At what age would a guy be considered an Incel if he is still a virgin?

[RyanEC]

This year I will be 30 years old and I am currently still a virgin.

I don’t really care about sex as an end goal.
I am more interested in finding love and a genuine connection with a girl I can share my life with.

I am not bitter or anything, I am just sad I haven’t found the right girl yet.

I have had options with girls over the years. Options from girls who liked me at school, at work, and some girls I met online.
But I never perused them because I didn’t feel a genuine connection to them.

[newblinds]

Well, I'll play devils avocado and consider you an incel, but not necessarily the murdering kind that people associate with that moniker.

You say you never have had a genuine connection with a girl and you are also 30 years old this year.

I'll make the case to say that means that you're involuntarily celibate, since you do, and have wanted to, find a mate during your many years alive and yet there seemingly are none. I don't count people who say they would sleep with you because you've never had any interest in them so they're not appropriate options.

You probably have a deeper issue my man, if you've gotten this far and been exposed to women and have never felt any connection to pursue. I don't believe that your "the one" is just waiting for you somewhere with the situation that you described.

[Tyler131]

Yeah, don't go around calling yourself an incel, they are not good people. I sympathize with them, but do not condone their hatred or violence (not all incels are like this but a lot are). It is sad being unwanted by women, but if they only would devote all that energy into improving themselves and actually getting help... they would become incel no more. I only sympathize with them because I too have to remind myself not to hate on women, I too have issues with women chooses guys who I would consider out of their league, and I too do not understand why women seem to be so picky whereas mean do not. You, are an exception because you have chosen to choose your mating partner wisely.

[ciitruskiwi]

I don't think age as anything to do with it. Incel means involuntary celibate. So as long as you are a virgin by choice then you aren't an incel

[Bandit74]

As long as you have the opportunity to have sex but are choosing not to I don't think you fit the definition of an incel. That being said, incel is becoming a more popular insult that people use to try to get under guy's skin so it's totally possible that someone could call you that during an altercation/disagree even if it's not a fair description of you.

[ImagineSketchy]

Never. If he doesn't make it seem as though it's someone else's fault he's a virgin then he isn't an incel. Incels are essentially narcissistic or sociopathic. They make it seem as though the problem isn't them when it is clearly them.

[green1supremacy]

Bro you are golden man. Don't worry about what people say at all about your shit! Find that woman and give her your goal. Props to you.

[RyanEC]

Thanks.

[Avicenna]

It's a judgement call, but I would not consider you one.

[Drumlin2001]

Sounds like you're not i involuntarily celibate. You're making a lifestyle choice to wait for something you fund meaningful. I hope you get what you want

[Dchrls78104]

From one virgin to another, consider this: Virginity is never having had sex. Incel ( the movement) is a mindset. The two are not the same.

[Gsm24diecast]

Who cares? Virgin or not a virgin, your a person. Some people can’t have sex due to medical issues like my self, I don’t care about any of it, just live your life.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You being a virgin at 30 doesn't make you a incel. A incel is a dude who can't get girls to have sex with or date him at all regardless of his age.

[MannySimms]

You've wasted enough time, right?

[alice55]

To what I heard it's 30 years old

[RyanEC]

I gotta hurry then.

[Meatunnel69]

Id call you a vocel

[RyanEC]

What is that?

[Meatunnel69]

Voluntarily celibate

[Anonymous]

Probably 40, because of that movie.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't use that word in this case