Two ways to look at it.
First is that you are voluntarily introducing doubt into the relationship by spending time with other men. Trust is the single most important component of any relationship and doubt is corrosive. You can call them friends... but we all know how it goes. Feelings develop and friends become more... it happens all the time. Men and women are also scientifically more attracted to people who are "taken" simply because they see that other people esteem them high enough to be with... so don't be shocked when these "just friends" guys surprise you by making a move one of these days.
Another way to look at it which is also true is that your boyfriend is insecure, but you're not helping him much with that are you? He should be confident enough in himself and his own self-worth to trust you and to understand that if it doesn't work out with you there is someone better out there anyway. Should the worst come and you bail... his perspective should be, "oh well, your loss" but he's not that confident in himself.
So you could reassure him more and home he gets over his trust and self confidence issues (not likely)... don't cut off your "friends" completely but spend more time with your boyfriend and less time with your friends who are boys. If your preference is otherwise, maybe a breakup is for the best.
I think this is unfair of him, but if keeping him is really much more important than your guy friends (something only you can decide), maybe you can offer to him that you won't be friends with these guys anymore. I don't recommend this though.
I once had a new girlfriend insist that I give up all of my female friends (seven of them- and all had friendzoned me, so they were not even potential rivals to her), and although we were together for two years and I had a good time with her, I regret doing that and wish I had gotten a different girlfriend instead.
What even? Like first of all, there is nothing wrong with having a lot of guy friends. That's just how your circumstances came to be and that's it. Nothing else. And that the whole thing is purely platonic. (And omg, the advise that some guys have given on this question is like some next level shit. Not all, but a few.) And now, back to your boyfriend, tell him to god damn freaking grow up. Are you seeing anyone but him? No, right? He has no proof? None at all? Then why would he be thinking about it? If I had a boyfriend who had a lot of female friends then I would be like "okay". Cause we have something known as trust. Out of everyone he picked me. That's the logic that you ought to apply to him. Out of everyone you picked him. And be honest with him. Tell him that they are all friends and and even if they have expressed interest ( only if they have) then you've friend zoned them. He has to trust you. That's the only way relationships work.
I feel like it depends on how you interact with your frineds. There come a point in a relationship that even if you dont completely give up or abandon your friends of the opposite sex, your interactions with them are different because you are in a committed realtionship. like you dont need to be texting them opr hanging with them all the time necessarily because you have a boyfriend. but you dont have to give them up completely either. but thats just the nature of beingin and out of relationships. its called being mature and adjusting your life to the circumstances your in. I would just talk to your boyf both of you make some compromises set some ground rules and you should be golden
You have to pick one tbh... my boyfriend became my bestfriend before we started dating.. honestly when we were bestfriends I told him if we date other people we wouldn't be bestfriends anymore cuz it doesn't work that way. Your partner should be your bestfriend. Sis, I know it's hard But your male bestfriends should understand and try to put yourself in his shoes. What if he has too many female bestfriends? Wouldn't it hurt you if you guys argue, he'd run to them? Always try to look at the situation in your partner's point of view to know what he may be feeling.
‘Thinking’ he is trying to manipulate you doll! Telling him to go jump he doesn’t control you and you are allowed to be friends with whomever you choose. Your not doing anything wrong and do not let him make you feel otherwise.
If you do this early on in your life you are setting yourself up for a very scary relationship / a controlling g relationship that I can tell you, you won’t be happy in.
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He is jealous but he may see something you don't. Men can easily see another man's target and he may think he has competition and since you're friends he cannot lay his claim properly.
Again you may be OK for now but you may have another party that would work to undermine your relationship so he can take you from your current boyfriend.
Discuss it, gently find out what's the real motive. Assuming he is not dealing with some issue with feeling manly he may think your friends are a direct threat to him.
There is nothing wrong having a lot of guy friends.
But there is a possibility that he got jealous because of your actions towards your guy friends or they other way around. There should always be a limitation of your closeness to other guys, in my opinion, especially now that you're in a relationship. Your guy friends should respect that relationship.
If you assured him enough, he will not feel insecure about your relationship.
You can think it this way, how would you feel if your boyfriend has a lot of girl friends? Think of it thoroughly. It's your choice.
