Why is my ex trying to get me to stay friends with him?

Question

My ex said “you helped me in a bad time in my life i don’t want us to be mad at each other”  But i don’t see a real reason for being friends we were never friends to begin with

Anon621 · Accepted Answer

He probably wants to keep the relationship for different potential reasons:
1) he wants to keep you as a side option for an on and off relationship
2) he genuinely still values your friendship you had during the relationship and he wants to keep the friendship
3) he is desperate not to lose you but won't admit it directly so he wants to be friends instead and then will secretly be relieved if you take him back in a relationship again or just be relieved your not out of his life completely
4) he could have other motives such as keeping you as a friend to develop a friends with benefits relationship or maybe a platonic friendship (where you basically cuddle and things like that)

JackSmy · Accepted Answer

Some break up, thinking they had something better, and then, when it isn't, those DOUCHBAGS come back, with the "we're still friends, right?" to kind of get back with you, thinking you are stupid, and will take their loser, lame ass back, when he dumped you, and it didn't work out!
Some manipulating fcks, use "EMOTIONAL" things, and play on your natural, caring, loving feelings, to "SNEAK" back, and make you think it will be different!!
Lying pricks!! Manipulative bastards!!

I loved that you maybe realized that, saying "I don't see a real reason for being friends. . "

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I personally like being friends with exes, as long as we were nice to each other till the end and it ended with respect (not cheating or so).
The people I date/are in relationships with are a type of friend, sometimes we get to know each other super well, more than some other friends I have. I don't see why I would stop the relation all together just because we did not fit as a couple and don't have sex or do romantic stuff together anymore.

Blackcupcake · Accepted Answer

If you weren’t friends to begin with then don’t do it. Maybe he’s trying to confuse you, by being around, see if you’re over him and possibly manipulate you into getting back with him..

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is a way for him to minimize the guilt about whatever he has done to you.

Neyila · Answer

It's not a bitter thing and I don't think he's trying to manipulate you. He probably genuinely appreciated what you did for him and wants to keep you in his life. There is nothing wrong with that.

It is now up to you. Don't feel pressured to be friends if you don't want to, but there's nothing wrong with being friends with your ex. At the end of the day, do what makes you happy and he is not entitled to your friendship.

ohshee · Answer

Like I have said I think your I'll be a beautiful girl it sounds like you have a heart of gold and you probably helped him so many times and he's just needed like that he knows he can never get that any place else that's just what it sounds like me I don't have any idea because I know neither one of you but with all the questions that I've answered of yours you kind of have painted a picture that's what I feel

Xitomyth · Answer

Because you got him through a bad time, meaning that even though it's over between you two, you thinks he may need you to do it again, he may be latching on to the one good thing that happened to him. He might just need you to be his friend and act as a stable point, a rock, an anchor, etc. to keep him grounded.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Ask yourself this, would you miss him if he is no longer around.
Would you miss talking to him, do you seek advice from him, do you value his opinion.
What if anything can he offer you to make your life better?
Sense of humor, compassion, good listener?
If the answer is no, then just move on.
It sort of sounds like all of the above was missing in the first place.

Ukrainianbuddafly · Answer

Because he wants to string you along for the nights he thinks he can dial you up for a quick and easy bootycall. Let's be honest, if he appreciated it that much why are y'all no longer together now that he isn't in his situation anymore? Uh huh!

he-takes-a-part · Answer

There can be subjective interpretations to the word friends. Add to that coz he is your ex so trust comes complimentary. I think it would benefit both ways. Anyway if there ain’t no harm and you have control over yourself then why not at least give it a try baby.

tatianamay · Answer

Woah, do not go to that area. CUT OFF TIES WITH HIM. He either just wants sex or wants to feel less guilty about the bad things he did to you. You do not need him, move on!

Gatorademebiatch · Answer

Tell him no hun, or just say yes and then ignore him haha

MrOracle · Answer

He's definitely feeling some guilt for some reason, and is hoping to assuage that guilt by "being friends" with you.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

He wants the door to a relationship with you to exist. Sounds desperate, I feel bad for him wanting to waste his time like that. He's your Ex, makes no sense

Browneye57 · Answer

Yeah, what's the point?
The ONLY reason he stays connected is a simple false hope that one day you'll cave and give him sex again. LOSER. What's called a 'beta-orbiter'. He's still hanging onto a thread.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

He sees you as a space to fill, when he can't find nothing else ✌️

DJB72 · Answer

Depending how long you were together he may feel there was a friendship built alongside the relationship. Honestly, if there wasn't it was doomed from the start...

