My husband went drinking last night, he came home without his wedding ring, Should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

We are having problems. He said he is confused about his feelings. So his been drinking more often. He didn't tell me he was going out last night, or any night he goes out. I work late so I need to know because our baby can't baby sit until I get off of work. Last night he went drinking instead of picking up our children. Also, last night he came house without his wedding ring. He said he would never cheat and never had cheated and that he took his ring off at work because he work in construction and he forgot to put it back on. He said if he did cheat he wouldn't have came home, he assure me that he just came home and fell asleep. I don't know what to think.

Updates

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1. True2. True.3. I been confused about my feelings too.4. How do you know he refuses to tell me about where he was? 5. Yeah, done that too. 6. I take my ring off when I work, too. Specially when I clean. 7. One time he didn't come home until 6 am, this time I found him home sleeping on the couch.

[btbc92]

I'm sorry to tell you but after reading your past comments with other users, it is safe to say that your husband by the dead sheet, plan to cheat, or he simply just wants out of the marriage. There is nothing justifiable of what he is doing, and then he wants to put all the blame on you. If he doesn't want to go to counseling, he doesn't want to talk it out, then he's only setting himself up for failure. A man that has to go to a club or bar just a drink at night is a miserable man that I will tell you. Something is going to have to give here, and I highly suggest that you leave things alone until he decides when he went to start acting like a husband. You're going to have to really sit down with him whether he likes it or not, and you're going to have to communicate this patient. You let him know that unless you really shapes up, they ain't going to be no marriage left. He has to be willing to talk to you, even if it means that he has to argue with you about it, because it's better to communicate something than nothing. Because what point is he doing anything for you, if he's not doing anything for himself? Now others have pointed out that you are working late at night, at that point if he doesn't want you working so late, he needs to step it up. Can't have it both ways.

[Asker]

He has never mention anything about my work. I only work part time, so I can take care of our family.

[btbc92]

I'm sorry but you should not have to tolerate that BS. He's giving you excuses and it sounds like to me that either he's seeing somebody else or he just wants out of that marriage. If not he more likely regret getting married at all. You don't deserve that and you deserve better. It's best that you separate yourself from him, and I don't mean to voice, I just mean just walk out the house. See if you are able to find a way of getting a place for your children, and yourself if you have kids, and just walk out. He needs to man up and decides when he wants to be a husband. If you don't then you know your answer.

[btbc92]

Batman's was at you got is deliberately doing that to you on purpose and is out of spite whatever it is that happened in that marriage, he has no forgiveness, and being resentful and bitter about it, and he's doing that to take it out on you. He wants you to beg him please. Because it shows that he's justified in what he's doing. You don't need that pain. Don't settle for any more because he's taking you for granted. And that's not love. that's someone that hates.

[btbc92]

That man*

[btbc92]

Divorce*

[btbc92]

Also to add, make sure you have ways to get legal protection just in case he wants to prevent you from leaving the house.

[Asker]

He wouldn't do that

[btbc92]

Asker, if he is like this now, don't be surprised at all. I am only giving you an idea of what you are dealing with if this doesn't change and I am saying this out of the interpersonal experience of those who were in your situation. They don't change until you make a change.

[Asker]

I'm sorry you went through that. But I'm sure my husband would never do that. He can a jerk sometimes but he isn't abusive in the least.

[Asker]

In 10 years, he has never raised his voice at me , until last night.

[btbc92]

I am not married and never been married. All I can say is be prepared if there is no change. Again, your missing the signs. But it's your choice to be continuing to be treated like that.

[Asker]

I been married for 10 years. This is the second time he drinks, in 10 years..

[btbc92]

And you mean to tell me these are not signs to you? It doesn't matter if you been married 20, 30, 40, 50 years. Anybody can walk in and still walk out. Years don't count for anything, except that you have more years left to do your spousal duties to each other. If this is the 2nd time of him drinking in the 10 years you two have been in this union, you have to pay attention to what is going on around you. Because you got a pattern. And I don't know what else your not saying, but I can feel and tell you not fully recognizing because you scared what I have to say may be true. It's not a joke to be ignoring Asker. Your asking this for a reason. And you need to pay attention.

