Should people divorcing each other get equal settlements?

[Daniela1982]

[msc545]

In many cases maybe they should but this is an extremely complicated question.

I think in cases where one person has earned the bulk of the money or the bulk of the resources that the other person should not be entitled to an equal settlement of the aggregate money.

On the other hand the term work and the term earned are subject to interpretation and are frequently interpreted by the courts particularly when one person stays at home and cares for children which is most certainly work and the other person goes to a more traditional job which of course is also work.

Finally, because one person earns more money than the other does not necessarily mean that they are entitled in the end to more money again out of the aggregate money.

It would be nice if we had reasonable formulas for these things but we don't seem to have those and certainly Family Law Court judges are by and large not qualified to make such judgments but do so anyway and do so primarily in favor of women which has actually led to a large number of men refusing to enter into marriage because they feel it is simply too risky to do so. This also spills over into child custody and child support where again women are heavily favored by Family Law Court judges and men are subjected to unreasonable risks. Men now recognize this and this is yet another reason why many men simply refuse to get married. nobody wants to father children only to lose them and this happens to many men.

I think with this sort of ultimate result it would be incumbent upon Society to back into the decisions that are made by Family Law Court judges and try to figure out a more Equitable way of doing this so that men weren't so fearful and avoidant of marriage at this point.

I have to believe that if a whole gender is refusing to enter into marital contracts that speaks loudly to the state of Family Law Courts and marital law in general.

[Surely]

If they can split everything down the middle including the kids. Sure!

Depending on the time married. If children are involved. And if the one spouse didn’t get a good job or education because of the other. Then compensation should be expected!

[Massageman]

Absolutely- zero for each!

BTW- yes some of us DO notice the different little picture you use each week/ten days or so- as your identifier.

[Likes2drive]

I love how Dan Aykroyd can just rattle off so much stuff, that was so funny. It should be equal but it never ends up being

[TheBigGuy9]

I would say yes because no matter who did what to who and whatnot, they both agreed to be married and that’s for life. They both accepted the vows and no matter who treated who worse or does more to one another, you got married.

[MCheetah]

No. You leave with what you came in with or earned yourself.

[freewife]

In general yes. Can be complicated by children, infidelity, avarice, cruelty, control, family... but if it was an equal marriage it should be an equal divorce.

[TroyDT]

Marry a lady, have her cheat while I honor the marriage contract, and she still gets half plus alimony because my income is more substantial? No thanks.

[Jamie05rhs]

That might be a woman, be she ain't no lady.

[ArtemisSilver]

Only if they're equal contributers. Prenuptial and marriage renewal agreements are a good tool for keeping things fair and avoiding predatory divorce behavior.

[Juxtapose]

Only if you bought the shit together, otherwise he keeps his shit and she keeps her shit. Seems pretty simple to me.

[Zolly99999]

I guess it really depends on the situation..

[Jamie05rhs]

They shouldn't get anything at all.

[Lunatic1]

It depends on why they are getting divorced.