Do you think getting closure after a break up is necessary?

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mindNsoul · Accepted Answer

It's a nice thing to do but depending on the receiver. Because sometimes some people just need a clean cut. To save yourself some headache and toxicity.

I personally don't need it. I was never broken up with but if it happened I think my dignity won't allow me to pursue a closure if not volunteeringly given. And I can imagine it would hurt if I really loved the person. But at the same time I don't believe that my peace of mind is something that comes from another person. It comes from within. I just need to deal with it and move on. Simply let go.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

No, if anything, sometimes it's not even worth it.

Closure implies you want to know why your ex ended things for you for whatever reason. And I get that; I do. I used to be that person that wanted to know why a guy ghosted me, why I was cheated on, or why I wasn't good enough for said guy... etc.

It's not worth it.
If anything, finding out the answer might cause more harm than good to yourself.

It's better just to move on and accept it's over. The fact they left you is all the closure you really need.

Chris_u006 · Accepted Answer

What is important to do after a breakup is to move on ni matter how painful it is in the beginning, trust me when I say you will heal, unless you are an elder who never experienced it in the past in those scenarios you'll get heartbreak and that can either lead to you commiting suicide later on or that shock might trigger a heartattack.
You either move on from a breakup or you'll be a miserable depressed person, closure is still not needed you need to cry out on someones shoulder and getting comforted.

jdonhere77 · Accepted Answer

I just broke up with some 11 days ago or it was Mutual we just both broke up with each other. The travesty is this we may never talk again. Closure would be that we had one last talk one last chance to compromise one last chance to pour our heart out to one another and change our actions toward one another. Then if it don't work out, I believe in I might could use the word closure

DailyFairy · Answer

I dont knw about others, but i thk closure is important at least from my experience. His reason was not making sense n he didn't wanna talk again after that, which left me confused n heartbroken. He completely ignored me n treating me like we never had a thing. Just few days later he got another girl.

I blamed myself maybe i wasn't pretty enough, good enough for him, why he exchanged me for another too soon. Wish he would hv been honest with me. Explaining n break it off in good terms maybe i wouldn't have taken it badly. Am still hurt till now. Just sucking it up like a girl.

Singlechic · Answer

I think it depends on the situation. I just went through a breakup with my ex of 5 years. We never got closure and I think it was for the better. If I would have tried to get closure he would have pulled me back into a toxic relationship. That had happened multiple times with him. So this last time I decided to end the cycle and just block him. Best decision I ever made!

guesswhoseback · Answer

It isn’t necessary if someone crossed the line and did something fundamentally wrong (cheated, being physically abusive, stole money, lied about something major). The other person is leaving out of self respect. No closure necessary. GTFO in that situation.

But more often one person loses interest, chemistry isn’t there anymore, etc. Don’t expect the more interested person to be able to read your mind when this happens. The respectful thing to do is be tactfully honest.

Hazelstar99 · Answer

Yes, but you don't need your ex for that. Closure is something that you give to yourself. If your ex was able to give you closure, then you wouldn't be breaking up in the first place.

jgokgotit · Answer

No because you are giving an ex power over you if you are waiting for closure. It is up to the person initiating the breakup to explain why or not and all the asking and pleading in the world will not change their mind.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Vindictive people use the lack of closure as a way to hurt the other. It's also a method of control used my them to keep you invested in the relationship even after it ends.

Best to just walk away and consider that chapter of your story to be closed. Start working on the next.

HawkPerception · Answer

It's not necessary. The only things that are necessary in life are food, water, oxygen and shelter. You won't necessarily get closure in every relationship you have. Get over it.

TOTEMPLASTER · Answer

If a relationship ends, it was for a reason, even if it wasn't obvious.
Figure out what it was, learn from it, and move on.
"Closure" is not required if you are a sentient and stable person, regardless of your age. If you are a self-absorbed narcissist, then. "Yes", you will require this emotional balm.
I would suggest ringing up you booty-call friend and have them come over, get drunk with you, and then screw each other's brains out. That is closure at its best.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

Depends. If you mean getting closure from the actual person, it’s really not imperative on traditional issues. Like cheating because now we have thousands of answers from GaG, to reddit, Quora and a couple hundred google articles that someone can find solace in.

Chriscunning · Answer

Other.

Closure can definitely help you finalize things mentally, it can then help you move on. But in some cases you never get closure. So this takes a lot longer to move on, but it's not necessary. It's just makes things more complicated emotionally.

rjroy3 · Answer

I think closure is an internal process that takes place and is based on the acceptance of what is rather than fighting reality. The idea of closure by most is that you CAN'T move on without something from the other person. That i disagree with.