[btbc92]

Here are the red flags and patterns you're telling me:

1. He goes out drinking without his band.
2. He did this INSTEAD of picking up your children. Neglect.
3. He's CONFUSED about his feelings? Love is love. What the hell is he talking about?
4. He refuses to tell you his whereabouts, what ANY loving spouse would do he didn't do.
5. He yells at you.
6. And that he took it off because he works in construction. Which I know is bull. My father has done the heavy lifting when working, I know people who worked in construction and they never took that off. ANYBODY who takes it off, and leaves it off is a SIGN that there IS NO MARRIAGE.
7. Finally, he didn't just start this once. But twice.

He lied and you know deep in your heart he did. But because you have a baby, for your child's sake you don't want it to be true. I understand how your feeling and its scary, hurtful and it causes confusion and anguish as if you are the one at fault. You are not at FAULT. Do you understand me? You are NOT at FAULT. But you will be if you continue to be in denial. And the one who will suffer is the children. You better confront your husband if he wants to divorce and get it over with. Before you find out he already done what he shouldn't have.

[Asker]

I don't think someone will be physically abusive just because they got drunk one time.

[btbc92]

I didn't say he was physically abusive. But he is abusing you psychologically and mentally if not verbally if he lashed out like that. I am talking about if you don't separate from him and have him man up, he will still treat you this way. Men respect women who have authority. You are being too accommodating, too passive, kind, etc think you're being a good wife this way, and in truth, he doesn't respect it. I am not telling you he is a bad husband. I am telling you that he is not being a good husband and spouse and father to you or your kids when he's doing all of this. I have warned my friends about the same thing when they went through their marriage. They did the same you do, and their ex-husbands never respected them. Do you know when they finally tried to do something? When finally they walked out.

[Asker]

Hm I done that before. I walked out before, and he did something to get me back. Now he is the one wanting to walk out and now it's my turn to try and get my husband back. Why is that so hard for you to believe?

[btbc92]

I am telling you once again. A man who behaves like that wants out of the marriage. He just doesn't know if he should or shouldn't stay, and if anything he is staying because you have children now. That's it. If this was another case, it wouldn't have been like that for this long. You can't continue like that and expect it to get better by itself. It doesn't. Marriage as you should already know in a decade takes work AND deliberate effort. He doesn't want to counsel, he turns to the bottle and takes it out on you. There is nothing you can do for him. But there is something you can do for yourself, and that is making sure your okay and that your children are okay. Because it'swhen all of you are out of the picture is when it will wake him UP. If your all physically present he thinks its 'safe' its okay to do what I want attitude. But when you go to momma and pappa's house and he sees everything is packed, he will PANIC. Look for you, and when he calls, you tell this THIS: "Until your ass shapes up and start acting like a husband to me, I and the kids are not going to be there. I want to make our marriage work. But you ignore me, take off the ring, have the nerve not to pick up our kids, go drinking doing who knows what, claim you're not out there cheating, but you don't even want to really talk. You don't want to counsel. Your pride and ego are affecting our marriage. And enough is enough. We have a baby and X amount of children that need taking care of. I know you're stressed by I don't deserve that treatment. So you figure that out since you don't know what to feel anymore." That's all, Asker. If you don't shape up, put your foot down, take charge as the wife, and now the mother of his kids, he will walk all over you.

[btbc92]

Now if you want to live with that pain and heartache, that's you. That's your marriage. I cannot tell you how to run it. But it sure as hell would not be me. I can be meek, gentle and all that stuff you do, but I know when to use my mouth and command respect. Actions speak louder than words. And his actions don't line up.

[btbc92]

Asker I CAN tell by what your saying in this marriage, you don't love yourself enough to see what kind of person you got. He is behaving like a child. A grown man steps up and takes care of his family. He talks it out with his wife. He doesn't lash out at her, he argues fairly. He doesn't go around doing a disappearing act. He doesn't just say anything to his wife. He makes sure the kids are safe and home. He checks up on you and the children. He will do whatever would make it work as long as it is morally sound. And if that means going to counseling, something. What I really want to know is why do you condone it? It is not your job to try to please him. You done enough. You did nothing wrong for him to treat you like s***. He did that of his own free will. You had nothing to do with his bad behavior. This is all on him. He needs to grow up. And you need to stop coddling him.