Stoner710 · Answer

Chance of s future relationship he likes to be friends with you even though it doesn’t work out it in a relationship form. Gamer buddies many reasons

ariadneR · Answer

Don't be friends with him. At the end of the day you know what's best for you.  Bye bye 👋

menina · Answer

Maybe it's because he thinks you guys are better off as friends than a couple. But if you don't want to be friends with him, then cut him off.

nojokecarmichael · Answer

I had the exact same issue and my ex was shitty and I became shitty being around him. sounds like he might try to keep you around to use as support or just on the back burner.

dudeinohio · Answer

Nah. Never stay friends with an ex. Plus, it would be weird when you got into a new relationship. Having the ex as a friend could be a deal breaker for a new boyfriend.

Tunasub · Answer

Maybe he feels that since you two were more than friends that being just friends wouldn't be a big deal. Being friendly and being friends are 2 separate things and he may have them mixed up in his head.

ARealHonestHuman · Answer

Cuz that pussy made him think of you so much now he wants you as friends cuz he still has little feeling for u.

rachel776 · Answer

when i am friends with an ex- we usually end up having sex again at some point

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

Well maybe he wants to start being friends. If you don't just don't, but yeah yknow people can just make friends.

oncpl · Answer

You have absolutely no desire and intention to recreat and maintain relations with your ex, therefore you don't have to think on it. otherwise, you both will again be in srtained life.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

You know for most variables this is what it’s all about

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

He wants to be a hookup for sure or Friends with Benefits

Omario2049 · Answer

I have a wild idea, just hear me out... How about u just ask him? I know it's insane but just give it a shot. After all, what do u have to loose?

boombastik · Answer

Probably makes him feel better if he hasn't lost you completely. It's an ego thing

ayomanwya · Answer

He really wants to be friends because you helped him out when things were bad in his life and he appreciates that. Whatever happened in your relationship he doesn’t want you to be mad

DWornock · Answer

He told you he has no hard feelings and doesn't want you to have any either. Can you not let it go and stop being angry?

Massageman · Answer

Not into olive branches when they are offered, are you?

K-I-S-S · Answer

Just say no and move on with your life best for both. Clearly he has some use for you in his plans.

Likes2drive · Answer

I guess he thought of you as a friend since it was with benefits I guess

Pterodon · Answer

So he can drift in and out of your life using you as a backup plan when he can’t find someone else

LivingExample · Answer

Maybe he is trying to correct that mistake. Not being Friends may be the reason it didn’t work. Friendship should be the Foundation of a Relationship!

innerman · Answer

tell him your current boyfriend is overprotective and an insecure lad... he don’t want any ex boyfriends near you

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Cause he's tryin to set up a friends with benefits situation

Open2It · Answer

You don't have to be 'mad' at him but you don't have to be friends or even talk with him anymore either

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

Women are weird with wanting the emotional but never allowing it

BlacklightShade · Answer

Set up for a future booty call

ALewis30 · Answer

He might still have feelings for you. But if you don't want him around then don't

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

If u r not comfortable u dont have to oblige.. tell him thankyou and close the chapter

scentoflavender · Answer

It's just what people do

SleepyFlower · Answer

That's understandable just don't be his friend

JosyJosy · Answer

Cause that's what exes do.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

To make him feel better.

serious · Answer

If you are not interested then you can refuse.

spartan55 · Answer

Uh, then don't... duh.

In_Trance · Answer

that way, it's an open door to smash in the future

princeofromance · Answer

Friends with Benefits

ManHater · Answer

Can I be your friend?

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

Because ex's are pathetic losers, with no lives

michael1469 · Answer

So you can be his booty call ot side piece.

lycanthrope3 · Answer

I am friends with nearly all my exes on facebook

Calgarydirty69 · Answer

he justs want's friendship, get over yourself

msc545 · Answer

ask him

jadson69 · Answer

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