Now I became sick, similar to what he experienced, I got bloodwork done and came back positive for HSV2 (genital herpes). When I asked for his test results to finalize/confirm he denied me and made a huge deal. I had to reach out to his mother, which angered him but he said he'd get the test done. Maybe I shouldn't have done that, but he's unfollowed me on everything and is extremely calm over the situation (posting pictures/videos of himself in the past, saying he doesn't hate me but it feels like it, etc).
It hurts because I never wanted this to happen.. no one would, I enjoyed our relationship enough not to delete him from it like he's doing me. I miss him and I don't know what to do, this was the longest and most compatible relationship I've ever had. I already explained if its true he could've just told me and we'd never had such a hard time... but I haven't heard anything from him since my last appointment he told me to inform him about. I don't know what to do, I messed up.
What do I do? And why is he acting this way (from your experience and perspective)?
I was diagnosed with herpes at 17. My first boyfriend cheated on me and lied about getting tested. But I’ve lived with it for 4 years now. I want you to realize you aren’t alone and you deserved better. Block him. Like you, all I wanted was to talk. I felt alone and scared. This guy is a piece of crap for not telling you. Your man should prioritize you and your mental/physical health. You are worth more. Second, I want to tell you how insignificant this is. It’s going to get sciency. There’s a 2% chance your partner could get it as long as you take Valtrex daily and use a condom. Valtrex is awesome and reduces the viral load in your body. Cool, right? I’ve taken it for 4 years and never had a second outbreak- you heard that right, in four years, I only had that one outbreak. Your life isn’t over. I’ve had two boyfriends since. I’ve had a few hookup buddies- I told them beforehand and explained the medical statistics, and they said, okay who cares? I got a condom, let’s get to it! FOUR of my best girl friends have it as well- it truly is that common. And guess what? We all take our meds, explain the science to the boys, and all of my girl friends have gotten incredible boyfriends since. Finally, I want you to realize where the stigma comes from. Decades ago, people got herpes and it was so insignificant that no one cared enough to get tested or worry. Well, a medical company realized they could profit by making it a huge deal. Their strategy: worry the public about those little cold sores and strike fear into everyone so that they could sell a treatment. Google it for the details- truly crazy how the stigma came to be. Ever wonder why they don’t test for HSV on a routine STD screening? Because it isn’t life threatening and causes emotional distress over something so common. Sorry for the long post, but I wish at 17 someone would’ve explained this to me all together <3 oh wait last thing that is great to know- anyone with a cold sore on their face? They have herpes. While type 1 (HSV1) was usually found on the mouth and type 2 (HSV2) down there, nowadays people get them interchangeably likely because oral sex is so popular. I often tell guys this: I’m a safer bet than someone who doesn’t know what they have, or who gets cold sores (aka fever blisters) on their mouth and doesn’t take meds. Also, if someone gets cold sores on their mouth which 80 percent of our population does, they are far less likely to contract hsv in a different location because it is already in their body. You got this girl.
thank you so much! This really helps, bless you!!! <3