[Asker]

A man, like if men aren't individuals. If you NEED to command respect then you aren't respectable and I can see why. You seem to view men like serving slaves, that need to behave the way you want. I don't view my husband in that way. The feelings that he has been having I had before. I'm not an ugly woman, I had my doubts when other men approach me and try to sweet talk me. But my husband has giving me reasons to stay.

[btbc92]

The biggest mistake is if you went straight back after you did that the first time, then you screwed it up. You wait a year if that's what it takes. You don't go straight back because he pulls the heartstrings and you feel sorry for him so your back in less than 24 hours. That's exactly what my friends did, and they got worse with every time they tried. Because they didn't heed my warnings.

[Asker]

What part of " he is trying to walk out" didn't you understand? Why is it so hard for you to believe that husbands can leave their wives? 😂😂

[btbc92]

"A man, like if men aren't individuals. If you NEED to command respect then you aren't respectable and I can see why. You seem to view men like serving slaves, that need to behave the way you want. I don't view my husband in that way. The feelings that he has been having I had before. I'm not an ugly woman, I had my doubts when other men approach me and try to sweet talk me. But my husband has giving me reasons to stay."

Here is my question to you Asker since you think of that of me: Are you not the wife or are you a girlfriend he can just toss after he is bored? And yet your slave working for a man who is not even respecting you, his own family, or himself. You're supposed to be subservient to each OTHER equally. You have the authority as the wife, as he has the authority as the husband. You do not control yourself, as he doesn't control just himself. If he is refusing to listen to you, then your wasted 10 years of your time catering to somebody who is unappreciative. I already told you before. He is not a bad man. But he is doing bad things. And you're allowing it. No, he never gave you reasons to stay. You gave your own self reasons to stay and that is not to not feel lonely and be alone. I know. Because my friends did the same. That is how much they loved their husbands. But their husbands didn't love them enough, and they didn't love themselves enough to step up and do something about it. Because apparently your methods are not working.

[Asker]

What part of "he is always gives me reasons to stay" didn't you understand? He respects me. He has done so much for me.

[btbc92]

Asker, do you want him to leave you? If the wanted to work it out he shouldn't be doing this, point blink. When you get married, you get married for this, it's do or die. And with this virus going around it is literally testing people's relationships and marriages. And many are badly failing enough. I am trying to tell you how to hold your marriage down pack the way it needs to be. He is a grown-ass man, he shouldn't need you or I or anybody else to tell him what he needs to do. But because you're the wife, you're the one he will have to answer to. And I am pretty certain a few others have also expressed this.

[Asker]

What part of "he is always gives me reasons to stay" didn't you understand? He respects me. When I told him I didn't want children until we had a house. He got me a house. When I asked him to stop talking to his female friends, he did. When I asked him to defend me from his family, he did. Now that he needs me to support him, I'm not would to walk out on him. I'll give him reasons to stay, just like he has given me reason to stay when I had doubts.

[btbc92]

What I understand asker is that you condone abusive behaviors for favors. What I am telling you is what any marriage counselor or professional [bad enough I AM NOT one] would tell you. I am seeing signs and patterns where you feel obligated to deal with it because 'he did so much and I do this'. That is signs of abuse. I am telling you this as a victim of domestic abuse myself. I ain't telling you to leave him. I am telling you to stop tolerating it. It's his problem if he gets mad, which is what your more scared of. Have courage. And don't be afraid and stop using comical emojis to hide. If I was your mother, I would have told you the same thing. You need to stop putting yourself down. Because you are in a toxic marriage and it is not changing much. But I can you refuse to listen. I for one refuse to see the reality.

[Asker]

😂😂 abusive behaviors? I guess we are abusive to each other. I never been out drinking at night because I don't like drinking but I done other things.

[btbc92]

I don't care if he gives you the entire world. If he is treating like that and you allow it, it's your choice. More than an half of users and enough males have already told you as I have. And you don't even like the female opinions who told you the same.

[Asker]

90% of the time he treats me well. He had to work very hard to buy a house, actions speak louder that words.

