Do you think it's becoming easier for people to break up then to make up?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes, people have become way more selfish and only really think of themselves , No one is really
Content anymore Like I always say, Social media has played a big part in it , Brainwashing people to have stricter Preferences on what they will accept
And not accept in someone , making people believe every guy and girl are cheaters and whores. etc, Making people believe grass is greener on the other side, it also Made it easier for someone to enter into your life and show interest by Secretly chatting with them on smartphones that are Glued to basically everyone’s hip , So a lot more temptations thrown at people , Girls , that I never thought I see or hear from again from my past easily entered back into my life on Social apps saying things to me that they didn’t have the courage to say to me in person back then , saying things to tempt Me to pretty much have sex with them , Pretty much everyone of my exes has reached out to me to see me again , So Best thing I did was Put my phone down and not make it a priority in my life. Cuz there was a time I was constantly on my phone , So When I am in a relationship with someone, I don’t even think of my phone out of respect for my partner , I realized I didn’t that shit when I am in a relationship , Cuz I always think how would I feel if my partner was secretly chatting with their exes or potential guys wanted to be with her behind my back and saying things she wanted to hear , cuz girls were doing that same shit to me so stopping those temptations honestly sad to say isn’t easy , just like it wasn’t easy for my ex that ended up cheating on me with a co worker that was secretly flirting with her on her phone behind my back And it’s sad to say you can’t tell someone to get off their phone and remove themselves from those apps, cuz they just say you’re insecure , when really it’s nothing To do with insecurities, it’s more to do with respect for each other , but most people don’t see it that way , they always use the you don’t Trust me card , which is a crock of shit , if people actually put their phones down and looked at the world around them they would realize social media is a load of bullshit and it was mainly created to make money by brainwashing people to think they should be living a certain way and dressing a certain way or look a certain way , it’s sad on how this world has become and how people are glue to a device that is charging us a pretty penny to have , Over a grand for a fucking phone? But they know people
Will buy them Cuz it’s an addiction and something we need nowadays for work or for safety etc. So smartphones basically got us by the balls just like this Government has us by the balls , I can honestly say I could easily win those contest that say win a million dollars if you live in this cabin for 3 months or more with no smartphone , I would so be able to do it lol Where do I sign lol. But bottom line I feel relationships and trust for each other is going to be hard to come by

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

I would say it is, yes. A lot of people don't have the desire, patience or motivation to fight through the problems that eventually rise in a relationship. Dating apps and hookup culture amplifies it because rather than encouraging people to grow and deal with shortcomings, we are encouraging others to dump at the first sign of trouble and then find someone who doesn't have that problem. At least until a problem with them arises and it is rinse and repeat. Our dopamine sensors are shot to hell and back and it is all about instant gratification as opposed to delayed fulfillment.

Making up means face to face discussion and unwanted conflicts. People by nature don't like conflict. The payoff of delayed gratification will always be great because it was earned and not given to us quick. Fixing shit as a couple is not only a testament to the relationship and adversity it faced, but you both grow as individuals and as a couple. Through shared experience as opposed to running away when it got hard.

kidvid80 · Accepted Answer

yes. people it seems don't wanna put effort in to much these days. relationships take effort from both sides. i never get how people can jump from person to person so fast or just walk away so easily. or they choose not to communicate so they do whole ghosting thing after time is put in with them? that tells me they will never have a healthy stable relationship in their life. todays society has such a light outlook on sex people act like it just shaking hands? then have 3,4,5 kids by different partners. dating oh this takes effort let me run to someone else till that takes effort and repeat. i'm confused how this is all accepted as normal by so many?

JuliaStyles · Accepted Answer

When bad feelings first set in you have to get together and talk about it. Don't let the day end and go to bed until you get your differences settled or it will just fester and you will have all these bad thoughts that may not be true. That's just the way we think. So don't let the sun go down on your anger. Small things can lead to a big breakup. Then you will be miserable and you may not make up but break up.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

"I don't want to see you again. Goodbye" Sent via text. What could be easier?

