Boyfriend is prolonging possible break up while giving me hope still?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend basically broke up with me a couple days ago. I have been discussing to him ways to fix the relationship. He said he doesn’t necessarily want to be in a relationship but in the back of my head because he hasn’t pulled the trigger and broke up with me completely I feel like there’s something that we may be able to fix and that’s totally what I want. What’s bugging me is I will get on the phone with him and explain some solutions and then he says stuff like “I don’t want to be the person to hurt you” but at the end of the day, he brought into himself. If he knew he didn’t want to be in a relationship he didn’t have to be. Why is he prolonging this and why isn’t he just pulling the triggered. I did tell him that if we do break up we aren’t speaking ever again

[Anonymous]

This is me rn with my boyfriend. I’ve tried to break up with him over him disrespecting me a couple of times, but haven’t been able to fully breakup with him. He knows this and is holding on and trying to fix things between us. The reason I can’t fully break up with him is because a part of me isn’t ready to lose him just yet. It’s hard, but I don’t want to lose my best friend even if he’s not the right man for me.

[riidges]

Sounds like he might be trying to test out something on the side and if it doesn't work out come back to you..

[Asker]

He doesn’t do that. He just flat out doesn’t like relationships. But never know.

[riidges]

I'd just start protecting yourself from the ultimate hurt. But then again I've seen and been through a lot of shit so 🤷

[riidges]

I do hope it's not that and y'all can make it work some how

[Asker]

I am at this point. And that’s why I told him once we are done, he’s cut off completely.

[riidges]

Fingers crossed for you girl

[Asker]

He agreed to waiting two weeks to decide, but he misunderstood what I said. He doesn’t understand that I am not waiting two weeks for an answer

[riidges]

That just takes my mind back to a side piece tryout.. if he wanted to be with you, labeled or not.. he'd be with you.

[Asker]

I’m not settling for a labelless bond with him. Refuse to give him what he wants. That just sets things to a point where I get used.

[riidges]

Which was my point, nobody deserves to get used

[Asker]

Because he kind of said that, he doesn’t want a title because it adds pressure, so like okay we are either together or we aren’t talking ever again

[riidges]

Id just advise doing what is best for you.

[Asker]

It’s very hard when you love someone.

[riidges]

Oh trust me, I know. I've loved and lost quite plenty. And I would never wish that pain on anyone.

[JoyGirl]

Block him.