[Asker]

It's not about money or the things he buys, it's about the effort he is doing.

[btbc92]

As I told you before Asker:

I don't care if he buys you a brand new car
I don't care if he gives you all of his money
I don't care if he got you a large mansion
I don't care if he got you new clothes
or jewerly
or kids
if he's fantastic in be
makes you feel like a queen
takes you on vacations
WHATEVER!

But it goes on there drinking
neglects to pick up your kids
doesn't call to tell you where he's at
takes off his ring
doesn't want marriage counseling
fights with you
confused about his feelings

You are in trouble with your marriage. Now if you like that dysfunction. Go ahead and enjoy it. Suffer if you wish. But the ones who paying for it is your kids. I already told you I grew up with that dysfunction. I would be damned if it was me and my kids. I don't care if we had 20 years. I would not settle for it or pick a man who does. And neither would I expect a husband of mine to allow it either.

[Asker]

😂 I told you already, it's not about the money. You expect perfecting from a your partners who aren't perfect. You don't let your partners breath, and honestly I would absolutely hate to be in a relation with you. I can see you grew up in a dysfunctional family, I didn't. My parents loved each other, they made mistakes and learnt to forgive.

[btbc92]

It's not about effort Asker. It's about how you are being treated. That is way more important than just effort. Anybody can put effort. Your the one talking about how he does all these things. But he can't pick up your kids, don't talk to you when he needed, no counseling, and takes off his ring. Marriage is not about your feelings. It's about doing your duties as spouses. Your kids need you and him and you two are doing this. You have a pattern and a history of problems. Your take off your ring to work but you put it back on, right? He leaves it off for hours. It ain't like he didn't know. It's not LIKE he didn't KNOW. Marriage is a Marriage. When you two made your vows your feelings and his have 0 to do with what you vowed to do. For sickness and in health, for richer or poorer for better or for WORSE. If this is your worse, and he can't handle it or even if you couldn't whether before, now and in the future, you two should have thought about that BEFORE getting married. And having children. It is not privileged for neither of you to be a*holes to each other if you are. But you are the one complaining and posting up your marital business online for everyone to see and hear. That is number 1. Number 2, is that you again have this twice going on. Which should have stopped the very first time he done this. Now if he says he wants to stop, you have to make sure you hold him to it or prepare for it to happen again. And if it happens for the 3rd time, then shame on you. Because you were told.

[btbc92]

Perfection? No, its not about perfection it is about MARRIAGE. What you're not getting Asker, it is about MARRIAGE, it is about unity and respect, and love and forgiveness, and being in true holy matrimony. BUT you will have your bliss and you will have your hell. That is part of marriage, it is normal. But what your talking about is not normal. At least not for a stable marriage. He doesn't want, and I will say it once more until you listen and get it in your head, to get counseling, but he doesn't change his ways and does that, you, again, have a problem. You see how you liked @Massageman, when he told you about a referral. THAT is what you should be doing. That is what I AM TALKING about. THAT is taking charge and authority in your marriage. DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT. And I honestly don't care if you would. Because I would not be with a husband who drinks. And neither somebody who behaves like that. That's why they go to you because you allow it but then complain about what they're doing. I think a lot of you people enjoy that stuff and drama.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You two are having troubles, obviously. And while he may or may not be cheating, I don't think that matters at this point.

If I were you, I'd be looking at divorce. This gives me bad vibes. It's a huge concern he went out drinking instead of picking up your guys' children. That's not just something that affects you adults - the kids know something isn't right between mom and dad now.

You don't have to stay together, but for the sake of your children, you two need to figure shit out.

He needs to stop treating the bottle as a therapist, that's for sure.

[Massageman]

You should both be concerned, not so much for the ring per se, but for the whole relationship.
He's "confused". He said he wouldn't cheat but if he did - - - - - If he really would NOT, why the "but" in his statement? You "don't know what to think". You might want to call 1-800-A-FAMILY for a referral to a counselor. In the meantime, check out my latest MyTake "5 ways to really understand each other- REALLY". We will be praying for your marriage. Good luck.

