Being dumped or rejected. Do you just fall to pieces when it happens?
Most of the yes. You will. You will feel numb and alone and empty. And the hardest part is finding a routine with out that person. But you need to cry, you need to feel it. You NEED to let your self hurt. The only way past the storm is through it. It hurts like hell, you'll probably want to die. But deleting pictures will help a lot. What you could do instead of constantly looking back at pictures, is send those pictures to someone you can trust so they can keep them. Then delete them off of your phone and then heal. And so then when you are healed (bc you will heal) you can get those pictures back from that person you sent them to. But you need to move on. And move on doesn't always mean move on to someone else it just means move on. Focus on yourself!!!
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Never been dumped before but rejected yes and cheated on. Well if you think about it, they’re all the same. We get hurt by it. The cheated on is the worst because you’re hurt by the one you thought loves you but they betrayed you anyway. All I can say is, yes I got broken in pieces but I slowly stitched myself together upon realizing that I don’t need him to make me whole. You should thank those people who hurt you because they made you stronger and a better person. People leave. Let them. You’re still here. That’s all that matters
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It’s devastating when your heart is destroyed but we can’t force someone to love us, all we can do is give to them the same way we want returned , I don’t commit to someone to be single , I remove selfishness and sacrifice for her the same way I hope she does for me , wear her shoes like I want her to wear mine , if she chooses to walk away , let her go and value your self worth , realize you deserve someone that wants to stand by your side as much as you want them by your side , We can only give what we want to receive , we can only sacrifice for someone that sacrifices for us , Love grows when 2 people become 1 and make each other their number 1 priority whether you agree or disagree with them you fix it and compromise , not run to someone else to fulfill your selfishness it’s ok to be wrong and not always right, when people stop pointing fingers at each other and realizing they aren’t perfect they will see love grow , find someone that wants to fight for you to be by their side not someone that treats you like a convenience, And with that ass of yours , I would stand by your side lol
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I honestly think it’s absolutely my matter, since I’ve been only rejected and every time is terrible like the first time. Not being accepted and not being appreciated by the person you’ve emotionally invested in is one of the worst things.
I usually feel stabbed in my back and develop stomach and back aches and lose every motivation in doing things. Sure every time I learn things about me and about my behaviour but it costed me years of suffering and a more and more evident cynicism.
I sincerely got sick of all this and decided to stop dating forever, it’s better to stay alone than to suffer like that. -
Just like with everything, it depends. The reason why we fall apart in any relationship has to do with how we feel about them, and the chemicals we release when we get around them. If someone gives you a big dopamine rush every single time you are near them and then they leave, you will go through a withdrawal period where "it's just not fair!!" If the person you are seeing doesn't cause that reaction and it's just someone you see every once in a while, then they find someone else, it's not that bad.
Love is nothing more than a chemical reaction in the brain that sort of creates an addicted to whomever we are around. Then when the novelty, buzz, or the honeymoon phase wears off, Then we don't mind if they stay or go. You will be fine eventually. In my opinion relationships become easier to go through once you realize what love actually is. -
really on the inside... yes absolutely. im broken inside the same amount everytime. it never gets easier. its not socially acceptable for me to boo hoo about it though. people are cruel and will mock me for having hurt feelings or start avoiding me. which is funny because some of those same ex friends like to complain about how men not showing their feelings is supposedly toxic masculinity. but thats just how people are. what i really try to do is hide it all inside and act like its no big deal. because thats how it gets better and i get to feel better by having fun with friends and hopefully diving into another relationship that won't be with an asshole. i assume everybody feels this way but just lie about it better than i do. So i think how you feel is actually really normal.
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Being rejected sucks.
When I was younger I used to fall for women who had boyfriends or were married - of course the caveat is that they would not tell me this until weeks later. Now I am much more cautious with women to the point of being cynical.
I have not dated in a while as I just don't like to date due to the many mind games that are played and also the stress of not knowing if the the other person feels the same. I don't like that feeling of not knowing , of being in the dark. Sometimes it feels like a lot of women enjoy playing mind games so now I am content with being single.
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From my horrible past experience I’ve learned to choose me. Honestly if someone breaks up with me I’ll feel bad but once I sleep and wake up I’ll be back to normal. I kept going back to my toxic ex until I was finally officially hurt. So now I know once something ends it ends for a reason so move on and improve yourself and learn to be happy with you and love you more ☺️ That’s my philosophy of life.
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Used to. Not any more. I just don’t let it get to me. If I do get dumped or rejected, well, there’s nothing I can do about that. Just have to learn how to let go and move on. It takes a few times, but you get used to it. More so the rejection part 😂 Getting dumped is like the ultimate “Yeah you know how happy we are together? Well that’s over now. Bye.” 😂 start playing “shot through the heart” 🤣🤣🤣 lemme tell ya. The more you can laugh about it, the easier it is to get over
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it's never fun to be dumbed or rejected but it's part of finding love. The more it happens how easier it will become to accept it. So just try to scrape yourself together and accept that it's going to happen that's the only way to make it better. Just go for it! After 3 rejections you don't give a damn about it anymore. Everything is diificult the first time we practice it but it always will get better after some practice
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No, why would I fall to pieces?
Look, If they don't want you, then they aren't as good of a match for you as you assumed they were, and you should only want a good match.
Losing your shot at a bad match should not upset you, that person just saved you the trouble of divorcing them.
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Tbh i am way over that now and i wish i learned to be like that waaaaay before! Life is too damn short to let it stop for such a small and stupid thing such as that. No body is perfect and even if they were perfect they will still get rejected because nobody knows what the fuck they want and constantly change their minds about everything constantly! Lol
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Hmmm, so that's what you call it.
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Being rejected is so much easier I have over the last two years fell in love for what I apparently now realize was the first time in my life and also got the first real dumping of my life. Oh my God it was horrible it still is kind of horrible I'm not sure if the terribleness of this was worth the bliss of that. Into a cave with my animals I've gone lol
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I used to. I haven’t really been in a relationship to be dumped that frequently, but rejection has become so frequent I have become desensitized to it.
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I don't know what it is liked to be dumped... but I would suggest to my ex's, that I've dumped, to reflect on how they did not live up to my expectations, and how to better themselves for their next partner. If you are getting rejected/dumped then you are doing something wrong. Stop and investigate what you did that led your partner to move on from you. Don't lie to yourself and say you didn't do anything. It doesn't help fix the issue. It is only an excuse.
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When someone rejects me i know it's their loss so i just move on.
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I tend to get over rejection pretty quick, but as far as being dumped goes I usually do the dumping but it always feels bad when a relationship ends.
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hell no. I shake it off within in 5 minutes and keep going and just remind myself, " SOMEONES GONNA WANNA EAT THIS ASS! " 😭
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never been through either before... but I suspect that being dumped just like that would suck a lot more, perhaps
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I’ve been rejected so much.. I have become numb to it. I don’t put all my chips in for one person like that. It’s a slower process. Some say I go in with one foot out the door already. And it’s true. My life will never be ruined by one single female
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