Ex says he's indifferent but says conflicting things?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with him. I couldn't deal with dating him anymore but being friends was ok. There's so many things I hate about him.

He called (even once to see if I started talking to other guys and said he wouldn't if I didn't) before talking about being friends and I've called, I think it's just the attachment I have to get rid of... being used to him nor being around.

He said he has mixed feelings. He misses me but at the same time I hurt him a lot. One minute he says he doesn't think it'll work with us jumping back into a relationship (I never said I wanted one again) and then another he's asking me what I want to do and basically talking about being together.

I could bring up me moving on and asking if he could handle me dating someone else and introducing him and the answer is no.

I can't tell at this point if he's really conflicted or just doesn't want me with someone else or moving on before him.

Does it seem like he's fighting his feelings or it's something else?

[Anonymous]

Sounds similar to my ex. He would talk about us getting married, months later he was there telling me he was in love with another girl, than he would tell me he was falling in love with me, next minute he was telling me he hates me. He would tell me he never wants to see, than he would come back.

[Asker]

do you think your ex was a narcisst?

[Opinion Owner]

Not too sure. I do know it really messed with my head and whenever I tried to call him out for his behaviour and how it was affecting me, it would result in us arguing and him not talking to me for days or even weeks.

[Asker]

That sucks and it sounds like he might have been, or at least had traits of narcicissim. Sounds like breadcrumbing

[Opinion Owner]

I say you a right

[Anonymous]

I say cut him out of your life for good, and focus on the future.

[Asker]

I will. It's just going to take getting used to even though i wanted him gone. I think about the bad times and why I don't want him back. I'm used to him still wanting to stay together and him being around. So someone acting like this and either not answering or calling back bugs tf out of me. And it's triggering my anxiety

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds good. 👍