[An_Impulse]

i can't even imagine what that man is going tru.. give him some slacks would you? get off his back.. he is working, he comes home at night. he says i wouldn't cheat on you even if i were i wouldn't have come home.. thats honest i'd say.

and why would he remove his ring if he wants to cheat on you? ladies care about that ring more than you know.

[Asker]

I didn't say anything to him, other than tell him to let the baby sitter know next time. I'm wondering how to approach it. I know his upset, I just don't know what do to make him happy again.

[An_Impulse]

when did you asked him 'how are you?' last time? or said 'i love you.'

or did something nice for him without having a reason?

[Asker]

I asked him if he had fun and he got very angry. 😑 I had to get our children so I had to leave.

[An_Impulse]

that seemed like to me "sarcastic" question.. :) i do think you ride that guy.

next time he gets home. without talking prepare him a sandwich. give him a beer. and hug him while he sits down..
first thing is so important... without talking.

[Asker]

I wasn't being sarcastic, tho, he was home and he felt asleep in the couch. And like I said, I got home from work. I needed to pick up our children. It was 1 am, he was suppose to pick them up at 6pm. They were about to call the cps on us.

[An_Impulse]

i dont know what to say to you anymore..

you are still going on about the kid the cops yourself.. but never paying any attention to guy..

[Asker]

The thing that bothers me the most is that he didn't tell the baby sitter or anyone. And I am nice to him. I always make him dinner and lunch, sometimes we have a few drinks together. Honestly, I don't know what happened yesterday.

[An_Impulse]

its not your job to do the cooking.. but it is both of your and your husbands job to keep eachother happy..

thats what im not understanding..
whenever the kid gets in the picture.. you gals lost interest in the men.. im not saying you lost interest in him.. i dont know him. he might have cheated you too.. i seriously dont know it.. but lets wait and see.. if he keeps doing these things. sit down and have a serious conversation between you two.

[Asker]

You said not to say anything and do something nice for him. And that's what I did. All I asked was if he had fun (I wasn't being sarcastic) He had dinner (a full meal, not just a sandwich) while I went to pick up our children.

[An_Impulse]

seriously asking. what was first thought in your mind?

[Asker]

Well, I work part time and I don't mind cooking and cleaning. Hm, I am very focus on my children to tell you the truth. They are my world. And when ever we argue is usually about them or about the our responsibilities. When ever we talk is about our children or about our responsibilities. I think you hit it on the nail. What do you suggest? Because I still care about him a lot.

[An_Impulse]

im asking what did you really think when you see him without his ring? first thought crossed from your mind? what was it?

[Asker]

My first thought was that he didn't want to be with me anymore and that he didn't love me anymore. But then I thought, he wouldn't have come home if he didn't want to be with me. Then he showed me he had his ring on his necklace.

[An_Impulse]

okay then. just let him vent out a little bit. try to take care of him. he might have hard time struggling with life :( i hope it all goes well.

[Asker]

Yeah, I really hope so, too.

[ValleyofDrakes]

Personally keeping a ring on all the time is uncomfortable.

It doesn't necessarily mean anything just for it to simply be off.

Take it from a guy who likes to wear like 5 rings.

[Asker]

I know, but what I don't understand is why didn't he put it back on when he went to the bar. He said he forgot... For like 5 hours..

[ValleyofDrakes]

I can't help you with that part.

But personally if it's a ring on my finger I don't mind putting it on or taking off as often as I like, married or not.

It's my ring.

[Asker]

☺ I understand.

[boggboss]

Well cheating or not its obvious you two need to have a talk about this as there is hinestly no way to know if he cheated or not but his feelings are not looking good towards the marriage

[Asker]

What should I do. I mean, I understand why he wants to drink. I would drink too. All I want is for him to be happy. But it hurts so much to thing that maybe his happiness isn't with me anymore.

[boggboss]

Sit down and talk maybe go therapy for coupls

[Asker]

That's the thing, he never wants to talk and he refuses to see a marriage counselor or go to a therapy for couples.

[boggboss]

Then kiss your marriage good bye if you can't even communicate

[Asker]

That's what I was afraid of. I asked him to ask to talk with me but he said he needed time.

