I just need to word vomit to the void but also there's a question that's been bothering me as I've been thinking about this.
The break up happened a few days ago but was something I felt coming weeks ahead of time. As a timeline:
Pre-holiday we had wonderful night out together then I went to m family for Christmas and her family came and saw her. Upon returning things got really busy for her at work. As an side she works nights, I work days so we could only really hang out on her days off after I finished work and would usually spend from 6PM until 2 or 3 AM together or spend that night at my place. So in this case she started working 6 days a week and would get a random Tuesday off which made it hard for us to connect.
She just seemed different in texts, I could sense her pulling away and there was less passion. One night she we were able to make it work and she came over and I asked her about it and she said that at her holiday dinner I was a topic of conversation and it scared her because she realized where our relationship would be heading. I've never put pressure on our relationship or anything, but I guess the thought entered her mind.
She said she really loves me and enjoys being with me but she had a lot to think about. Well the other night was when she called and said it was best if we broke up. I asked what made her feel this was the right thing and she mentioned she had a lot she needed to do (finish school, find new job, find new place [same city] to live) while also dating me and giving our relationship the time it deserved. Which I think is fair. She also mentioned that she started feeling compatibility problems that I want to refute because I think she's using them as an excuse to make it easier for her
Where I'm at is what she needs is space and I truly feel after this rough patch of her life we can reconnect again. But why is giving her the space so hard for me? Like the solution to best help our potential relationship is do nothing and I can't
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