He's never going to commit himself to me, so why am I here, please read the whole thing even update the question?

[Anonymous]

So I I literally just got my wake up call, like earlier in this morning. I finally see now, what everyone has been saying. My friends with benefits really only keeps me around for his convenience. He tells me, how he misses me when he returns back after a year or a few months of him being absent. But he's only saying that, because he miss the sex, not me. He says things just to keep me interested! he sure do know how to mix and crumble up my feelings. But truth is. I'm no longer crying, I'm no longer going to be mad and I'm definitely am not putting time and energy into him anymore. I can sense, that there is another female around him, who he is more emotionally and physically attracted to. So I'm not needed, we don't even talk the same. And the last thing, that I don't want to found out, that he is in a relationship with someone. But anyways, the crazy thing is, he knows that I have feelings for him, I'm sure he's aware of that. But (2021) makes it officially 8 years! and we are still in the same place. But truth is, if he we're to ask me later on down the road to date him. I would tell him No. I don't truth him, nor do I want a cheater or a male whore. I'm to old, for this SHIT! and it's time to move on. He already made up his mind. So I'm moving on. Some people have mention to me how I should sleep with him to pull back his energy to me. Yes! that would work, but I shouldn't have to f*** a guy to get him back to me. I have been his sex slave for years as it was. I'm done. His new BITCH or old one, can keep him. It hurts to know, that I actually wanted him and wanted a relationship with this F-boy. I'm upset more with myself- because 8 years has been nothing, and is really hard to hate him because of the amount love I do have for him. And it's difficult try not to cry. Because I invested all this time and I get nothing. But No-more! I'm dome.

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How do you officially stop loving someone and caring?

[Nazgol]

You're not gonna like hearing this, but what did you expect from this kind of arrangement? I know how it feels trust me, I was in the same boat. Until I realized how dumb it is and I really have to get over it because there's nothing good in it. He doesn't care about me , so I shouldn't either. Enjoy the fun times , and learn to let go from now on. You can't get back something that's over. If he made up his mind there's nothing you can do to change it. He just doesn't care, especially the same amount as you

[Asker]

Your so right!!! I most recently removed them off of my social media not necessarily blocked but I removed him. And tbh! It felt good just to do that much!! 😊😊😊

[Nazgol]

See it works

[Nazgol]

And one takeaway: these things usually dont turn into relationships

[Asker]

Okay I just found out something! I want you to answer this. I'm going to send you a link in a few

[Asker]

Why is my Past friends with benefits confused about who he wants to date. He's been MIA with me, so why make me an option? ↗ 0 and read the whole thing if you can sorry it's a bit too long. But I really like your advice and what you said on this question.

[FilmGuy93]

You just decide to stop. You stop responding to their messages. Stop feeding into the relationship. You just decide to stop caring. It's not easy, but it is that simple

[Asker]

Yeah I most recently removed him from my social media please not yet blocked him but I did remove him

[FilmGuy93]

I see. Best of luck!

[Asker]

Okay I'm going to send you a link.. I just found out something

[FilmGuy93]

Okay, send it over when you get the chance

[Asker]

Why is my Past friends with benefits confused about who he wants to date. He's been MIA with me, so why make me an option? ↗

[Asker]

And really read the whole thing and even the update to question. Sorry it's a little bit long. but I seriously need someones opinion.

[FilmGuy93]

I've already answered this question once. What you have to do is obvious; stop interacting with the guy. You are overthinking this situation.

[Asker]

Should I be happy, confused or worried? ↗ READ THIS please

[SwankyJon]

You definitely need to move on after wasting 8 years

[Asker]

Right! We haven't had sex since 2020. But I messaged him yesterday night and asked him what he was doing and watched him up early happy 4th. And I also said! That I was hitting up his town because I was going to a party. He said, Oh, have fun to baby. Like, wtf! then I sent him a message after that. And asked when he would be back in town. I didn't get anything. So I waited an hour or so! And deleted it. So when he did see what I delete it he didn't ask any questions nor did he respond or write back. But yet, he is on IG chatting it up with someone else. He usually message me on Sundays asking me what am I doing. But nothing! So there is -no point. I mean after all I was the one that cut him off last year, and he didn't once reach out like he usually would do. So that was a clear sign! 🤷

[Asker]

All I want to do! Is forget about him and move on for once and for all.

[SwankyJon]

You're clearly a back up for him. It sounds like you should block/remove him from your accounts so you can't write to him again when you're tempted

[Asker]

Remind you, I never once pressured him about dating me. But I guess I shouldn't expect him to date someone who he has had more than enough. But I was at least expecting him to get rid of his hoes and commit to me... Or tell me that if he liked me or not. But 8 years yeah! I'm going on 30! I can't do what I did when I was younger. Like, don't get me wrong! I enjoy sex with him. But I'm not after the sex with him anymore - I wanted him for him. But truth is, I get that impression that he's not interested in me anymore, and if so. Not enough. But I'm no longer going to be interested in. Sooo it's whatever.

[Asker]

Read your inbox

[Asker]

Why is my Past friends with benefits confused about who he wants to date. He's been MIA with me, so why make me an option? ↗ Can you answer this question sorry it's a bit too long but I really need your opinion and your thoughts. Thanks

[Asker]

Should I be happy, confused or worried? ↗ HELP

[dumazzs]

Eewww don't let him touch you.

[Asker]

I haven't since 2020...