My boyfriend stole money from me... What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend quit his job maybe 5 months ago. He works from his twitter account so it wasn’t a big deal. However, recently this month we hit some speed bumps since we’re going on a trip for his birthday... Mostly paid by me. I’m doing so he’s been going to the gym everyday in the morning while I go to my full time job. I’ve been telling him to find a real job for when our lease is up since he quit, but he hasn’t been in a big hurry to do so. Finally this month comes around and he says he’s had some troubles saving money for rent. Now we’re struggling to pay our rent, since I have my own bills to pay... I pulled out $660 cash just to have for New York in case we went anywhere that needed cash. I told him I was going to give him a portion of it for spending money and the rest Would be for emergencies since I have my debit card. I put the cash in a shoebox that he knew it was in. Today when I went in there to check... I was missing a $20 nil. I recounted 6x’s same thing. The only reason I went in to check was because my brother (who lives with us) texted me that he was missing money that was on the table that you pass walking into the house... Me and my boyfriend also have a savings bottle that has money that I put in there for our NewYork trip... However, when I was going to check I noticed the money was gone out of there as well. His explanation was.. “I was going to put it back before we left...” ... SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!! I’m now looking at him a little bit different because that kind of breaks trust

[btbc92]

And THIS is why you do NOT play house with a BOYFRIEND. He is not your husband. He should have never had any access to your money unless you are MARRIED LEGALLY. NOW you have a serious case here, and unless you have evidence he stole it, it is a classic scenario of he said, she said. You are NOT responsible for him quitting his job. You are an adult. He is an adult. Unless you're getting married, stop acting like you are. He is a boyfriend. He is easily replaceable. And this is where you get rid of him, ASAP. You can bet your hard-earned money as long as you are SUPPLYING he ain't getting another job. Never shack up with dating partners.

[sejla]

Do not sign a new lease with him and hurry and find a place for yourself. There is something very odd going on with him. If he was anyone else and they took $600 from you you'd be calling the police. He didn't even explain what he did with the money did he? He should be selling some of his stuff before he "borrows" the money.

[broken_heart_at_48]

He's not the one for you get rid of him and have your brother whoop his ass. He'll never learn if someone doesn't teach him how to act right. He not only doesn't respect your, care about you, or even think much of you and he thinks your brothers a punk. He needs some schooling not to try and fix him and give him another chance because you lost your trust in him, your respect for him, and ultimately your love for him. Tell him to kick rocks and don't listen to his lies and begging and don't fall for his fake crying because he's going to put it on thick

[chriscdi]

stash your money somewhere else, at least until he gets a job, perhaps your car or somewhere he wouldn't think, id say like a family members house or something because there's always risks he will do it again, stash it somewhere else and tell him not to do it again, if he notices that its stashed somewhere else, you know he was most likely going to do it again.

[Asker]

Thankyou for your input!! I’ve already moved it!

[chriscdi]

cool 👍

[nikoluushkaa]

Hahaha I'm sorry that's not funny but someone who steals money is a thief. Someone who steals from their partner and their family? That's a raging piece of shot you got there. Good luck with that :(

[Asker]

Thankyou for the advice! And it’s crazy because he knows that’s 1 of my top pet peeves!!! Like I told him from day 1

[x태성인수x]

This is a minor thing. Best time to see who he is and how he reacts. 20$ isn't much in the long run. Especially if he said he was going to put it back before you guys left. The real important thing is " how did he lie about it "

If he's willing to lie about small things like that, then figure if that's worth working through. Maybe now's a good time to tell him that he needs to be more open and honest. Hope he finds a job though.

[jamesgoldman]

Ditch him... if he is refusing to provide was already an issue but theft is a definite nope.. okay this time it was $20 but next time it will be the whole $600 as he will think he can get away with it

[MannMitAntworten]

I'd be done. I couldn't be involved with someone like this.

[jonesin4u]

Confront him about it then find a better man

[DrHonesty]

Steal it back from him 🤷🏼‍♂️

[Shiver]

It's break-up time.

[Nik1hil]

Report him to cops

[Shamalien]

he is weak