I'm afraid I'm afraid that your your boyfriend leaving you is not the main issue at hand because I believe that you having so many guy friends there is a route to that problem that is way beyond your boyfriend leaving you I believe you are constantly seeking affection or affirmation or constantly seeking approval from males if that be the case then you shouldn't be with anyone. Because you're constantly meeting that attention so ultimately you have to decide whether you need the attention from several men or if you love that man that you're with and can live with only his attention do you want to be noticed or either for notoriety please feel free to hit me back I would really love to know what you thought of my reaction
He knows that any male friends you have at that age likely want more than that. At that age most of my female friends I wanted to bone. He knows how guys think. He knows if given the opportunity they would pounce. He probably is insecure about that. You both have a lot of mental developing to do. You shouldn't worry about it too much. Focus on school, friends, and having fun.
Having a lot of male friends may not be the issues it is most likely interactions he may have an issue with? Have you asked him if any particular friend or situation has made him feel uncomfortable? If not and it's just because you have a lot of guy friends then he must have some deep set jealousy issues that he either has to work through or he isn't worth your time.
Well that sounds to me like your garbage is about to take itself out to the dumpster for you.
Don't date men that get jealous of your male friends.
That is an insecure man and he can't do you right until he goes off and deals with his own shit. You may as well move on.
there' solutions but you need to talk with him as to what/why/how.
In essence, you need to build and maintain trust. He should always be with you, when you communicate you prioritize him and lift him up. you are no longer physical and chummy with those guys and you protect your boyfriend's feelings and honor any wounds he has so as to ensure he feels safe in relationship.
That's just stupid. He should learn to trust you more and not be easily jealous. My suggestion is that you address this as soon as possible, before it becomes a bigger problem. Trust me, it's a slippery slope and it won't take long before he forbids you from talking to any males.
I mean if this is something that bothers him you should try to make an effort and don't talk to as many guys. Not every guy needs to be your friend. If he gives you a chance prove you're willing to change if he doesn't care to give you another chance move on you're just wasting your time.
Talk to your boyfriend, help him understand that they are just friends. I'm guessing he is jealous because he really likes you, which is great. Tell him how much he means to you. Boys are often insecure with girls, hence the jealousy. Communication is key to your problem. Wish you all the best.
My best friend is a girl and has been since I was 4. One of my other female friends has been there for me since elementary school. I have had girls I dated pull that threat on me. It is simple. I am not ditching lifelong friends for anyone, especially someone who is trying to manipulate me.
Some guys see a girl with many guy friends as attention-seeking, and therefore a risk to getting cheated on. Your best bet is to tell him those are your friends, but that's all they'll ever be. Tell him you chose him and only care for him. If he's still a tool about it then dump him, he's trying to change you and not learning to appreciate you
The only thing that helps is proper communication, if you feel something that bugs you in a relationship you should probably talk to the person that is the best advice I can give you. And talking to him would introduce to other things as well that might or may not be truer, certain misconceptions and misunderstandings can be cleared as well🙂.
I hope this helps, have a lovely day.
Well have you talked to him about it, have you asked h8m why he us uncomfortable? To be honest most men tend to avoid girls with tons of guy friends because they see them as competition. Additionally are you spending more time with them than him? If so that's another issue.
You're being selfish and disrespecting him. I'm sure he has brought it up to you at least once, but you have ignored his concerns. So now he has determined that you are not a good girlfriend because you don't care about his feelings and you only care about yourself.
Well if he is so shallow that he can't believe guys can't be friends with girls and vice versa. Then you probably wouldn't want to be serious with him. He obviously has thought about having sex with other girls and maybe has even cheated on you already.
Let him know how much you love him. He probably he's some self confidence issues so compare him to them from time to time over some incidents to show him how better he is than them. I know its below the belt for your friends but it ould boost his self confodence.
He's showing you his true colors
If he cannot trust you with your platonic guy friends than he does not love you.
P. S., past betrayals should never be used as an execuse for mistrust with a new relationship.
You're 13... he doesn't matter. Don't worry about relationships by the way. You have a whole life ahead of you to worry about guys I promise. He doesn't sound worth it anyways so you shouldn't care if he wants to be with you or not
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