Enjo70 · Answer

Breaking up relationships is far too easy nowadays. Some couples treat commitments with total disrespect to the relationship, their partners and themselves. It seems the days of working at a relationship, particularly Marriage, have become obsolete and people just take the easy way out, as they see it. When children are involved I personally think it is selfish, but I am a product of a failed marriage so I may see things a little differently to some others. A relationship is something that entails some commitment, effort, patience and understanding. If you feel these things are hard or not worth the idea of putting yourself and a partner through it, then at least advise your partner. Through being honest, She/He can make an informed decision whether they wish to pursue a relationship with you or not. At the very least there it may save a lot of stress, heartache and perhaps even anger if things go belly up. There ARE people out there who would prefer no commitment, so find one of then instead of breaking somebody’s heart. I personally think the effort to try to keep a relationship which does still have some love involved, well worth it at the end of the day. Better to have two happy winners than two failures because of laziness. In saying all that, there are circumstances in which separating is definitely the more appropriate action. Good luck to all those who might currently be finding things a little difficult. Life is like that sometimes.

jmr2191 · Answer

Absolutely it is easier to break up and in today's culture, I've seen the trend skew heavily toward breaking up. People prioritize their own feelings and immediate gratification so much that they just walk away from a potentially great thing. In addition, in a culture more interested in hookups than long term relationships or marriage, maintaining such a connection long term is not a priority for many anymore. It's very sad to see, but it is what it is. Until the culture changes, this will be commonplace.

Lliam · Answer

As far as I can make out, it's been easy to get a divorce at least since the 1950s.

Also, religion continues to play less and less of a role in society, so maybe people take vows less seriously as time marches on. Devout Catholics, for example, were allowed to get annulments but not divorces. To get a legal divorce and then remarry was considered bigamy in the eyes of God.

Is each generation more spoiled, selfish and privileged than the one before? Possibly, once people moved from self-sustainable agrarian life-styles and into cities.

Has consumerism played a role? Consumerism encourages people to covet new, shinier, more "up to date" things. That may effect relationships, as well. People are bombarded by images of beautiful, sometimes unrealistically beautiful, people. Notice how insecure so many people, especially women, are about their bodies. I suppose people could be lured by the candy store instead of valuing more substantial human qualities.

ohshee · Answer

All of our kids nowadays I've been brought up in a throwaway world if it breaks through it away get a new one you do the same thing with relationships and so very sad because what makes a beautiful relationship is when you have to work for it just like everything else in this world it makes you appreciate something even more is when you have to work to buy it yourself we have to work to keep it yourself you have to work to make something work it's a beautiful outcome sometimes that's a beautiful sometimes it's just not going to work please step into it and battle to make it work I think it is so easy for young kids nowadays to walk away from everything I know for me growing up if I wanted something I had to work for it if something broke I had to fix it I didn't have the option to go and throw it away and buy something new it just makes you respect a lot of things a lot differently and a lot deeper

msbrightness · Answer

When was the last time you heard ANYONE even MENTION, let alone PROMOTE making up?
How would lawyers make their money if people gave up on arguing/fighting?
You know how simple life is when you are with someone you are used to? Nothing expensive to buy to impress them - so the entire 'isolate you to drive you to buy things you never needed' industry is based on that.
Heck, even 2nd and 3rd houses - who'd need that if you were happy with the one you have?
Plus, working less, lower property prices, lower GDP... since GDP became the measure of success, breaking any coupe or marriage apart became the method to raise it, to extract more work from all involved (and get children into debt).
It is that sinister.

Mel2021 · Answer

I’ve definitely found this considering my ex breaking up me this year due to the pandemic causing me stress and being at a low point. Instead of trying to talk things through or be more direct, he became passive aggressive and ended up leaving me instead of trying to work things out. I know my stress didn’t make me perfect but I feel a lot of relationships during the pandemic ended too soon

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Nowadays it’s easier for people to break up. A text message here, a text message there & with one quick text message BOOM your relationship is over.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

Why get heavly involved if you're just toss it away
Ok if someone cheats, there's absolutely no resolution, but if you're not in it for the long, going through the ups downs, I'm mean everything then don't bother ✌️

DJB72 · Answer

Western society is the "consumer" mindset. Everything is about self-gratification, from food portion sizes to who we date.

