Basically my girlfriend and I split 3 weeks ago, very sad, lots of crying, her saying she "wasn't ready" for a long term thing and she wanted to be young (she's 21). As it then turns out through mutual friends and me still being "friends" with her sisters on FB I have seen she's sleeping around a fair bit. At least 2 guys that I know of and probably more. The very idea of it is just killing me, we were so happy and she wasn't ready for a big serious relationship then fair enough, but the idea of her with these guys is shreading me apart. I can't sleep at night, I'm flitting between very angry and just 100% sad. She was always playfull in bed and yes I get she's doing nothing "wrong"... but seriously. My beautiful girl who I shared all those times with is now just out there getting as much d*** as possible... this is horrible, how the hell do I handle this?!
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Hey you. I hope this reaches you in good spirits. I understand that it would be upsetting for you to know and hear about this. The thing is, the more information you continue to compile, the worse you are going to feel. You really need to cut the lines of communcation with her family members, etc. I know this is not what you want to hear but it is a reality. You are holding on to her so you are holding onto the communication with the family. Although, the family may like you and you may like the family, while you are going through this, you are driving yourself crazy and it is just not beneficial to YOU. Often times, when people go through breakups, they search themselves for what they might have done wrong. You need to not do this. I'm sure we've all heard the line "Its not you, its me." And most of the time that line is false but in this case, it is absolutely true. I also noticed that you were between the age range of 30 to 35. Do you remember how you were at the age of 21? You were probably in college partying and drinking beer and making out with hot chicks in the closets at frat parties. Same goes for her. Keep it in the forefront of your mind that since she is only 21 years old, she is sowing her oats. And that is what she should do. I am not saying that she should sleep around. But she should be out meeting and enjoying the company of other people so that when she settles down, she can really SETTLE DOWN. Good luck, doll! Hope this helps.0