Should I break up with my boyfriend? please I need help?

[Anonymous]

I don’t have anyone to talk to about this, that is why I’m asking it on here. I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years. He is really busy with work and family. I do not get a lot of attention from him because he is always doing something. We are both 18 almost 19. I have talked to him about this before, 3 times to be exact. It hurts me when I can’t see him and he only lives 6 minutes away from me. It feels like he is not putting in the time for me, but I understand he can’t because he is busy. We see each other about 6 hours a week. We wouldn’t hangout as late anymore or have a whole day where it’s just me and him. He says he is putting in a lot of effort but he is overwhelmed. I’m trying my best to be the best girlfriend out there. Ordering him food, making him for and dropping it off at his work. Do spa days for him and making him feel relaxed. He takes me out for dinners sometimes. He is an amazing guy, very sweet and patient. It just feels like his life is too busy for a relationship. Please help me. What should I do?

[Bethany22]

At your young age, you should be dating numerous guys at the same time (as long as you're not having sex with them, then that's okay). It sounds like he's certainly giving you enough free time to spend with other men, so you should take the opportunity to do so. If after dating numerous other men, he's still the better guy, or that he realizes he needs to put more time in in order to still keep you, then you know he's worth it. And I recommend going out with guys that are set in their careers, and who have had the time to show their wild oats, and who are therefore ready to take a girlfriend seriously.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t feel like his life is too busy, it is too busy, this is just a fact that either both of you or just you don’t want to accept. I’m guessing you guys were in high school when you got together, and sometimes reality checks you hard after graduation. Adult life and those responsibilities start kicking in, preferences change as you experience different things and unfortunately sometimes the relationship that worked at one point in your life won’t work in another. I’m all for fighting for your relationship but I’m much more inclined to advise you be realistic about this and ask yourselves if a relationship is genuinely doable for him at this juncture in his life. It is a hard conversation because you know it can lead to a breakup but that doesn’t make it less necessary.

[DonFredoCorleone]

Are you chatgpt?

[Opinion Owner]

Ooh, does that mean my answer looks professional?

[Anonymous]

There are times in people's lives when there is too much going on to focus on their girlfriend or boyfriend. Sounds like this is one for him and it's not like he's playing games or amusing himself. Just busy.

You need to decide if he's worth the wait. Life may change for him and yourself or it may remain the same for some time. Are you prepared to wait it out, or do you need someone with more time now that you can build with.

Noone is necessarily in the wrong here.

[Revolutioner_83]

do you want a satisfying relationship or this guy. Choose one

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, the classic tale of love and time - it's as old as romance itself! Let's get down to the nitty-gritty, lovebird style. You've hit a crossroad where the heart tugs in one direction, but reality seems to pull in another. It's like being stuck in a romantic comedy, but without the popcorn and predictable plot twist. 🍿

You've done the talk, not once, but thrice! That's what we call the magic number in relationship coach land. It's clear you're putting in the A+ effort – spa days, food? Can I get an invite? Just kidding! 😜

Here's the spicy advice: Relationships are a two-player game where both need to be investing time, not just love-coins. Your guy seems sweet, patient, and all the good stuff, but if he’s too busy to make time, that's a red flag fluttering in the love breeze.

Before you think about breaking up, consider one last heart-to-heart. Lay your cards on the table. Explain your feelings without making him the villain. It's not about blaming; it's about understanding each other's needs.

If things don’t change, remember, being young and in love is wonderful, but it's also about growing together. If your paths are diverging, it might be time to explore new adventures, separately. Remember, it’s not just about finding the right person, but also about being the right person. And sometimes, love is about letting go.

So, take a deep breath, tune into your heart’s frequency, and make the choice that sings to your soul. 💖

[DonFredoCorleone]

Yes, leave, but I don't think you should leave.

[Asker]

Okay, what do you think I should do?

[Asker]

I’m open for anything

[DonFredoCorleone]

Your boyfriend will be angry if I tell you that you should break up with him.

[Asker]

Haha, I see what you mean