I added friend request to my ex when we were together but he didn't approve it. now it's been 2 weeks we broke up, why did he approved it?

[Anonymous]

he approved the friend request but he didn't say anything at all.

[Anonymous]

I mean this kindly, but why would he say anything to you? If you’re broken up, there’s no reason to expect him to message you and go back and forth in the dms. Honestly I think adding him wasn’t a good idea anyway, because how are you supposed to move on? Seeing what he’s up to every day, if he meets someone else, etc, will only set you back..

[Asker]

reread my question.

[Opinion Owner]

I get your question. Mine is, what are you seeking from this?

[Asker]

we are no longer together, why he accepted my request? he should've delete my request instead accepted it.

[Opinion Owner]

Well I mean, it’s probably his way of being cordial. Like he doesn’t haven’t anything against you because you broke up. But if it’s unhelpful to your moving on, then I’d delete him. Better out of sight out of mind. At least for me.

[Asker]

😔 I don't know if I should remove him or not. I still want him

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve learned that it’s never a good idea to go back to an ex. I know you have those thoughts, like what if things are different, I can change, maybe she’s changed, the situation is a bit different, etc etc etc.. But I can almost guarantee that those same issues you two had before, or whatever caused the break would pop right back up. A few days, weeks, months, is not enough time to really change, or for things to be very different. I’ve done the back and forth in the past, because I missed them too much or I felt like things could change but it neverrr works, no matter how many times we go back n forth. You’d be better served working on yourself, healing and moving on.

[Asker]

:( thank you for your advice. I'll keep in mind