My ex and I are best friends… ?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my girlfriend because of religion. We’re both girls, I’m religious and at that moment I felt bad everyday because I felt like a sinner. I explained everything to her and she was very understanding. In this period of 5 months I also started to lose feelings and by the time we broke up, I was over it. We decided to stay friends because we were already best friends before getting together… Now 4 months have passed since our break-up and I have a crush on another girl lets call her Amy from work. She’s straight so there’s no chance we’ll ever be a thing but my ex still gets jealous. I have told her that me and Amy are just friends but she tells me I have to choose between Her or Amy. I don’t want to lose my best friend but I also want to stay friends with the people I want. She made rules that I have to follow like: you can’t text Amy, you can’t meet up with her, you can’t make photos of her, etc. Now she also makes a problem of my other collegues. She told me that I can’t meet with them or give them too much attention until she feels better about our break up. I just don’t understand why I should have to choose between people to stay friends with her. She also made me promise that if I ever want to be together with girls again, I have to choose her even if I don’t like her. And if I date another girl, she will ruin my life. What should I do? I really don’t want to hurt her again, also because I am her only friend…

[Anonymous]

This is why you don’t date or get into a relationship with your friends - you will lose that friendship. You can consider this friendship over. It’s done. It won’t ever be what it once was. She still has feelings for you and obviously it would be hurtful for her to be around you if you’re going to be with other girls. Even if she lost feelings eventually, it still just wouldn't ever be the same (and if/when you find different partners in the future they likely wouldn't be too happy about the fact that you’re best friends with an ex so it would create more drama and issues down the line anyway). It’s better for both of you if you just end it altogether and move on, both from the friendship and relationship.

[Guy13]

Perhaps, girls were made to simply be friends and in a sexual relationship. The parts don’t even work in a natural way. Phillo (brotherly friendship/love) is appropriate. Eros (Nam-Woman). Agape (pure Holy and Creator Love).

[Guy13]

(Man-Woman)-typo.

[Birdlegs]

Wait wait wait. So you broke up with your girlfriend because you felt like a sinner because you’re gay? Wouldn’t that same thing happen if you dated some other girl?

[Wise4myage]

You never should have made that promise.

[Wise4myage]

And she sounds very toxic.

[Iron_Man]

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[In_Trance]

Huge red flag