Was it easy getting over/away from the person who took your virginity?

[DizzyDesii]

Like did you guys breakup but easily still get sexual sometime after the breakup? Was it because you still loved them? Or was it that you were just so used to them? Did they always make their way back to you when you tried to move on in life from them?
Its crazy because I was happy to breakup and get away from him, but he was such a smooth talker and i guess i still had a bit of love for him and i just always took him back when he came sweet talking me. I’d like to blame it on being young and naive but it also felt like some weird stockholm syndrome. I wanted to get away but i was also okay if i didn't. It was so toxic good Lord. It took about 5 years to truly escape.
#FeelFreeToList

[Vesuvius87]

It was easier after I realized he didn't just use me physically but he actually faked the whole relationship from the beginning and was after my growing food business and grandma's money. He wanted to get 1/2 of my income and share; 1/2 of everything without marriage. In addition, this user (not a player because at least players use women for sex but walk away afterwards, not prolonged this act for years) owes me $1,223 that I'll never get back. He lied about his age in the beginning too and confessed to me many years later.

Do I miss him? Hells nope. How on earth can I miss a total fraudster, someone I never knew, who never loved me from the start, who used as a commodity? My psychologist classified this person as a narcissist-sociopath? If anything I'm super glad I got rid of this monster.

[Vesuvius87]

Just like your ex boyfriend... this user was a smooth talker too and love bomb with too many loving, sweet text messages on my cell in the beginning. Eventually his real persona came out.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn im so sorry this happened to you to

[Vesuvius87]

It's ok. Don't feel bad. The good news is they can't keep the act forever. They get discovered in the end. Everything comes to light.

[DizzyDesii]

Yes most have shown their true colors within 1-3 months. But sadly i fell for two idiots who hid their true colors for the whole first 6 months

[Vesuvius87]

For me this is the easiest to forget... just for the fact that I loved someone that never existed; a fictitious character he created. So if I loved his character and not the real him then there is nothing to miss.

[DizzyDesii]

Ooo good point

[Vesuvius87]

I would've rather prefer the regular event where they loved you but end up cheating on you. At least there were emotions once. At least they are average people, not sociopaths.

[Vesuvius87]

Thank you for motivating me in my next question. If you want to answer it's this:
Which heartbreak or love deception would you rather have? ↗

[melanieeeB]

Since I had my first time with someone I didn't love, it was easy to get away from him.
I actually broke it up after 3 months but he kept coming back and I took him back once and never again. That was 4 years ago, but he still texted me every 5-7 months again, the last time was this January but I guess it was finally the last time he reached out to me

[DizzyDesii]

Yes they know they could come back easily back then so they just kept it up as a pattern

[melanieeeB]

Yeaaah exactly.. even when you just took them back once and realized your mistake , they still think they could come back and try it smh so annoying

[Anonymous]

I think its a bigger deal for a woman than it is for a man since woman have a physical appearance that shows. I have only done the deed to one person in my life after marriage and only taken one person out on dates in my life. I thought we would be together forever, but my ex was dating the guy I had hired to do the home repairs while I was at work. She changed the locks on me and I had to live in my van for 5 years and pay spousal support, had to buy her a house and was separated from my child. I treated her well, but hardly gave her the words to express my love for her, I helped her do repairs and took her to her medical appointments after the divorce. I have not wanted to date anyone, just be friends and look out for friends and be there for them if they have a stalker following them, etc. I don’t plan on looking for anyone for probably another 4 years since now I dedicate my time to be there for my child and go to their games, performances, etc. I would only date someone who wants to take it slow and not get in the way of my time with my child.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Yes and no.

We had a lot of chemistry but we were both the kind of people that liked being right. And it's not like we're always that kind of person, but we brought out the spicy competitive edge in each other.

