Oh I can see what's happening here, I ended up being in the same situation. You can never be friends with an ex because at the end of the day at least one person will always want more, there is too much water under the bridge.
At the moment he is having his cake and eating it although it might not seem like it to you. If you stay in this situation you will end up in limbo and I promise you it is the worst place to be in. You will not go from being friends to lovers again because he already has what he wants. You will be giving him complete control, when he chooses to text you or see you he can always giving you that false hope and leading you into utter confusion.
It does say a lot him wanting to keep you near because he is obviously finding it hard to let you go. The best advice I can give you is to cut him off completely. It won't be easy but all the time your around he won't make any decision because he can just string you along, cut him off show him you can live without him. At the moment he is only thinking about himself and not taking into consideration your feelings
Give yourself some value back out of his life and stay strong with no contact. At the moment he knows he can have you back in a second. I'm not going to lie there will be times where you will want to ring him and text him and feel like that's it but just have faith if he really wants you he will come running and if its meant to be it will be. After all why would you want to be with someone who isn't sure of you. You don't want him back like he is now, you want him to realize he has made a big mistake and prove himself to you.
My ex broke up with me five and a half months ago, we were together for five and a half years, he also did the whole lets be friends, stringing me along, giving me false hope thing...little did I know a few months later he had started seeing another girl. I cut him off completely, its now been two months of me not being in contact, suddenly the texts started coming and now through talking to his friends and family he has apparantly came to the realisation that he has made an awful mistake and wishes he could turn back the clock and wants to try win me back. Now if this is the case he has a lot to prove but I am so happy I cut him off regardless of the end result because I feel so much stronger and like I can think straight now.
Remember you never know what you have got until its gone.
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I'm glad I found this page at this moment! It's Christmas Day and my ex suddenly texted me a Merry Christmas message and we texted for a while this morning. It was me who started a conversation after the Christmas greetings, because I still like him though we can never be together and I don't want to. And now at midnight he texted me again. Yeah obviously he just wants to keep me near as a friend without reason. Now I know that all I have to do is cut him off, completely. It's so hard, but I'll try!! Thank you!!
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