How to heal from separation anxiety and codependency, especially from romantic relationships?

[Anonymous]

I am going through a break up and am trying to do a bit of self discovery/exploration. I’ve noticed that this might be a trend of mine, which can contribute to my anxiety and depression. Does anyone have any tips or suggestions on how to heal and work through separation anxiety and codependency? Now that I’m single I am having a really hard time being comfortable alone. Coupling this with normal sad emotions from a break up makes it feel that much harder. Am I alone in this or is this normal to experience: to a degree?

[Anonymous]

this is a normal way to react to a breakup, even without codependency or separation anxiety. in the future, try not to make the other person your whole entire world. you have to have hobbies outside of just your partner so that way if this were to happen in the future, you wouldn't feel so lost

in the meantime, meditate on these feelings. i know it sounds stupid, but it helps

[Fe4r_Stopher]

To a degree, breakups are inherently painful. And the codependency is always a tuff habit to break. Personally, I use (unhealthy shit sometimes... But have learned from those mistakes) reality to fill the empty space. Find a hobby, a chore, the gym, another person, masterbation helps too... Believe it or not. But yeah. Staying at home and isolating will only make it worse, unfortunately. You just need something to make you feel valuable. And whatever it is, do it over and over until you don't have to be reminded of your worth. You'll just know you are.

[CuriousMufuxka]

There is no cure. The anxiety and depression was there before and will be by your side until you perish. You deal with it day to day and it wanes a bit in your mind over time.

[darline19]

you're not alone, just get some people that you could talk to, advice you, and cheer you.