He ghosted me and then when I confronted him, he admitted that he ghosted me and it hurt, but like only for 3-6 weeks. I met someone better shortly after and I fell much harder.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn he trash for that. Im glad you met someone better

[NathanDavis]

we're still best friends... we were friends first, then a couple... and then remained friends after we took different paths by mutual agreement, and when we finally did it was bittersweet

because we were young (ages 16 to 19) and although we firmly believed that it was for the best, at the moment we were unsure, and uncertain of many things but no regrets, none at all...

and here we are still, still great friends... and every time we see each other again it does feel like that longtime friends... rather than "my ex"

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao wow. I couldnt

[NathanDavis]

guess I was lucky... lol

[DizzyDesii]

Oh no i just mean that i dont wanna stay friends no matter hw good it ended

[NathanDavis]

well... we were very young so that's what I see nowadays, was much easier to remain friends with the first therefore younger relationships, than it was with the later/older ones

[Jassminee]

yes, for em I have an easy time than most people in breakups. For me me and my first boyfriend (the one who took my virginity) was young at that time about 16+. We still had a lot of growing up to do and once we grew up to about 18 years old, we both have kinda changed and wasn't like the person we first loved and we both was pretty obvious that we lost feelings so we eventually after couple more weeks broke up with a pretty decent ending like no hard feelings or anything. Since we didn't end off badly, we still keep contacts till now even though we rarely talked but we are still friends despite all this

[VarddaanKaushikk]

The girl who took my Virginity was the girl I liked a lot. We dated for a few months but it wasn't as dreamy and magical as we imagined , started to face a lot of bumos so we decided to end on a good note and remained friends. One thing I didn't tell was I really enjoyed going for it with her , she was the first and I dated a couple more girls after that but she was the best back then so I told her and we did it for a while until she found someone who was better than me. .

[DizzyDesii]

Sorry she did you dirty like that. Im sure you really loved her

[VarddaanKaushikk]

Yeah. She was my first love , it was hard to move on from that. But I'm committed now , been a couple years

[exitseven]

It was a one time mistake. I never saw her again and never really thought about her until I had to answer the question about how I lost my virginity about a hundred times since I joined GaG.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao sorry for the reminder

[exitseven]

it's okay= it was just an all around bad time.

[t-8900]

Are you accepting T-Passes? Imma start insurting those lol. I guess you could say she was pretty unforgettable. Love you Des-Des don't feel bad lol 😜

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i really dont be thinking when i make certain questions

[t-8900]

Not your fault and I don't expect you to think about it every 5 mins. I'm simply gonna do *insert T-Pass* lol. Honestly no hard feelings at all. It's cool. I was able to talk to you about it and you listened. Can't ask for more than that. All is well. 🐻👍

[Riddler1412]

Since it wasn't really a relationship, it was relatively easy. And no. I don't see her anymore. Don't even know where she is.
I'm sorry yout first time was with a person like that.

[DizzyDesii]

Well all i care about now is the next person who is hopefully my last cause i pray he's the one who can give me nothing but great experiences compared to the horrors of the past lol

[Riddler1412]

All I can guarantee, is that, it won't be the same, or worse. 😂🤣
But seriously, I do hope it does end up as great experiences.

[DizzyDesii]

Just being with someone im ready for is enough for me :)

[Phoenix98]

Nah I'm holding onto it she's gotta be something special to give that to her and I gotta love her a lot.

[DizzyDesii]

Very smart

[Phoenix98]

Yup.

[AviatorTom]

I always wonder why we say "took your virginity". She didn't take anything, I willingly gave it to her.

Anyway, your question... we had a summer fling after my first time... it wasn't her first time, and then we broke up. It was hard but I got over it.

[DizzyDesii]

Because mine was taken and i didn't give it away

[whosnumber1]

ya I was kinda hung up on her. and she cheated on me. and the dude she got together with was a dud in reality but had more experience in the sac than me obviously at the time. lol

[DizzyDesii]

Smh. She doesn't know what she's missing

[whosnumber1]

haha. she regretted it later in life. she actually married and had a kid with him but he's a lay on the couch dud. she eventually divorced him. shoulda stayed with the dog humping a football guy cuz I'm a doer and my skills are vastly improved. lol!