Apps like tinder and some beforehand have devalued human relationships to the same level as a jar of marmite - love it/hate it.

When societies have collapsed historically they have reached that point. This one only differs due to the size.

FreyaRed · Answer

It's easier to break up when you notice there is no willingness for compromises in mind of your partner. Most people in my age group are mentally inflexible, get easily addicted to everything, promise the blue out of heaven and break those promises at same day.

GoldenTulip · Answer

I guess break-ups are easier these days... and i think it is because of social media being too prominent in the picture of our lives.. most want to act cool and don't lose face. Therefore break-up easily with arguments.. fo find a potential replacement. And then their old relationship is ruined for good, which is pretty sad... i think some good relationships get ruined for potential make-ups because of our stubborn behaviours.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

In consumerist societies there is what I've seen called the "throwaway mentality" that is applied to things as well as to people: use it for all it's worth when it's new, pay no attention to any instructions or suggestions for care or maintenance, and when it breaks just toss it out.

Anonymous · Answer

Most of the time, it's just not worth making up. I learned that the hard way. Once you identify the pattern of problem-argument-breakup-change-makeup-backtothesamedamnproblem, just let it go. That's a narcissist's MO, and you'll drive yourself insane trying to fix something they're doing on purpose just to push your buttons.

loves2learn · Answer

Yes. Very much so. People don’t know how to communicate so they fight and break up rather than working it out.

Tunasub · Answer

It's less work, to make up requires one of of both parties to admit they were wrong or the cause of whatever they may be going through. Then pride, stubbornness and just plain ole "Fuck you, I ain't admitting shit" takes over and the beginning of the end begins.

sheikalana · Answer

I feel like nowadays people are not willing to fight for things to work out and they rather chose the easy way which is breaking things off.

Supernormal · Answer

People tend to give up easily on people these days. But i dont. But honestly sometimes i do especially if she's becoming so pragmatic. Some ladies just change behaviours off what they've been adviced by company of friends. I think thats shitty. In such a dynamo, i show myslef the exit - end of relatioship, period

Splatzonelover1 · Answer

It better not break up with a toxic person then and known that toxic relationship happend for reasons but always has more trust issues with some women they do with some men. That why I find getting into a relationship and see a women and get a bit jealous of because of my past experience with some relationship that I did have.

Anonymous · Answer

People are "becoming" more lazy and selfish is what it is. They don't want to actually "work" on a relationship. It's not working, so I'll just move on, mentality. Really sad. Actually one of the reasons I CHOOSE to stay single.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Isn't that how society has gone? Everything is easier to replace than to fix. Your jumper gets a hole, throw it and head to Primark for a new one.
Why put in the hard graft of working through your problems when you can jump on a device, connect with 100 new potential partners a day.

KatherineJ · Answer

I have a feeling that we as a society are way too willing to just move on to the next shiny thing (or person), rather than trying to actually work out problems.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Sadly yes, break ups are a lot more common these days and the easiest way to get out of a relationship...
When there is real love and a real marriage, the word break up is not available cause they'll always make up!

ariadneR · Answer

I think so. People don't like to fix problems. So if a little hardship comes around, they bail. Then they wonder how their grandparents had such long lasting marriages

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

People just don't appreciate each other sadly I've seen it a lot and just give up way to easy what do they do move on to a new person.

BLMUSER · Answer

It seems to me so many people need compassion and understanding. They don't need someone who is trying to "fix" them. Unfortunately, most people aren't compassionate and understanding. And they are trying to "fix" the other person, in the name of help.

It's too much work and we don't have the qualities of compassion and understanding. It's just easier to break up.

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

I haven't been keeping an eye on other people's relationships but if it's true then I don't like where the world is going.

Interstate · Answer

Yes! People would rather give up than to work to keep what they had that was so great.

Jaylaaa2000 · Answer

Not really. At my age and younger.  Yes we can hide behind text, but usually the next day we gonna see them in school or college.  And it's usually just as ugly as any break up

AdithyaR · Answer

Breaking up has akways been the easier option. Nowadays it's just more socially normalised. Staying and working through issues is hella difficult and takes time and effort.

whatdoyouwantt · Answer

Everyones breaking up nowadays, there’s no patience anymore and willing to compromise.

