Me and my ex boyfriend dated for nearly 3 years till he broke up with me few months ago
He broke it off because I kept accusing him of cheating and always looking through his phone and checking all his social media accounts He got sick of it
So when he broke it off, I immediately blocked him on everything (facebook, instagram, whatsapp and his number)
Today he messaged me through a different account and said "Why did u block me on everything? Thats so immature. Can you please unblock me?"
My thoughts on this are that he broke up with you because he is hoping that will make you (promise to) change your behaviour i. e. stop the things you were doing. He might care about you a lot and was hoping the breakup would make you decide to change who you are. Then he would come back.
Now he realizes that you'd rather find someone who'll not make a big deal about your behaviour, than someone who wants you to bury your head in the sand to his questionable actions (I assume there are good reasons why you acted this way).
He is also upset because it (your blocking him) means that even if you did change into the laid back person he wants, he won't be able to get you back.
Because he needed time to think and some peace and quite from all your drama. Like if my girl keeps going trough my stuff, on daily basis non stop and accuse me of such things I'm just leave without saying anything because that constant untrust is annoying. And she'd done that once block me like what are you five? We are married, have a kid and we live in the same house? So i blocked her back. On everything. I blocked her credit card. I took her car. And didn't talk to her for a month. The kid kind was having fun.
She begged practically for me to talk to her so did and I've told her see there is only you and there will be only you the mother of my child. Doubting me, not trusting me gives me a sign to not trust you and probs the one who's cheating is you!
So don't do that stuff. Plain stupid. I'm kind bet 5 dollars your are the one cheating or going to cheat. No hard feelings just psychology.
1. As you already know, you're a horrible person and your shame is both apparent and justified.
2. You probably hirt his ego and he probably still has feelings for you, but this is not a "guy" thing. Most people get offended when blocked, not just guys... Pretty sure you already knew that.
3. He might habe dumped you to teach you a lesson, you know, "stop accusing me and violating my privacy you crazy pathetic bitch". That means he was aiming at trying to get back together and blocking him spoiled his plans. Just an option.
In this case, since he broke up with you it's because he got offended.
But it's the same reason a girl in the same situation would have.
Think like that "I've I have an abusive boyfriend who forces himself into invading my privacy and I break up with him and he blocked me, how would I feel?"
For some people the answer is "how dare the fucking bastard block me, I should have blocked and I didn't."
Congratulations, just because you were an asshole doesn't mean he doesn't get to be an asshole as well.
Well you can do anything you want to do that's the best part about having a choice but let me ask you this 100% do you know if it's true that he was cheating on you just because we think something sometime doesn't mean that we are right I mean usually I wouldn't think a person would go to those extremes if you didn't know for sure you are right but anyway I think you made a good point and I think I would have done the exact same thing as you
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Anonymous
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You had on right to go through his accounts or phone. He should be the one blocking you. Yet, he's being the bigger person here and you are acting like a big baby. I don't even no why he wasn't to still talk to you, god if I had a boyfriend like you I would kick him to the curb.
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Anonymous
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LOL you're the one that really needs to reexamine your behavior here. Constantly accusing him of cheating? Breaking his privacy? He likely broke up with you to force you to grow up. Only children act the way you did. He might care about you and want to maintain contact.. But i am happy for him dodging a bullet with you. What you did to him was basically abuse.
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Anonymous
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Immature is one way of putting it.
I don’t like the term. But his use of the word works here.
Really it just need obnoxious. It’s a rather peculiar reaction albeit stereotypical from women. They are often very quick to burn all bridges at a moments notice. It’s just a weird toxic behaviour, but “immature” works here.
Sometimes there are loose ends which require cooperation after a break up. Usually mutual financial matters. If there aren't any of those, blocking is fine and should be done by both sides.
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