[_SOARER]

You two need to sit down and be honest about your problems and create a plan to overcome them together.
If you can't honestly self-reflect and reflect on your relationship its doomed. If you can recognize the problems within yourself then you can work on recognizing the problems in your relationship.

I hope you two can overcome your problems and remain together <3

[Anonymous]

then he's not cheating. another way to tell is smell his clothes?

sometimes a person is out of love without cheating.

probably he's stressed about life?

[Asker]

I don't think he cheated on me. Maybe that was his intention and it worries me, too. If he did or does cheat, then at least I'll know that he really doesn't want to be with me. And I'll wish him well. I'm more concern that he is unhappy and stressed.

[Opinion Owner]

what made you work late? I think guys prefer their wife not to be home late. at least he does not to do everything at home alone.

[Asker]

I work part time, from 5pm to 1 am..

[Asker]

I work 2- 3 days a week, so it's not like I'm never home. I'm always at home, I cook and clean and take care of my family.

[Opinion Owner]

what of work is that? it's illegal for women to work until morning.

[Opinion Owner]

what kind*

[Asker]

It's not illegal for women to work late.

[Opinion Owner]

it is illegal. in economics, women aren't allowed to do that. since it's for their safety.

anyway I think your husband may not like your job. better find other better job. 2-3 days of work for you isn't a matter. but for his a matter.

no good husband willing their wife work at these hours. it is weird to have a wife working at weird time and days.

[Asker]

I'm not doing anything illegal.

[Opinion Owner]

you're being ignorant. well I did tell you how men feel who no women by their side during bed time. so good luck.

[Asker]

😂 sure lady.

[Liam_Hayden]

If he is a construction worker it can be dangerous to wear a ring, so that part might be legitimate. But drinking and not picking up the kids is not acceptable behavior.

[Asker]

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I know sometimes he takes off his ring but he always puts it back. Yesterday was different, maybe he did forget to put the ring back because he was drinking.

[Darcia]

No way, it’s just a ring. Let him go out what you should be concerned about is him going out drinking due to this pandemic. Lol, he could’ve came home with coronavirus instead of a missing ring.

[AmeerX]

May I know what is happening? Why do you have problems in your marriage?

You should not be concerned about cheating. He is your loving husband after all

[Asker]

He works a lot. We don't see each other anymore. He saids he is confused.

[AmeerX]

He does that for you. What is the reason, the real reason

[Asker]

That's the reason, he works a lot he is always tired and grumpy when he comes home, I understand he is doing this for us. But we never see each other anymore. I really miss him, I rather have less money and more time with him. But he don't understand or he doesn't believe me or he doesn't want to.

[AmeerX]

Do you have kids?
I think if you have 3-4 children you will be happier too.
I am sure your husband will not cheat. 99% he won't. Trust him with that.
As for his tiredness may be he is workaholic. Some people are like that including myself. If I have work I spend entire day till 1 am till it is done.
At least he has a loving caring wife. You should support him make him happy please

[Asker]

We have 2 children. I can't have anymore for medical reasons. Well it hurts to see him work so much, his knees and feet are always swallow.

[AmeerX]

You know that and still doubt him. He is your husband. You shpuld tend to him and help him achieve his mission.
May be create a plan to invest in a business or buy an apartment and rent out to someone.
Help him retire early. Most people think working too long is alright but in reality aim should be reduce workload by the end of the decade.

Any way your immediate concern about his cheating suspect is clearly a mistake. He works for you and your children.
Be there for him if you can. Be a loving wife and provide him psychological relief.
A good wife brings 100 years of fortune.

And I am personally impressed you said you would rather do with less then see him suffer.
I wish more wives like you were there. You remind me of my mom.

Unfortunately, most wives of bureaucrats and goverment officials want money no matter what and happy to have more through Corruption and bribery

[AmeerX]

They don't care if a necklace is from feaud or corruption in funds or from extortion. Those women want money and nothing else

[Asker]

I actually started working part time to help him. I don't know if that's what triggered his drinking.

[AmeerX]

How can that trigger his drinking? What type of work?