LemiaOfTheCodes · Answer

In this cyber age Defunetly considering some people can't face their partner to talk things though.

exitseven · Answer

I think it is much easier to break up. You just ghost the other person annnnd PROBLEM SOLVED.

Jjpayne · Answer

I think so, it's almost becoming fashionable to do so and it's also becoming like trying out a car before you buy it or leasing a car so you are like sorry this is not for me, can I try another model? Which marriage is for better or worse... Till death do you part... Not till it's uncomfortable and not what I thought they was going to be part

007kingifrit · Answer

yes i think technology rewards narrow minded short sighted breakups. its too easy to block and ignore eachother

Coolkat12345 · Answer

Hahahaha lol I think it’s easier to make up but it depends on the person and how they are handling other factors in life and it varied from person to person.

LebanonRose · Answer

Sometimes, but it should get better, seeing the true faces of others is better than being fooled by how you thought they are... Time heals everything, but in my opinion once you get rid of toxic people and know their true faces, you should be happy you got it off your shoulders.

Floppy2112 · Answer

I think we live in the 'upside down', nothing makes much sense anymore.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Breakup. Granted, there need not be anything wrong in a relationship for it to end.

Better_off_here · Answer

sadly too many people seem to use technology to break up with someone, instead of face to face. so in today's world it sure it easier.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Well, I've always felt that the irony in this situation is that those people who SHOULD break up never do (until the police get involved.)

douride2 · Answer

It has always been easy to breakup for some people. Making up is harder.

BoobMan · Answer

I think it depends on who you're talking about. I think some folks have orders of magnitude more dating options than they would have had a couple of generations ago. So for those people, the cost of breaking up has dropped a LOT and the benefits of being single are much greater than they used to be. But for a lot of people--probably the majority--that isn't going to be the case.

Chris_u006 · Answer

Feels like most people are closer to quitter than anything else not only in relationships.

Qtr2Dawn · Answer

MAKE UP - 35 years old now; current relationship is my longest. Together eight years this June! :-)

Massageman · Answer

Of course. With the government being so condescending to this group and that, with the groups, especially, God's institution of marriage is under siege!

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

I honestly don’t know! I’ve only been allowed to date for two years, so I have NO idea what it was like before.

StunningANDbrave · Answer

With the general culture being about chasing the next thing you can get a dopamine hit from coupled with apps that let people have thousands of other people to choose from I'd say yes. Relationships are essentially people using other people for fun then moving on to the next thing that they think is fun with little more depth involved than that.

Waldoe · Answer

it's very easy to say "Goodbye"... but not easy to get through...

princeofromance · Answer

Break up / Then Make Up with the Hot Make Up Sex Included.

Shaggy881 · Answer

With the technology we have today, absolutely. People can now take the easy way out and not have to actually tell the person face to face.

krin_m · Answer

I do like make-up sex but not the pain of break-up. Hmmm.. if only there was a way to experience the pleasure of make-up sex without the pain of break-up! 🤔

footslave21 · Answer

Yes, I guess that's happening more often now. People are becoming less accomodating and less tolerant plus everyone is under lot of other stress like work, social pressures etc, which at times leads them to sacrifice relations.

shiril · Answer

Culture across globe is changing, everyone is looking for 2 minute noodles...

cuddlyAndy41 · Answer

social media makes it too easy to escape without a real conversation

ToastyOats · Answer

I can't relate. As a high functioning autiste the emotional states of illogical beings will, at worst, just slightly annoy me. It's their life and in the end our mortal dance is meaningless.

Anonymous · Answer

As @LemiaOfTheCodes can testify breaking up via message leaves a lot of unanswered questions and leave scars opens.

visio9 · Answer

it easy to people to say "I love you" without having any feelings

K-I-S-S · Answer

Yeah, unfriending on social media is like the ultimate breakup finishing move.

Wiredone · Answer

I really do believe that. Many of my friends have been divorced at least once for whatever reason.

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