Yes you need closure. But closure is accepting what happened, releasing the bad emotions and moving on from a better place. Not getting something from your ex.

TXDOT01 · Answer

Closure? Or do you mean break up sex with random hook ups as friends with benefits? When it’s over, it’s over. Move on, find someone else. Likely if you’re just dating (hopefully not married) your partner has found an interest in someone else or you’re just not doing it for them anymore. I’ve been on both sides of the break up and cutting ties is just the best thing to do. Prolonging a messy relationship is just drama with nothing good coming out of it.

R3DthatDude · Answer

If you sense that you need it, then do what you need to do. I don’t like it when people bring baggage into the relationship because they still have feelings or they’re still upset from the last relationship. If you’re not ready or need to settle things with ex, just do it. Don’t go into a relationship knowing you got residue issues from the last relationship.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

No, of course closure is nice. But sometimes you gotta accept with certain relationships you’re not going to get that closure.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

No. Some things should be obvious for mature people. If I'm avoiding them and don't want even exchange few words, it should be obvious I don't want them as friends and have zero desire to hear completely retarded phrases like "it's everything your fault"..."you cared about your feelings never about mine"..."You have to sacrifice you life for me and my daughter"...

Shazzab · Answer

Not everyone needs it but I definitely do. I'd say dont force it if it's not necessary because most times you won't hear what you were hoping you'd hear

Lanabear119 · Answer

No I don’t. Only because what’s done is done. Why give it a second thought when it’s only going to make you think about it even more. When the main goal is to move on.

Fenny8 · Answer

If it was toxic then no, but if it was it mutual then yeah it can help me move on.

YaBoiJacob · Answer

Closure is very important, even if it was a relationship you resented. it allows you to let go of everything in front of that person, basically burning bridges.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Sometimes no answer is an answer. Let that sink in.

Finchie40 · Answer

If it isn t a mutual break up then yes , it’s selfish of the partner that ends a relationship without really An explanation

pjf1958 · Answer

No, its emotionally counterintuitive. Unless that individual is emotionally mature beyond their years. It will become an emotional minefield,

Citizenkirk · Answer

If you are connected too someone, the way a computer is connected to a wall socket, you should really unplug, before plunging into a new socket.

Avicenna · Answer

Depends on the person. Some people recover right away, some take a long time and need to be convinced it's over.

DCooper · Answer

Ultimately closure has to come from within anyway. So is it necessary to have some kind of closing argument with the ex? No.

Slim57 · Answer

Unfortunately it's not necessary but if they truly cared for you in the first place here would have been closure

Browneye57 · Answer

What exactly do YOU think 'closure' means?  That's one of those wildly used feel-good words. But what does it really mean? Yer gonna be all happy and shit? I doubt it.

Jersey2 · Answer

No. When it was over, I moved on and never really looked back even if I thought of them every now and then I just cut all emotional ties and moved on.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, my crush should dump her husband and let me help her get over him and date her, he is not good enough for her

DesolateRain · Answer

It's not nesscary, but it would help speed up the healing process A LOT.

guywho · Answer

No, because if they left suddenly they left for a unreasonable reason.

Just_Me89 · Answer

Yes. If there is still angst surrounding your last relationship you'll carry that into the next.

douride2 · Answer

Most times a person knows why the relationship ended. The last thing I want after a breakup is more unneeded contact.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

If both parties knew it was doomed to fail no. Otherwise yes, at least for me. I want to know what happened between my partner and me before I go and make the same mistake again.

pigoat · Answer

It would be nice But some people don't need it

icequeen03 · Answer

Closure would be good, but I don't think it's needed

Smegskull · Answer

Yes we function by learning from things and building a predictable model of our reality if we are prevented from that it makes the endever a waste of time.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Closure? You tell her to GTFO, that's enough closure.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Usually, getting far away ASAP is the best course of action.

simplesarah · Answer

Yeah but I never get it 😂

Juxtapose · Answer

Speaking as someone who has been ghosted.. YES!

loveslongnails · Answer

I thought a break up IS closure! ?

Iron_Man · Answer

Take some time off and move onto the next girl

legalboxers · Answer

always some form of closure helps..

misanthropistkev · Answer

Yes which is why I block women after I ghost them

msc545 · Answer

Just leave.

Jazzydude · Answer

It is important, but not always possible

redhornbill · Answer

Closure from yourself

ThroughWithLove · Answer

unnecessary remainders of drama and angst.

ScotishLegend · Answer

Yes It helps bonding

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