwill and donate it. I have no need for the memories and someone might be able to use them.

AstralProjection · Answer

I wouldn't want them back. But if they insisted and did return them, I guess I'd sell them on eBay or something.

Mattea_acker98 · Answer

A gift is a gift even if they don't want it any more. I'd rather they throw them away themselves then create the extra step of me doing it.

zjm142 · Answer

I wouldn't want them back I gave them to that person and I would be a little taken a back as to why they would do that in the first place

PrincessPie · Answer

I wouldn't want them back, as i wouldn't give the stuff they gave me back either.

Orangeblossom92 · Answer

I ´ll sell them or give them away , and the good thing is that i know they didn't throw them away , my money didn't go to waste

Thatblokeoverthere · Answer

She burnt all mine so not the right person to ask lol

DizzyDesii · Answer

Just hope they return it before the receipt expires. Thats money in my pocket

coolbreeze · Answer

I would sell them, save them in a box, or throw them away.

Riri214 · Answer

Sad at first, then angry, and finally happy. You can sell them, make💸💸💸

tigbaby22 · Answer

I would feel hurt. And I wouldn’t take them because I gave them to him or her.

Juxtapose · Answer

I'd just sell them on ebay and think that she was stupid not to do the same lol. If she wants to throw away perfectly good money then that's her prerogative.

r4ngeF · Answer

I dont think she will bring back her car, nor her vibrator.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I see the message behind. The return however, is pathetic

boggboss · Answer

That's a nice gesture probably help them 2 move on faster 2

Greaver · Answer

I would keep it in a box in the attic so when she comes for her shit I can throw it in her face as another girl is behind me watching

Anonymous · Answer

I have lot of small things that my ex gave me. Very silly things. I have memories and I don’t want to part. At the same time i don’t want to keep them because of the history. i dunno What to do. He threw the stuff i gave him.

pleasestopthis · Answer

That would be lame. I'd prefer if he just throws them away or gives them to someone else instead of giving them back to me.

Anonymous · Answer

I would happily take everything back. Some I can reuse, some I can give to a new girl, and others I can burn in my fireplace.

Pocahontas2000 · Answer

I know my exact reaction, I'd raise my left eyebrow in surprise, laugh and think "what a weirdo".

InTimoreDei · Answer

They were gonna return them but I said they could keep it or throw it out.

loveslongnails · Answer

Great, because I give expensive gifts and I can re-gift them to my next sweetheart or sell them on Ebay !!

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I was broke and all the gifts were useless shit. He could have just trashed them.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends which ex. Certain exes I couldn't give less of a fuck. One I would be really hurt.

cheese4u · Answer

Leave d gifts relation matters yeah attachment do remain wit people n gifts BT it feels shattering n fully BT u should b strong n keep it as memory or move on as u wish

Anonymous · Answer

That's fine, I can regift them to my next girlfriend. I've done that for my last 3 girlfriends.

Dxk007 · Answer

I'll sell them to scrap dealer if, they aren't helpful.

stingwild101 · Answer

Depends. If he was someone I really cared for I would have been pissed.

fredrick89 · Answer

Indifferent, I'll save them, and give them to new girlfriend

Genius-General-Soham · Answer

iwill feel bad but I won't accept it... I will throw in dustbin or else burn it...

Anonymous · Answer

Depends in the manner or attitude they give it back to me

Anonymous · Answer

I'd arrange for her to stop by when I'm banging a different girl. When she returns the lingerie I will hand it to my new girl right in front of her...

jafachris · Answer

Hurt but rich at the same time

WiggleWasser · Answer

Great! Now I can recycle them to the next girl!

shinjirai · Answer

"You deserves someone better, keep them..."

huggy · Answer

Does that include food?

amooor · Answer

I'll burn them when he gives it to me

fredstir · Answer

Will keep it dor someone els

Victor1212 · Answer

I will kick all the stuff

Anonymous · Answer

It wouldn’t feel good since they were gifts

Sugar_Tony · Answer

tell him cool

Prakbio · Answer

no feelings for ex ,

Anonymous · Answer

I would feel offended.

Kiran04 · Answer

Glad

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