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There r no guarantees and there is always consequences to everything be upset the child see learn and become upset as an adult or bitter or whatever the way u behave will mold the child so if u want those traits there then it is up to u and maybe u can b happy maybe it's all grown or growing by then and has a complete opposite of everything u represent but then u cannot blame the father who never had an influence but maybe u can all I know is I remember this love ur kids and even if father is a sick that's how u feel keep it to u n the dad don't bad mouth or. Talk about the dad it hurts the dad ur fine if u hate him secretly or one on one with child absent. Things will b OK for u why was u allow anyone to ruin your day men suck sweetheart it's life
If you are not married then that will affect your ability to get Navy Benefits. You should try and discuss it with him 1st but if its a threat to tour baby and life don't talk to him, call the benefits office. You may have to find out who his commanding or head officer is. Making a baby and not taking care of it will not be tollerated. However if he says it's not his you have to go to navy doctors to get the DNA test. He is only responsible for the baby if you are not his wife but your child could get benefits. You have to think of tour baby so please surround yourself with other people that will pick your spirits up. Mah! mama.
Be upset with yourself for getting involved with a military man. The military is notorious for people cheating on both sides, and it's really a waste of time to try for something long term with one.
Now you get to steal a bunch of his military benefits for child support.
You can be upset but have no right to dump that on him. He's not your boyfriend and he's not your therapist. It sounds like you are just mad at the choices you made and want revenge on him. Revenge will not help your situation at all and just make you more miserable.
If he's an ex, you have zero right to be upset. You can be upset that he didn't stick around, you can be upset because he joined the navy, you can be upset you got pregnant, but you can't be upset now that he's an ex, that he has someone else.
If you complain to his work, I'm sure that this will not go well for you. Neither you nor they have any right to force him to be single. But this will flag you as a false reporter who is trying to get him in trouble when it isn't real.
Stop interfering with this man's work you have no right to be causing him drama at work. You need to work on your own self improvement to give your baby a good chance to develop. Do some meditation. Have coffee with your mum. Do yoga for pregnancy. Plan your future life as a single mum.
Your angry and hurt because he knocked you up, and now is not interested in you or the baby/pregnancy. Unless you both planned to get pregnant, then you took the risk not to protect yourself. Chances are good you will be on your own with the baby, and he will be living his life.
You have a right to do whatever you want, but understand that annoying him and ruining his career is the wrong thing to do.
Did he get you pregnant? If so, why didn't you get anfor abortion? Didn't he tell you he will have no place in the child's life?
Because abortion suckS
@Stop4Spock Oh, abortions suck? Tell that to every feminist ever.
u can count on that
You want to complain to his work that you might miscarry because you aren't in a relationship?
I can taste the overdramatization from here.
Hopefully your guy will leave you when you're pregnant then :) Beautiful karma
There's a line between being upset and being a drama queen.
Trying to interrupt someone's career is well over the line.
@Amandaå123 She's right though.
@Carefuloutthere Yeah "According to the book maybe" human nature doesn't work that way we all know that
Human nature is the only nature capable of defying itself.
I'm sorry but you don't own your exes. I know you have a unborn child but his only obligation is to it not you. Complaining to his work is completely inappropriate.
He should try and help you through the pregnancy progress with the medical stuff but he has no obligation to. He's your ex, not your partner.
You are being very, very selfish and unreasonable.
Obviously this was an unplanned pregnancy, and you have chosen to keep the baby. While he should be held responsible, it is unfair to expect him to quit his job, not date, and what? Stay with you?
You have NO business in trying to sabotage his work. That is disgusting behaviour.
You are not together. He's allowed to date.
This sounds like a man who is not interested in you or your child. I suggest you get paternity established and have a child support order enforced immediately once the child is born, and otherwise put the guy out of your life. Of course if he even cares about visitation, let him have it,
But YOU will do best if you quit worrying about him and you focus on your own well-being.
If it were me I'd be glad I was rid of him and make sure he has to pay child support. Was he really worth all the stress and hurt he put you through? Lesson to be learned - having a baby is not going to hold something together that was not there, such as a relationship.
Don't go after his career. He technically did not break any rules as far as I know. His only crime is neglect. You have every right to feel as you do, and to worry about your child's health.
First and foremost, please go to your doctor to see what their medical opinion is with your stress. Once you make sure you and your child are okay, focus on the two of you until you can make a decision with how to approach the father.
Remember that this child will discover a lot of secrets about your past. I wouldn't make this any messier than it needs to be. I would say only escalate it, in court, if he continues to ignore you. I'm sure his work will be notified if it goes to trial.
6 months pregnant with an ex from over a year ago... he owes you nothing except being a father to that child. Hopefully he's figured out what a condom is by now
You have the right to feel however you choose. If you drop a lightbulb you can feel It's the end of the world or not care at all. You can't blame him for you feeling a certain way about his actions since he didn't physically injure you. Your feelings are your choice. His actions are not. Your response to his actions, is.
That is so F***ed up, I would be upset... I remember a few years ago I saw this beautiful pregnant woman on this dating website before my current relationship, she was in the same position you were in.. I was very interested in dating her while she was pregnant in the hope she would like me and I could possible help raise her child as my own. She never responded back possibly because she may not have liked the fact that I was black and she was white. Hope things work out for you.
It's just one of those things... females can decide to abort a baby all on her own. Men don't have a choice in that and no choice in the financial stuff either. A sentence of 21 years of financial liability. Not saying he should've been smart enough to pull out... but look at him now.
I was also in the Navy and an ex tried to track me down for child support... She never learned my real name though.
Haw Haw ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Three letters; yes. Because your world was turn 180 degrees and he clearly isn't skipping a beat in he's life. So.. just for emotional balance, you might need to turn his dial. Even if it's for a few degrees. Men like to act like sex has nothing to do with babies. by the way I'm not saying you should mess up he's life. More like, don't hold back. I'd rather you don't bottom up feelings. Either repurposed the emotions into things that will make you feel better, or just turn the heat up on he's life too.
Well yes I think, he should realise his responsibility and how can he neglect his own child? He should take care of the one he made suffer. You have the right to be upset but now choose who's your priority, your baby or your ex. If baby then don't be upset and if ex then you're gonna give up on child as you'll be worried and stressed and sad etc.