[DizzyDesii]

😂😂

[JLA557]

I have yet to lose it and I’m just hoping when it happens I don’t get ptsd flashbacks

[DizzyDesii]

I hope it works out when the time comes

[Jouth]

We lost our virginities to each other. It was beautiful. We actually reconnected this summer. I've fallen in love since, but I've never forgotten her. Amazing chick:)

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow. Chance of y'all getting back together?

[Jouth]

One day maybe. If we live in the same city and we're at the right place in our lives. If not, I just hope she finds the kind of love she deserves even if it's not with me. Though deep down I hope it IS with meeee

[MysticDevice]

I got over it pretty quick. It was quite easy to do once I realized she was toxic and manipulative.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats good

[MysticDevice]

It was also a highschool relationship so its not like it was gonna last anyway lol

[DizzyDesii]

A lot of my HS classmates are married so i dont believe that stuff

[MysticDevice]

Huh. I guess my school was mostly heathens then

[Anonymous]

Losing my virginity was tough because it was not my choice. I trusted the wrong group of women, let my guard down and got drugged.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i feel your pain. I didn't get drugged but i was taken advantage of because i was so naive. Im so sorry that happened to you

[Twalli]

I might marry her, so not really getting over her if we get married.

[DizzyDesii]

Aww this is beautiful

[Rudon00]

I'm still a virgin so I guess I don't technically qualify to answer this question.

[DizzyDesii]

Its good that you’re still one :)

[Rudon00]

Yes. I still believe in the institution of marriage and God's principles when it comes to. sex

[Drumlin2001]

haven't seen or spoke to her after break up. There were a couple of text exchanges months after which weren't constructive.
I'd have a coffee with her, try to unpick why it went so wrong so quickly. But I've moved on

[DizzyDesii]

At least you got closure :)

[Drumlin2001]

Never got any closure, that's the only reason why I'd meet with her.
a lot happened at the end with unexpected pregnancy, break up, miscarriage all within a few weeks. We never talked about any of it

[Alyssa11]

I think everyone’s different but I know I’m the type that will get attached. And that’s why I haven’t had sex yet. Until I met a guy who treats me well.

[DizzyDesii]

Most virgins get attached regardless but yea choose carefully

[Alyssa11]

Yes I’m the kind of person who gets very attached to people I let in but also I hardly let anyone in

[Anonymous]

Yes and every once in a while he still contacts me, he is in jail rn and won't stop calling me and I'm actually annoyed

[DizzyDesii]

Omg yes I've been through that exact thing. I don't know why they dont give up

[Anonymous]

No one has taken my virginity yet. And I don't want to give it to anyone anymore.

[DizzyDesii]

Stay smart 🙏

[Opinion Owner]

Why did you say so?

[DizzyDesii]

Because it wasn't worth it and i wish i had continued waiting at the time

[Opinion Owner]

you're right. But I've never had a boy friend until now. but why are you regret? After all, the man you love took your virginity.

[DizzyDesii]

I loved him but he pressured me into it so i gave in. I should not have to ever GIVE IN. A guy should wait til we’re both ready

[Opinion Owner]

It means that you didn't know the man you loved very well. Or he just loved you in a different way, and after he was done with you, he started applying strange pressures to get you to let him go.

[kellytheman]

The girl I lost my virginity too was a little hard for both of us cause we kept coming back to each other for sex. We are actually still friends and do have sex from time to time just for fun and relieve some stress.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea thats why i wouldn't be friends with an ex

[kellytheman]

Yeah but I think we just had sex for practice and out of boredom lol.

[loveslongnails]

After I "officially" broke up with my college girlfriend, we'd still have sex when it was convenient for both of us. There was less drama and it was obviously, only about the sex.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea we still banged and never really knew what we were. One moment im his girlfriend and one moment he had a girlfriend so I don't know

[TacosRAwesome]

Too easy it's concerning. We dated for 2 years and even lived together but at some point he wasn't behaving right (possibly cheated) and I lost all feeling towards him.