[Asker]

Maybe, I haven't noticed all the pressure he is on, because I been focus on all the pressure I am on. Two years ago I remembered that I was molested as a child. I wasn't able to tell him until two weeks ago. Because he is always too tired and I didn't want to bother him. For a very long time he would think I was crying because of something he did, but that wasn't the case at all.

[AmeerX]

Don't worry you are in safe hands there. Be supportive if each other. He is after all your strong man

[Asker]

Yeah, I guess only time will tell. He said he isn't sure about his feelings. But last night he got jealous of my manager, all I said was that I liked working with him. I don't know.

[AmeerX]

Where do you work?
I think he is having a problem worrying just like you thought he might cheat

[Asker]

At work at retail part time. Two-three days a week.

[Asker]

I didn't think he was cheating, it could have been other reasons. Like he didn't want to be with me anymore.. etc. That's why I asked..

[AmeerX]

Your husband loves you and that is all that matters.
And may be you should work towards economic independence as a family

[Asker]

He said he isn't sure if he loves me anymore.

[AmeerX]

What where did that come from?

[AmeerX]

Of course he loves you :)
He just doesn't feel you are in to him that much with the doubts

[AmeerX]

Don't give up please

[Asker]

He went out drinking again. He saids he doesn't love me anymore. He just told me.

[AmeerX]

Oh I feel upset. I didn't think it would go that way and so soon

[Thatsamazing]

What do you mean "without" it. Like he lost it? Then ask where it is and what happened to it. Or you simply mean, "without it" ON. If it's the second then, then I don't think I can yawn loudly enough at this question. If it's the first then, then yeah be concerned because it's like a couple hundred bucks to replace.

[Asker]

He didn't have it on, he had it on it's necklace.

[Thatsamazing]

I don't see the problem.

[Asker]

Really? You don't think it meant anything else?

[Thatsamazing]

Again, I don't see the problem. It's his ring, not yours. He can wear it, or not, at his own discretion.

[Asker]

It's a wedding ring.

[Thatsamazing]

I know what it is.

[Asker]

So then why isn't he okay with me not taking off my ring and keeping it off?

[Thatsamazing]

Because you're his sexual property. He isn't your sexual property-- you are his sexual property. Humans are animals. It's not complicated.

[Asker]

Oh, I didn't know you were crazy. Sorry.

[Thatsamazing]

(pats you on the head like a good little pet) I'm not.

[Crankor]

Its possible he was just testing the waters but i doubt it will end well

[Asker]

Testing the waters? What does that mean?

[Crankor]

Seeing if he can still attract women at a bar or somewhere of the sort

[Asker]

Oh, I'm sure he could. I don't understand why would he think otherwise.

[lsjr16]

Yes cause that means he took it over to let girls he is single. Especially if he always leave home with the ring

[Asker]

He always used to wear his ring. It's not about that.

[Ming_Ling]

I agree why else would a man take off his ring. To let people kno he’s single

[coffeewithcream]

Naw. It happens all the time.
Wedding rings fall off after the 6th beer.

[Asker]

What does that mean?

[Thatsamazing]

I already told you what it means.

[Asker]

Yeah yeah you think women are sexual properties...

[Thatsamazing]

Sigh. It's not that simple, I was merely being concise, but whatever you want to tell yourself, sis.

[Agem123]

Looks like he's lying.

If your gut is telling you he's cheating, he probably is.

[Asker]

How you figure that out?

[Agem123]

As you said you been having problems, also he's going out without letting you know. Also, the ring thing. Never been married but looks shady to me.

[KrakenAttackin]

You need to learn hot to keep your man's attention.

[Richyrichrichy]

Don't trust him. I almost guarantee he's cheating. I think you know this deep down.

[Asker]

I guess..

[Richyrichrichy]

When you ask him what he's been up to, listen to how he answers. Lies are actually pretty easy to pick apart. What's his reason for taking his ring off?

[Asker]

He works in construction. He said it bothered him so he put on his necklace and forgot about it.

[G3tAClue]

Yes, you should be concerned about it. Ask him.

[sheikalana]

I would be concerned if it was my husband.

[babybae96]

I’d have a talk with him

[Anonymous]

He's miserable in his marriage

[OddBeMe]

Um, yeah, I’d be.

[asshole_]

Nope