[DizzyDesii]

Well he didn't deserve you

[Andres77]

She used me.
It took me a while to figure that out.
I went back to her apartment and asked for advice. She kinda laughed in my face.
Thank you very much.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats messed up

[Andres77]

It's happened to many.
Sad but true.
Both sides do it...

[Cherry234]

It was easy for me. The guy who did it to me was kind of a jerk

[DizzyDesii]

Mine was more than a jerk but it was hard to escape

[MrsTurkleton]

Yes. We’re still friends.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow

[nawtee_me]

Yes, she wanted to get married, she was 15 and I was 17. We almost went to Mississippi to get married. At that time in Mississippi she could at 15... Not sure if that still stands in Mississippi?

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao hell if i know. Bt everyone in my city still be marrying 18-24

[Nightroads]

Probably the closest thing to a "hit it and quit it" scenario I've ever been in. Not hard to get over that.

[humpbackjack]

I’m a guy so it was way easy we weren’t dating or anything she was just some chick

[DizzyDesii]

Ahh okay

[Mangospacho]

I tried very hard to get away from her but then she married me and now I can’t get away without paying a large sum of money.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn im sorry

[Mangospacho]

I know. I was forced into marrying her.

[pink_and_inlove]

I’m still with him ofc if we were to break up though it’d be really hard though like my whole world fell apart

[DizzyDesii]

At least you seem happily in love

[jamesgoldman]

No but it's for a good reason

If she came back now... I'd happily marry her tomorrow

[DizzyDesii]

Awww

[TallAnon]

Imma be honest, don't even know her name, fucked her 3 or 4 times while I was abroad and didn't particularly care. She basically threw herself at me.

[DizzyDesii]

Woww

[moviedude714]

What do you mean she threw yourself at you?

[DizzyDesii]

@moviedude714 she was a hoe lmao

[DizzyDesii]

Or overly confident and horny

[moviedude714]

Tons of men love women like that and it should be more socially acceptable for women to be forward with men like that

[DizzyDesii]

@moviedude714 You can be forward without being a hoe

[TallAnon]

I'm just tall and white which is popular ever there, so she was into it

[moviedude714]

Well women normally never make the first move or approach guys obviously

[DizzyDesii]

@moviedude714 women may never approach you but im pretty forward when i want something. I just dont have to throw myself at the guy. Its too many options to look desperate in these streets

[moviedude714]

Have you ever approached a guy?

[DizzyDesii]

@moviedude714 yes I've approached many and was successful in all but 2

[Mehzmeh]

Yup. She was 16 and I was 11. And she end up being a baby maker. Lol. There was no love. Just a crush. Lol

[DizzyDesii]

A babymaker huh?

[Mehzmeh]

Yup. But never from me. Lol

[Wiredone]

Once she left for college I never thought about her again until I answered gag questions

[DizzyDesii]

Oh dang

[Wiredone]

When I answered the first question about losing my virginity the whole picture just came back in my head. That's one thing that I remember and it is so vivid

[moviedude714]

She's with someone else now but I'm still in contact with her on social media

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i wouldn't wanna keep in contact

[Notfabricated11]

Yeah I could've cared less, I was young. Was just happy to be in the game.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh i see

[EssenceOfLight]

No...

[DizzyDesii]

Are you okay now tho?

[EssenceOfLight]

Yes. If it was someone who just used me it would be easier.

[A_Nihilist]

Nope.

[DizzyDesii]

Are you okay now tho?

[A_Nihilist]

Yea.

[Glasgow55]

Easier call her, rather than me, I’m sure.

[Shamiah02]

Yes.

[DizzyDesii]

Lucky :)

[Shamiah02]

Not really. If ya knew the whole story, it was as lucky as it seems

[dudeinohio]

Took a few months.